Honeymoon Mania: The Male Abuser's Best Weapon [Hardcover]

Donna Canfield (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: May 1995

This book was written to provide hope and inspiration to the millions of women involved in abusive relationships. Understanding the abusive relationship and the mighty fix of the abuser, the honeymoon, should provide them with a clear understanding of why they have stayed in their nightmarish relationships. Even more important, this book may help them gain the strength to seek help or get out, instead of being part of the horrifying statistics these types of relationships breed. Because it is important to get out in the safest manner possible, I discuss how to plan their escape.

If women decide to get out of your abusive relationship, their life can be good. It will take some work to get back the person they lost in the relationship, "their real self," but they will. Knowing how to carry on their new life when they do leave is very important. I want them to understand who they are, how to make it on their own, what a good relationship is like, how to choose a good partner, and the important factors involved in remarriage if they decide to remarry.

Women must stop the vicious cycle now. They must change their life before they become more emotionally or physically abused or are killed by their lover. I want abused women to see the word peace over the front door of their home each time they enter. That is what they deserve. That is what they can have.

Editorial Reviews

From the Publisher

Dr. Canfield, a noted psychotherapist and radio personality, has received nationwide praise from women who have recovered from abuse after reading this book. The book is recommended by psychologists and used by women's shelters for group therapy.

From the Inside Flap

Violence will occur at least once in two-thirds of all marriages. One out of every four women is beaten by her husband or lover on a continual basis. A man beats a woman every 12 seconds. Every day at least four women are killed. It's time to stop these maniacs!

Dr. Canfield's book concentrates on the constant honeymoons in abusive relationships and says they're the main reason women stay with their abusers. She calls the honeymoons Honeymoon Mania. She minces no words when talking about the abuser, while the empathy she shares with abused women will warm your heart. Let's look at some of the things she talks about in her book.

He beats, you, makes love to you, you stay for more. Your abuser's ability to cry and apologize after he abuses you is so dramatic; you wonder where he got his acting lessons. His most powerful weapon, however, is his ability to make up to you after each abusive incident. Everyone enjoys a honeymoon, so why not forgive him? Whether you were nonverbally, verbally, physically, or sexually abused, you feel confused after he starts showering you with flowers, candy, candelit dinners, even trips. If you thought about leaving, how could you leave him now, after he convinces you he loves you and needs you? And after all, he said he would never, never abuse you again.

Women who are not abused do not have as many honeymoons as you do. But you will discover that you are not privileged - your constant honeymoons are just another form of abuse.

If he doesn't stop the abuse, you must leave before you are destroyed or killed. Send him back to where he came from. Your leaving must be done in the safest possible manner. Guidelines and references to help you with a safe departure are discussed.

Your life does not stop when you end your abusive relationship, and neither does this book. Starting your new life and finding true happiness is the Cinderella ending you deserve.

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Product Details

• Hardcover: 168 pages
• Publisher: Morgan Meadow Enterprises (May 1995)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0964559609
• ISBN-13: 978-0964559608
• Product Dimensions: 9.5 x 6.5 x 0.8 inches
• Shipping Weight: 1.1 pounds
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #706,128 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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