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The Hookup Handbook: A Single Girl's Guide to Living It Up

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4 star:		(9)
3 star:		(3)
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1 star:		(6)

 

 

I came across this book in the collection of my 19-year-old niece -- and a certain sense of curiosity compelled me to read it. I can only say that I hope this book is safely in oblivion by the time my nine-year-old daughter starts dating.

First of all, I grew up in the 1980s -- not the 1950s -- so I'm not about to call for a return to old-fashioned standards of morality. When I was a college student, young people were having sex. Neither my wife nor I were virgins when we met -- and neither one of us loses any sleep over this fact today.

However, there was a general consensus then that sex [should] take place in the context of a relationship. This book suggests that women should adopt the worst aspects of male behavior, and seek an endless succession of alcohol-inspired couplings with near strangers.

The hook-up approach denies young women [and men] an important formative experience that was a right of passage in my day: meeting a special someone, then gradually navigating through the levels of physical intimacy. In the 1980s, we had a concept of romance -- even if we didn't come right out and call it that. This book takes sex -- which should be something special--and turns it into something that you casually grab on the go --like a cheeseburger.

This book also makes me wonder about the social skills of women born after 1980. Do today's young women really have to dangle easy, no-strings sex in front of their male counterparts in order to hold their attention? A college-aged woman probably has more power over men than she will at any point in her life. The women I grew up with knew how to handle men without resorting to the loser strategy outlined in this book.

There is something to be said for making the guy work for it a bit. Trust me, ladies, you have a monopoly on something that every man wants. Don't be too eager to give it away to every drunken frat boy wearing baggy pants.

Cute book and has many humorous parts....especially if you are young and have been hooking up because many of the situations are relatable. However, I would not say it is a guide to hooking up or "living it up" but rather a commentary on the situations that revolve around a hook-up. I would borrow from a library rather than spend $10 for a new copy.

I bought this book with another book called The Happy Hook up and enjoyed them both, but for different reasons. This book is sarcastic and funny--definitely not a how to book. It's an anti-guide, if you will. The authors both describe and poke fun at a lot of the scenarios and behaviors associated with the "phenomenon" of the hook up. I found myself laughing a lot.

The first thing I'll say about his book is that I had to give it two stars instead of one due to the authors' apparent lack of hostility towards men. In an age of misandry, guys like me have to be pleased with whatever alms we are given. At any rate, certainly this is one of the shallower books a girl can buy because the lifestyle it describes is every bit as pathetic as it is directionless. The fact is that there is little advice proffered so it isn't a handbook at all. Mostly, it would have to described as a rattle bag of little jokes, quizzes, references, silly antics and who knows what else. It certainly is hard to qualify, but the one thing for certain is that the viewpoint it espouses is completely devoid of intellectual and emotional depth. It's main purpose seems to be an attempt to sooth vain, materialistic, and impulsive women due to the problems which arise from their poor decision making. The biggest problem with their presentation is the authors' attempts to be cute. All the humor is cutesy and obvious. Yawn, oh well, at least I bought the book for the sake of research. I hope you guard your money better than I do.

This book is ridiculous. I can't believe it ever got published--it's that poorly written. Please don't waste your money on this book!

I read this book. It increased my closing ratio tenfold. Thanks girls !!

What a fun read!!!! This is a hilarious and truthful account of the challenges that singles today confront when hitting the bar, the booze or the bedroom. Enjoyable and relatable to everyone no matter who you are or where you are from. In this era of unprecedented sexual politics these two savvy singles have captured the realities of sex culture today. I have already bought copies for my sister, who has lived most of the accounts detailed in the book and my mom, who I hope through this read will finally grasp the dating and sex culture of our generation.
A must read...

Wow-I found myself laughing out loud when I read this. Funny, honest, and sarcastic, yet really relatable for all types of women. No matter what your romantic status is, you're bound to recognize yourself or your friends at some point in the pages of this book.

i LOOOOOVED this book! finally these girls decided to set the record straight on how our generation operations in the bedroom. . . clearly they know exactly what they are talking about, and so you will no doubt find yourself laughing as you remember you & your friends similar circumstances . . . . insightful, truthful, and fun, this book is exactly the remedy for escaping winter blues!

This book has changed my life. I spent the first half of my twenties talking with my friends about how differently things are now in the dating scene. The Hookup Handbook is the answer to our questions. It's explanatory, insightful, and completely eliminates my fear that my friends and I were the only ones trying to figure this stuff out. I love the quizes and the writing is incredible. I highly recommend it.