Hot Relationships: How to Know What You Want, Get What You Want, and Keep it Red Hot! [Paperback]

Tracey Cox (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: July 5, 2000

Are you madly in love or driven mad by it? Happily single or looking for a partner? Living together, married with kids, or dumped and desperate? Whatever the state of your love life, Hot Relationships has all the answers to your dating and relating dilemmas.

Funny, practical, and refreshingly  realistic, it's packed with advice on everything from flirting and flings to monogamy and marriage. There are hot tips on getting over an ex, where to meet a partner, how to spot the losers, and how to breeze through that first date, as well as hints on fixing the fights, surviving jealousy and infidelity, and breaking bad love habits.

A must-have manual for singles, couples, men, and women, Hot Relationships shows you how to have one-and how to keep it that way.


Inside you'll learn:
How to get from bonking-each-other-senseless to couplesville  (without losing the urge)

How to tame the green-eyed monster and what to do if your partner cheats (or you're tempted to)

What to do with loony libidos and lousy lovers, or if you're both too zonked to bonk

Editorial Reviews

Amazon.com Review

Relationships expert Tracey Cox, author of Hot Sex, admits that she is not currently "snuggled up on the couch with Mr. Perfect." Never mind--she sure knows relationships: good ones, lousy ones, flings, live-ins, and "first date fizzles." She's knowledgeable, reassuring, and very funny. First, Cox discusses the advantages of being single (yeah, yeah) and helps you figure out what kind of partner/relationship you're seeking and where to find him or her. Then she takes you through getting that first date.

As she explores falling in love, evaluating your relationship, and getting closer to commitment, Cox is feisty and irreverent. One chapter's subtitle is "Getting from Bonking-Each-Other-Senseless to Couplesville (Without Losing the Urge)." She discusses sex directly and wittily, explaining, for example, why you might have been hungry for sex when you weren't getting any but you're indifferent when it's available in an ongoing relationship: "It's a bit like Thanksgiving. You can smell that turkey cooking and you're practically drooling. Come the day after, you'd rather eat mashed up grasshoppers than face another slice." Keeping sex alive in a relationship is linked with keeping communication alive, and Cox gives you tips for accomplishing this, too. Other topics include jealousy, sex after marriage, infidelity, destructive relationships, and how to get over a break-up. --Joan Price

From Library Journal

Cox, an Australian sex and relationships journalist and the author of Hot Sex (LJ 4/15/99), targets all stages of every erotosexual relationship: looking for a partner, dating, living together, and being married-with-kids, whether heterosexual, lesbian/ gay, young, or older. Surprisingly, she succeed reasonably well, delivering supportive and commonsense advice about finding a partner; dealing with disagreements; avoiding "love landmines," jealousy, and infidelity; recognizing bad choices in partners; and dealing with breakups. Her "twenty- to thirtysomething" writing style may put off some older or more conservative readers: in Cox's world, nearly everyone is into parties, nightlife, alcohol, and casual sex and becomes emotionally devastated and histrionic when dealing with infidelity and breakups. Despite the limited appeal of the styleDand the misleadingly oversexy titleDthe book's advice does hold up well for a broad readership. The main flaw is the lack of a list of recommended readings and resources. For larger public libraries, especially those with collections targeted to the earlier decades of adulthood.DMartha Cornog, Philadelphia
Copyright 2000 Reed Business Information, Inc.

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Product Details

• Paperback: 416 pages
• Publisher: Bantam (July 5, 2000)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0553380338
• ISBN-13: 978-0553380330
• Product Dimensions: 5.9 x 1 x 9 inches
• Shipping Weight: 1.1 pounds (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 3.9 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (7 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,183,155 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

Tracey Cox is an international sex, body language and relationships expert as well as a TV presenter.

She is well-known for her TV shows on sex and relationships as well as her range of best-selling books which have sold millions world-wide.

Tracey has been an agony aunt for ivillage, News of the World, Cosmopolitan and numerous magazines world-wide, has two weekly columns in UK's Closer magazine and her own range of products, developed in the UK with Love Honey.

She has appeared on Oprah, CNN and The Today Show in the US, as well as numerous prime-time chat shows in the UK and world-wide. She was a regular guest on Jo Whiley's show (Radio 1) and continues to contribute to most of the major women's magazines world-wide.

Her TV credits include Hot Love, a 40-part series for Sky One (UK), Hotter Sex (also Sky One, UK), The Sex Inspectors (Ch4 in the UK and HBO in the US), Would Like to Meet (BBC2, UK), Under One Roof (ITV) and Date Patrol (Discovery in the US). The Sex Inspectors was bought and run in many other countries world-wide.

She lives in Notting Hill, London.

Customer Reviews

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6 of 6 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Entertaining book, very insightful, January 7, 2004

By A Customer

This review is from: Hot Relationships: How to Know What You Want, Get What You Want, and Keep it Red Hot! (Paperback)

I found this book to be very witty and real. I bought it to help me through a break up (it did) but have read it 3 times. I read another review here where the lady didn't like some of Tracey's advice. Well, sure any book you read will have some things in it that you don't agree with. This book overall does an excellent job of "keeping it real". I laughed while reading it, but was also able to use the practical advice given. I highly recommend this book to anyone. There is something in it for all!

9 of 11 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars Hmm, this is rather good actually, July 11, 2000

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This review is from: Hot Relationships: How to Know What You Want, Get What You Want, and Keep it Red Hot! (Paperback)

The follow-up to her 'Hot Sex' (qv) this concentrates on finding a partner, developing into a Relationship and keeping happy throughout it all. Plus advice on what to do if it all goes wrogn.

Done in a fun and readable style (significant sections were originally published in women's magazines) it covers a lot of ground in a sensible and inclusive manner. Just about everyone could learn something from this one. There's the usual comment about "although the book talks about male-female relationships a lot, it does apply to same-sex ones too" but she does include a chapter especially for lesbians/gay men. Unfortunately, she's not quite there with some of the realities of LGBT life, but it's a good attempt.

My main complaints are that most of the sex tips have been left in Hot Sex (is this good, in that if you have the earlier work, you don't feel you've bought the same book twice, or bad in that you need to buy two books?).

It would be good to have something on telling (or not) the sort of secrets you're scared would affect the relationship -- you know, the sort of thing that could get you on the Jerry Springer show. The nearest I can find is a substantial section on affairs ('leave' is her basic advice).

Yep, she doesn't really believe anyone can have more than one meaningful Relationship at the same time. Even if you are honest and talk about it first.

The index could be better too -- this is a long book. Indeed, at around 600 pages, if it does end badly, you can throw the book at the ex with the sure and confident knowledge that it'll do some damage... (But that does mean you've ignored the advice that being this nasty is Not a Good Thing!)

Overall, it's certainly worth the money.

11 of 14 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Rational, sensible, and useful information and advice, August 31, 2000

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This review is from: Hot Relationships: How to Know What You Want, Get What You Want, and Keep it Red Hot! (Paperback)

Between the screaming chartreuse and hot pink covers of this book are several hundred pages of utterly calm and good advice on love relationships. The title is misleading, but it does take advantage of the success of Cox's first book, "Hot Sex." In fact, a more apt title would be "Rational Relationships" - not very catchy.

Cox is respectful of both sides of every story, and her advice is middle-of-the-road, and very reasonable. She takes partnership seriously, but includes a wonderful chapter on what's great about being on one's own, too.

For adults, much of what she promotes and explains has perhaps been seen elsewhere - in my case, in the many advice columns, magazine articles, and self-help books that have come my way over the years.

But for teenagers and young adults, I would recommend this book without reservation. In fact it's a book that a really good high school "Health" class might include as recommended reading. All kids would benefit from its wisdom.