99 of 107 people found the following review helpful:
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One of the interviewees, December 3, 2006
This review is from: Hothouse Kids: The Dilemma of the Gifted Child (Hardcover)
Ms. Quart turned a phone conversation and a few e-mails into parts of pp. 137-38. The author mistakenly has me calling my son "scary" when the entire description came from one of my son's adult opponents in chess. The man shared with me how he himself had felt as if he were being judged by the little boy sitting across from him and how scary it was for him. I shared that story with Ms. Quart, but she confused the speakers. I've made mistakes before, so I can understand such an error. Fortunately, my little boy thought that the line was funny.
There was another error, too. In our brief correspondence I explained that one of the differences between the "good" chess parents and the "bad" ones was that the "bad" ones took ownership of their children's success and had lived such miserable lives that they were now living through their children. Ms. Quart transformed that sharing into the following "quote" attributed to me: "I am following him. I think about what I could have done. For all chess parents, it's too late. You live through your children." There is a limit to one's poetic license.
Much of the rest of the four paragraphs is accurate, namely the events we've been to, the make and year of our car, the reference to the Donald Hall poem, and my general disinterest in wealth for the sake of wealth. I hope that I didn't say, "Ray's so skinny, he has to sit up on his knees so he can see the board." That's a ridiculous sentence. :)
I have two more thoughts to share. If such errors as noted above can occur in my little part, I wonder if the quotes attributed to others were as faulty. If so, I am not sure how much value the book has. I would be interested to hear from any others who were interviewed to see if my case was the norm or the exception.
And here is my final thought. When I was asked about sharing something of my son's story, I agreed because I thought that the author was interested only in sharing the stories of various children who were supported by loving families. I did not know until I saw the book that the author had an ax to grind (as revealed on pp. 11-13 where Ms. Quart discusses the abuse she suffered at the hands of her father based on his plans for her life). While I was lucky enough to fall into the category of parents who offer "a loving and productive strategy" for their children, I wish that none of our story had been mentioned in a book that has as its focus child abuse.
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64 of 69 people found the following review helpful:
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Meanspirited and misleading, January 13, 2007
This review is from: Hothouse Kids: The Dilemma of the Gifted Child (Hardcover)
Whoa! I was expecting a well-written study of the lives and perspectives of
young geniuses and high-IQ adults from this New York Times journalist.
Instead, "Hothouse Kids" insults and distorts the subject and subjects of
study.
The author skewers everyone she meets: parents,"gifted" study educators
and researchers, educational product developers and competitive events
organizers, even the bright children--whom she pities for what she sees as their
their "nerdish freakiness".
A former smart girl herself, the author can't seem to find anyone likeable
in the subculture she has chosen to explore. She pokes fun at how these
people look, the clothes they wear, the cars they drive. One mother of a
brilliant child, for example, has hair "suitable for a Journey music
video." Another walks with a "jerky gait which combines a limp and a
strut". One man has "wiry clown hair", another communicates through
"swaggering body language". A gifted child's build reminds the author of
"Matt Damon on a stretching rack" (whatever that means). Somebody has a
"lazy eye", someone else rolls her eyes (which is, apparently, too "Gen X"),
and a respected leader in the field of gifted education is accused of
dressing like "a mystic". One family's kitchen, where the author was
welcomed, confided in, and provided with food and drink, is criticized as
"rickety--even eccentric". The meal, too, is weird, not up to the author's
standards. Apparently, she finds everyone in the "hothouse" she is studying
to be strange and distasteful.
Several interview subjects for this offensive book have complained of being
misquoted (see other reviews). This is not surprising as the included
quotes typically consist of odd jumbles of disconnected ideas and thoughts
--as if the author had extracted sentences from lengthy interviews and
strung them together out of context.
As the author of more than two dozen nonfiction books, I was shocked and
disheartened by "Hothouse Kids". It is difficult enough for writers to
persuade people to agree to interviews without such a glaring reminder of
the potential for journalistic abuse of power. The process of interviewing
requires trust: that the writer will not use the interviewees' words
against them. If I want to write a book on the subject of high-IQ children,
who in the field would gladly agree to an interview now?
Perhaps the author feels that she has exorcised some of her own disturbed
memories of childhood. Unfortunately, she has added little to the study of
gifted kids while hurting a number of people in the process of vindicating
her own bitterness.
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46 of 49 people found the following review helpful:
2.0 out of 5 stars
Cartoonish and cruel, October 18, 2006
This review is from: Hothouse Kids: The Dilemma of the Gifted Child (Hardcover)
Alissa Quart's book takes a particular position which it advances relentless and articulately: Identifying and providing targeted services for gifted children is a form of harm which deprives them of childhood, freedom and a chance to develop without becoming parental "projects." As a prodigy herself, she felt harmed by being identified as gifted; ergo it is bad for all gifted children.
She makes as good a case as I've read, but I doubt that any single solution works for all children. As one of the people she interviewed in the book as having expertise in this area, I see some of the children she describes but I also see the children who are floundering without accommodation. What about the 5-year-old considered "too immature" to be advanced from first grade into second, but her immaturity disappears when she is actually given books at her actual reading level? Would anyone have given her the 4th grade books in class if someone with and alphabet after her name and objective test results hadn't documented it? How many times would she have read "Pat the Bunny" before getting a little punchy?
There is a reason that gifted is mentioned under the section on Attention Deficit Disorder in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-IV TR). It reminds all of us in the mental health business that we need to make certain that we aren't labeling and medication children who are simply academically underchallenged. Crushing boredom isn't therapeutic and children don't respond well to it. Bored kids entertain themselves in ways that are sometimes disruptive, thoughtless and annoying. Some of these kids aren't relishing the lack of academic pressure; they are being given prescriptions for Ritalin. Miraca Gross' research on gifted is solid, lovely work - and it supports academic acceleration as generally benign and often transformative for bright, underchallenged children.
In the three hours of telephone conversation, Alissa and I ranged pretty widely. It was sad that she highlighted the exchanges which were the most unkind to parents of gifted children. While there are parents who can be overly invested in their children, most of the parents of gifted children that I have met are not. Many of these parents are slow to embrace the label and worry that they will raise a generation of pint-sized narcissists. Every group has its fringe: a bit entertaining, a bit bizarre and not representative of the community. While they make good anecdotes, they do not make good ambassadors.
I chose to do work with gifted children and their parents because there is a need. The people hovering on either end of the bell curve tend to have a rougher time of it. Few would argue that providing services to children with mental retardation is somehow an expression of parental narcissism, but apparently children who are equally statistically unusual are going to be happier if they are shoehorned into someone else's idea of normality. I'd rather we support them in discovering their own abilities and difficulties while supporting their parents with the shockingly hard job of parenting.
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