How to Attract Asian Women [Paperback]

Ming Tan (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: September 1, 2002

Ming Tan and her hundreds of Asian female interviewees reveal how a man can attract Asian women. Ming Tan hosts dating seminars and events for AsianSocials.com. The New York Observer and New York Press ran articles regarding Ming Tan?

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About the Author

Ming Tan, a Chinese-American writer who grew up in New York City, is the founder of a website that has helped numerous men understand and attract Asian women. She also hosts dating seminars and events for the Asian American Professionals Network. The New York Observer and New York Press have run articles regarding Ming Tan’s activities.

Product Details

• Paperback: 176 pages
• Publisher: Asian Socials, Inc. (September 1, 2002)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0971580804
• ISBN-13: 978-0971580800
• Product Dimensions: 9.1 x 6.2 x 0.4 inches
• Shipping Weight: 8.8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 2.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (53 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,025,159 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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50 of 62 people found the following review helpful:

1.0 out of 5 stars yeah whatever, September 21, 2004

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DDL - See all my reviews

This review is from: How to Attract Asian Women (Paperback)

You be amazed about what you can write about. This book is just nothing but cheap stereotypes. The world is simply too broad and has too many types of people for one single personality to come out. Unlike most asians i'm not going to go onto a Tirade saying "Yeah those Asianphiles they are rejects from White society that's why they have to hit on our women" It's just not an accurate book. This dating guide is like a lot of business books out there. They will give you strategies but no book can ever help you get a date or make money. It's all you and your confidence. This is just as inaccurate and low depth as the Asian men guide to dating white women. Books like this are going to offend people no matter what. If anything this book is more of a joke gift for a friend. It really shouldn't be taken seriously.

44 of 56 people found the following review helpful:

1.0 out of 5 stars 1% success rate, November 11, 2005

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consumer123 "dnaeye" (Los Angeles, CA) - See all my reviews

This review is from: How to Attract Asian Women (Paperback)

The tips in this book work on only one woman - the author, Ming Tan.

36 of 48 people found the following review helpful:

2.0 out of 5 stars A Basic Primer on Dating Asian Women, October 2, 2003

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Dr. Gregory Mavrides (Pembroke Pines, Florida) - See all my reviews

This review is from: How to Attract Asian Women (Paperback)

Imagine a bar or coffee house in San Francisco frequented only by Asian women. One of the girls starts up a conversation about how, the other day, a white guy approached her and initiated contact by asking her if she speaks English. They all erupt into a cacophony of high-pitched screeches, laughter and angry mutterings. One of the women is seated in front of a computer with Internet access and she is pulling up US Census data and other descriptive statistics on each related topic, as it emerges, in order to lend an air of scientific validity to their personal experiences. Further imagine that someone is recording the entire discussion, along with all the descriptive statistics that were gleaned off the Internet together with the personal stories that were shared that evening. Transcribe the entire recording into a manuscript and you have Ming Tan's "How To Attract Asian Women: An Asian Woman Reveals it ALL."

This book is not without merit, especially if you, like me, knew relatively nothing about Asian culture and Confucian philosophy prior to reading it. For example, did you know that Asian people are offended when Caucasians refer to them as "Orientals?" According to Miss Tan, "Asians are people and Orientals are rugs." Having had no prior experience with Asians or Asian-Americans, I was not aware of that particular faux pas and I did find that type of information, as well as a few other scattered tidbits, very useful. However, if you grew up with Asian-Americans, have worked with them or have some prior knowledge of Asian cultures, then this "How-To" manual will not provide you with enough information to justify your investment of money and time. (I asked a 44 year old friend of mine if she had known about the sensitivity of Asians to the term "Orientals." She stated yes but only because she recently had occasion to work with an Asian who was forever correcting other staff members when they used the wrong term).

Here is a summary of Miss Tan's findings based on a not-so-scientific sampling of her website's participants who completed a variety of surveys.

Asian women, according to Miss Tan, are physically attracted to two broad types of Caucasian men; tall, sandy-haired, blue-eyed men of Irish or English descent and swarthy, muscular men of Mediterranean descent (Italians are mentioned specifically several times throughout her thesis). Asian women are hard-working and pragmatic people and are far better educated than their American counterparts and, consequently, are attracted to and seek out men with the same characteristics. One piece of information I found particularly useful and interesting pertained to how Asian women are attracted to men with advanced degrees from Ivy League Schools (this is specifically mentioned more than a couple of times; a by-product, perhaps, of a caste system that still strongly prevails in China). Miss Tan's advice is that potential male suitors should boldly advertise their credentials in their Internet dating profiles especially if their source of income is derived from the following sources; Doctor, Lawyer, Engineer, Architect, Business Owner, Computer Expert, Military Officer and "old," family money. It would never have occurred to me to advertise the name of my Alma Matta as this would most definitely be considered arrogant by most Caucasian women.

The rest of the advice, particularly in regard to how to treat Asian women, I found to be entirely intuitive and, at times, insulting to the reader. Several pages, having little or nothing to do with Asian women per se, are devoted to the importance of bathing and brushing one's teeth before the date, paying for the first date (while not expecting sex in return, being generally kind and generous and showing deferential respect to the woman's family. It is hard to imagine that any grown, mature and intelligent man would require such advice. Apparently, Miss Tan and her girlfriends have encountered more than their fair share of unkempt jerks and boorish men. This "book" should have been published as a pamphlet or, better yet, as an e-book at a fraction of the price.

For $...the book "Chinese Business Etiquette: A Guide to Protocol, Manners and Culture in the People's Republic of China" by Scott D. Seligman (New York: Warner Books, Inc. 1999. ISBN 0-446-67387-0) is an excellent, far more intelligent, better written and informative discussion of Chinese culture and etiquette than Miss Tan's, occasionally sophomoric and overpriced, guide to Asian dating Do's-and-Don'ts.