"... a unique and important book for boys, and a gift to the women they will love in the future." -- Jan Hunt, author of The Natural Child: Parenting from the Heart
"... will help young men and women all over the world learn what it means to be a loving partner" -- Dr. Jennifer Freed, Co Director of The Academy of Healing Arts for Teens
"...exhibits a generous and courageous spirit. Schiffer [is] offering adolescents down-to-earth, sensitive advice on authentic sexual intimacy." -- Melissa Chianta, Mothering Magazine, March / April 2004
"Who before has ever dared to tell teenage boys the deep truth about lovemaking? Thank you, Howard Schiffer!" -- Peggy O'Mara, Editor and Publisher, Mothering
From the Author
Teenagers are getting bombarded 24/7 these days about sex; movie sex, MTV sex, Abercrombie sex, Janet Jackson sex, but no one is talking about real sex. Teenagers are being pressured by their parents, pulled by their peers, driven by their hormones, and scared out of their minds by AIDS and STI's but no one is telling them the truth about being sexual. How To Be The Best Lover - A Guide For Teenage Boys was written as a gift for my son when he was coming of age. I knew if I didn't cover this topic with him, the culture would. 'Best Lover' talks about premature intimacy (How to get past running headlong into a relationship and then fleeing the second the conquest is over), sexual illiteracy (Why posturing and pretending is a loser's game) and the most important question 'When?' (Are you really ready to be naked in front of a girl, if you're still embarrassed to dance with her?!). It is my hope that 'Best Lover' will give young men the information they need to make their own choices wisely so they can enter this space with their hearts and eyes wide open.