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How to Be Happy Though Married

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This book came at the ideal time for my marriage and ultimately all my relationships. Please read this book prayerfully. Our society has made us believe that women are weak if they "Submit" to their husbands. I realize how brainwashed we have allowed ourselves to be and find it very disconcerting. I liked the quickness of the read--it's a very short book. My husband doesn't like to read books, but will read this one. I have found a very timely answer.

This delightful and insightful little book saved my marriage! After 6 years, our relationship had gone dry. I thought my husband was a bore, and I felt trapped. It was the title that caught my eye on a local bookstore shelf. We live in a small town where everyone knows everybody, so I think I muttered something about buying it for a friend. Learning about the basic temperament types gave me a new perspective which led to an appreciation for our differences. (Temperament types aren't new. Hippocrates propounded the theory that there are basically four types of temperament 400 years before Christ.) Subsequently, I purchased more of Dr. LaHaye's books on the subject, but this one remains my favorite. I have given a number of copies to friends when their marriages moved into the desert. I am delighted to see it has been updated and is still in print. I bought mine over 30 years ago.

I happen to come across this book and read it although I don't attend church and wouldn't consider myself to be Christian. Nonetheless, I found the book to be insightful and helpful. I've read other relationship books and this book added a different "twist" which made a lot of sense to me. The book offered different perspectives to common problems and was geared towards self-empowering solutions. I definitely recommend reading it.

The title: "How to be Happy though Married" seems to imply that you will be unhappy if you get married. While this may not be true most couples do go through various adjustments in order to make a marriage work. It is true that your life will become more challenging as you face each new day with a sense of adventure.

Tim LaHaye draws on his experience as a counselor to provide the best advice he can on how to navigate your marriage effectively. He discusses four different basic temperaments and describes how they affect couples once married.

Throughout this book there is helpful advice, like how to set up a budget. Communicating effectively is emphasized and a warning about not waiting to long to have children is given. This book also deals with issues like selfishness, arguing, attitude, forgiveness and the importance of showing love.

Tim LaHaye emphasizes the spiritual aspects of marriage and encourages couples to pray together. There is a short chapter on sexuality but for more details and advice you may want to look for The Act of Marriage.

~The Rebecca Review