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"What I love so much about Heather Havrilesky and her new book is that, beside being her usual brilliant, hilarious, equally kick-ass and compassionate self, ‎she actually gives great advice. How to be a Person in the World will change your life, for the way better."
—Anne Lamott, New York Times bestselling author of Small Victories

“Heather Havrilesky is that rare writer who can dish out tangy snark but never fails to aim the knife back at her own damaged, hilarious heart. She’s dealing, brilliantly, with the curse of having too much insight—into herself and the world around her. Required reading.” 
—Patton Oswalt, New York Times bestselling author of Silver Screen Fiend

“Sometimes I think Heather Havrilesky’s Ask Polly column is the only true thing on the Internet. Week after week, while everyone else parrots and postures, she addresses the foibles and ennui of strangers, bucking up someone here, giving a kick in the pants there. Along the way, she offers up a slyly powerful critique of the ways in which culture shapes the individual. How To Be a Person In the World distills her salty, expansive wisdom into a guide for better living that's both pragmatic and philosophical, a large-hearted reminder that all of us are struggling, and none of us are alone.”
Kate Bolick, author of the national bestseller Spinster

"Heather Havrilesky’s advice leaves me laughing, nodding in recognition, pumping my fist with excitement, and furiously underlining passages to capture the wisdom that drops out of her mouth. At a time when we’re all navigating so many cheap and conflicting messages of how to be cooler, smarter, and happier, Ask Polly is a powerful reminder to listen to ourselves. This is more than an advice book—it’s a life raft."
—Sarah Hepola, New York Times bestselling author of Blackout: Remembering the Things I Drank to Forget

“Under her Ask Polly moniker, Havrilesky dishes radically honest, no-nonsense advice tempered with self-deprecating humor, gleeful profanity and an unfettered voice… It doesn't feel like schadenfreude to read Ask Polly because she meets her reader's vulnerability with her own.”
—Los Angeles Times

"A few years ago I wouldn’t be caught dead reading a self-help book...now I’m toting around How to Be a Person in the World... in broad daylight, around other humans, without a deceiving book jacket! Whether you’re already an Ask Polly fangirl or new to her tough-love approach to advice, this collection of old and new letters with responses, plus fun existential cartoons, will light a fire under your butt in the warmest, most loving way possible."
New York magazine's The Cut

"If you believe advice can’t be a summer read you’ve never encountered Havrilesky, who has the amazing ability to entertain while also helping you feel so much better about absolutely everything."
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"True to its title, this collection touches on nearly every facet of living, and Havrilesky’s wit, intelligence, and candor set her apart as perhaps the best advice columnist currently in circulation."
—Publishers Weekly

"Havrilesky will tell it straight...Funny, frank advice for people searching for solutions to a myriad of relationship issues." 
—Kirkus Review

About the Author

HEATHER HAVRILESKY is the author of the memoir Disaster Preparedness. She has written for New York magazine, The New York Times Book Review, the Los Angeles Times, The New York Times Magazine, Bookforum, The New Yorker, NPR's All Things Considered, and several anthologies. She was a TV critic at Salon for seven years. She lives in Los Angeles with a loud assortment of dependents, most of them nondeductible.

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