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How to Become an Alpha Male: Attract Women and Become Successful at Seduction

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This is a book with a lot of hype surrounding it. I finally gave in and bought it to see what the fuss is about. Now, I was reluctant because I've been heavily into the seduction community for a few years now, and so at this point I've kind of got the attitude that there's nothing new under the sun.

So, having said that, I already knew most of the material in the book. But it did offer a great refresher in a lot of areas. Now, you may wonder why then I gave it a full 5 stars. It's because I expect to know 95% of the material in any given dating, psychology, or sex guide I come across. It's the 5% that makes it worthwhile.

What I liked about this book was how straightforward it is and how complete it is. In fact, it's not an exaggeration to say that this is the ONLY dating book a guy needs. Now, this is not an ultra-advanced level book, as I just indicated. I would say it's for newbies and mid level guys. While I've been heavily into the game for a few years now and am pretty advanced myself (at least, I don't have trouble getting girls), there were a few valuable things I learned from this book that made it worth the cost.

For example, John's material on body language is VERY thorough and taught me a few new things. Also, while other books stop when you and the girl make love for the first time, John breaks some new ground in the seduction community with the guide to relationships he has in the final chapter.

There were also a few other nuggets in the book that I picked up, which will help me take my game to a higher level.

Another thing I should mention was how well-written this book is. Unlike most other seduction and dating books ebooks that are amateurish, I can tell that John Alexander, like Neil Strauss and Mike Pilinski, is an accomplished writer in his own right.

Overall, John's book deals mostly with inner game. Your success with women comes from having a solid mindset and self-confidence. Once you have your internals in order, you no longer need a long set of techniques.

My recommendation is as follows:

- If you've never had success with women before, buy the book. It's a MUST OWN. As I said, it covers everything. If you apply the knowledge you'll gain from this book, you'll definitely get laid.
- If you've had some success with women, this book will still help you. As I said, it is thorough.
- If you're a pick up artist or Don Juan, you'll already know 95% of the material in this book. But if increasing your knowledge by 5% is worth 50 bucks to you, then you'll get way more than your money's worth.

Dating women is easy, I've learned and discovered thanks to this book, as long as you've got the confidence and alpha male mindset--plus if you know the basics of how to carry on a simple conversation and have good body language (such as not be hunched over with your eyes cast downward). This book helped me out so tremendously it's one of those few books that has had an absolutely profound impact on my life. I date the woman of my dreams right now. The sex with her is great, and it's a relationship on MY terms, so it's not like in the past where I was the beta puppydog always jumping to serve her. We will get married. And I owe it all to this book, but more of course to myself for following the advice this book gave me.

I used to be a complete loser, and I decided to get How to Become an Alpha Male and do what it says. Based on reviews I'd seen of it here and elsewhere it appeared to be one of those hidden gems. And those reviews were right.

A lot of books require a lot of hard work. I never wanted to be any sort of big player mackdaddy, I just wanted to meet a wonderful woman and date her and love her (and have her love me). Which I have now thanks to this book. How to Become an Alpha Male distills everything down to the basics. It begins by explaining about female psychology, exploding a lot of myths like that you need to be a jerk, or that you need to spend a lot of money on women, or that women don't like sex as much as men do. (In fact, as this book explains, and as I've later found out thru experience, women love sex just like we men do!)

The book goes on to explain how to read a woman's non-verbal signals, and then step by step how to have your own good non-verbal signals that are those of an attractive alpha male.
It then talks about how to build your self-confidence using affirmations and self hynosis. I've been doing them like mad and they work. Today I'm a much happier person and confident, and, importantly, that confidence comes from within. Even if I didn't have my wonderful girlfriend today, I'd still be every bit as content. Though I love her, I don't NEED her, as this book has taught me.

And that's the great thing about this--it's not just for getting women, but for your life in general.

John Alexander then explains the easy way of how to talk to women, what to say, and topics to talk about. I used to be shy but everything in here is very doable. Also the book explains how to have sex with a woman on the very first date. And Alexader's right that the best way to get a woman into a relationship with you is to have sex with her right away, not to wait. Alexander also has some chapters that are tremendous on how to expand your social circle (since most people meet through their network of friends rather than cold approaching) and on maintaining a relationship so that the passion grows with time and the two of you never argue or have any drama.

I'd give this book 500 stars if I could, but Amazon limits it to 5.

Throughout reading ebooks on this subject and meeting people who are interested in the area of attracting and dating women, i have come to an understanding that most of what you read out there is aimed at those people who have next to no social skills, and are therefore not neccessary for the average guy.

Then i find this book. I notice several things that screwed up my chances before, such as destroying her attraction by being needy and being a friend too much. This led me to some success but of late i have come to the realisation that most of these Pick Up Gurus out there aim their books and material at people who appear to have no social skills at all. Let me elaborate:

Being in my situation was not like being in the situation of a unsociable recluse (as i am a sociable and decent looking guy, with many friends it was just that girls scared the hell out of me!).

Yet their marketing made me feel like i was much lower on the social scale than i ever was. I was just too scared of rejection in the end, but after reading all their material it made me feel i was lost with all these comments about these......rules apply always and you must always ......!! It put me to the point where i felt at times like an unsocial geek! I was so confused but then i read 'HOW TO BECOME AN ALPHA MALE' again and saw how attracting and dating women is not the rocket science they make it out to be , and for me this was more useful because i just needed to fill some holes in my personality when dealing with women. The others make it out like your on death row and you must get through 1000s of approaches before you ever get anywhere in attracting women!!! I mean come on now!!! Apparently if you dont do it then your not a man! HA

I truly wish i had just read this book and worked purely from that. But i got addicted to the information everyone was claiming to have.

In summarizing: A superb book - Great for anyone, especially guys who realise that attracting and dating women should be enjoyable and not a matter of 'suck-it-up' type pain. When you already have social skills, just bring out the AlPHA in you and all will be well. This book teaches you just that!

Alpha Male is unlike any other dating book I've read. In contrast to the others, this one does not dump a laundry list of specific rules or things to say. Rather, it focuses on nonverbal communication and how to build a powerful aura by using the right signals at the right time. It covers all the important but subtle details including dress, attitude, body language, and how to touch a woman.

The author does an expert's job applying psychology. Interacting with a female is a tricky dance of wits and confidence, and he tells you exactly how to play this game. You will find that much of success relies on attitude adjustment. To build this positive mindset, the author effectively compares the habits of alpha males and betas (the ineffective seducers).

Another plus is that the material in this book can be, and should be applied to social situations in general. Many examples point to the nonverbal mannerisms of CEOs; such behaviors to succeeding in business interactions are also keys to success with women. Best of all, this guide gets the job done without the need for romance or wussy poetry.

Reading Alpha Male will help you get over the fears in handling women. It's a terrific guide to what's permissible, and how to throttle your aggressiveness for success. Being an Alpha Male is about bringing the rest of the world into your reality. A reality in which you are in command.

I won't write a long detailed review like some of the better reviewers here. All I can say is that I was the furthest thing from an alpha male. But this book changed that for me by giving me the tools to be an alpha male. Naturally, for it to work you need to apply the things the book teaches, but if you do, then your life will change. There are a lot of expensive products, DVD's, CD's and other things that people are selling out there, but this book really covers everything you need to know. And the main thing it teaches is how to be a real man. I believe that if I had this book earlier I could have saved my marriage. I'm just a beginner in this kind of material, but I've read a few things out there. If you're trying to find one book to get started, I think this one is the best, at least that I've come across. I'm really looking for a book from John about alpha male relationships and marriage. He covers it a little in his book, but men everywhere really need a manual to undo all the terrible social programming. The funny thing is that it makes women happier.

When I was younger, I was more or less naturally good with women, and reading this book re-taught me everything I had forgotten about how to succeed with women. Sure there are tactics and techniques, but what it all comes down to is being the man (or being the alpha male).

The mistake 90% of guys make is assuming it's their job to somehow trick a woman into liking them. After all, they can't be worthy of such a hot woman, so you must do everything to impress her. In fact though, the opposite is true. A man with confidence, who's got an active, interesting life and is a leader will attract women like a magnet attracts metal.

I disagree strongly with the other reviewer "Robert R." who said that women will do anything to avoid sex. That has certainly not been my experience (especially lately, since I used what I learned in this book), but also it's been shown in scientific research that women feel orgasms just as intensely as (and maybe even more intensely than) men do.

Speaking of scientific research, I should mention that "How to Become an Alpha Male" is groundbreaking in the sense that it applies psychological behavior theory to the practice of dating women, which is something that I've never seen before. Behavior theory is what positive animal trainers teach, i.e., that an animal will increase behaviors which are rewarded and decrease those which are punished. (So you give a dog a treat when it behaves, and then it will behave more often.)

John Alexander applies this toward dating. You reward behaviors from girls which you approve of, and you'll get more of that good behavior. (For example, if a woman cooks you dinner, you reward her by being nice to her and romantic with her. Ergo, she'll cook you dinners more often.) Similarly, you punish bad behavior and you'll get less of that. So if a woman says "no sex tonight" then you punish her by leaving her house. So many guys mess this up, as Alexander points out, by rewarding that bad behavior. (For example, the woman denies the guy sex, yet he still cuddles with her all night.)

Anyway, it works brilliantly (you need to do it the way the book describes it though, which is better than I ever could). I am a very happy man, currently in a relationship again, with a beautiful woman I wouldn't ever have met but for this book.

Get this amazing book, devour it, and use what you learn. It'll change your life as it has mine.

This book has the feel of an oversized book report, in that it seems the author, an obvious non-writer, researched all the info he could on the subject and crammed it into a book. Nothing original here, just ALOT of material from other sources in one guide.

Definitely overpriced, considering that:

The poorly-designed cover looks homemade, and has a "copied" or laser-printer look to it.

The "author" puts a space after EVERY SENTENCE, doubling the size of the book (in an attempt to make it longer, or just a result of his lack of writing experience).

Numerous spelling and grammar errors.

Lack of any flow or "entertainment" value...this makes it hard to read more than a few pages at a time, unlike The Game or The Complete A**hole's Guide To Handling Chicks (in the author's defense, those 2 books are almost PURELY for entertainment value and contain very little actual info).

Most of the material is taken from other sources...in some cases, paragraphs are copied verbatim from Gary Brodsky's CDs and books. I see another reviewer recognized some material from a web site as well.

Having said all that, there is alot of good info here, especially if you haven't purchased anything of this type yet. It's kind of a "Greatest Hits" of dating advice, if you will. Further, it has practical info that will actually work in the long run...as compared to Style/Mystery/Ross Jeffries (gimmicky manipulation trick)types who, despite all their best efforts, can't even keep a girlfriend.

In conclusion: get this book, but get it used or borrow it from a friend, as it's $50 sticker is about $30 more than it's worth.

Let's get this straight up front... this book IS NOT about manipulation scamming or any other unethical tag. This book is about becoming better yourself so that you can give women the kinds of thrills and feelings that THEY LONG FOR.

The emphasis in this book is telling you what works and why. This book is great because it starts with the frame of attraction as an evolutionary development and therefore reducible to specific behaviours and characteristics. Despite social programming to the conrary, dating and mating is a game - a game which to partcipate in you must grow to be the sexually aware, dominant (not domineering) man that her animal attraction mechanism wants. Of course there are some juicy little 'techniquey' type ideas which help you apply the dominant male frame. However, this book is largely about getting your issues handled and developing the kind of traits and personality that naturally attracts women.

If becoming a better man with knowledge of the dating and mating game is your thing, then this book will help you develop yourself and the ideal mindset/attitude.

If evolving beyond the limiting and blatantly false ideas about attraction is your thing, then this book is for you.

How anyone considers these things unethical and hollow has clearly not read the book.

I've read a lot of seduction books (Deangelo, Mystery, etc...)

Even though, that John Alexander is (by my opinion) an unknow figure of the seduction scene, his book gave me information, that I never expected. I was very surprised by the style of the author -- the book is extremly well structured, very easy to read. He goes straight to the point -- ideas are explained very clearly (I would say, that he spent a lot of time to rewrite each passage, to be maximally informative and short).

About the contents: very complete book. Covers EVERYTHING you may need to:
-- create a strong inner game (i.e. what is your paradigm about women; it helps to think about your priorities in life, your goal with women, etc.)
-- how to handle your FEAR OF REJECTION. How to handle your fear when approaching hot women. The most powerfull idea which truly helped me sounds like "people instictively has a fear when they are in new situation. So when you have fear, it means you are in a new situation. Be glad, when you have fear, because this means you will anyway learn a lot from it and will shift you towards a more successfull approach".
-- how to handle you 'bad habits' -- limitating believs
-- body language,
-- the approach
-- how to dress (shoes, etc)
-- about sex
-- relationship
-- etc, etc
for more information, look inside the book by clicking on the icon of the cover picture.

Shortly: I've read a lot of seduction book, from the most known PUAs, but now I finally found a solid book, which is ALL-IN-ONE. I regret a little bit my time invested in reading other books, most of the time the knowledge is spread out in separate books/materials, they go into unnecessarily deep details and its hard to fit then the infromation into your picture about girls.
So, I'm glad, I've found this book (thanks to amazon), it is very solid and i like it so much because of its shortness. I highly recommend you to read it and apply the knowledge -- you will please not only yourself, but women too.
I will now not read any more seduction book -- this one gave me all the knowledge, how to get womens (I guess, the one can become even a casanova :-)

p.s.: Merely the concept of alpha guy -- will improve not only the women part of your life, but genereally -- the your carreer life

p.p.s: I also recommend John's another book "How to be her best lover ever", which is about sex. It is for guys, very short (130 pages, big font), but trust me.... that's all you need to know :-)

I think Browning wrote that 'the mind is its own world and can make a hell out of heaven or a heaven out of hell." That's pretty much the message Alexander hammers home: act on an internal focus, not an external demand('I don't littler becuase I think it is wrong, not because it is against the law."); reframe problems into positives( get rejected, do an after action report and learn from it); act is if you are alpha and you will be---sort of like the Biblical passage, "act as if you have faith and faith will be given to you." In short, do not seek approval of others, have them seek your approval of them. Live in the moment, without being held hostage to a controlling past or being frozen in fear of am uncertain future. Book is littered with interesting tidbits: don't ask questions , but make statements that elicit further conversation. Why? Only strangers ask questions and you don't want to be perceived as a stranger. Book is self published and has numerous typos. But don't let them bother you because his writing is clear and to the point.