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How to Date Men: Dating Secrets from America's Top Matchmaker

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I bought her books and paid money to meet with her and both are a complete rip-off! The books are so boring you will barely get through a page and she isn't telling you anything new so don't waste your money because there are a lot of better books out there. Also, don't be fooled into meeting her because she is a scam artist. She will take your money and set you up on fake "dates" that are really probably friends of hers and the lamest people you could possibly imagine. Then once, after I met with her, I didn't call her back as fast as she wanted me to and she left a pyscho message for me screaming at me. It was unbelievable! Take my advice! Don't waste a penny on this awful person. If you do, I'm sure you will wish you took my advice.

I would hate for any woman truly trying to figure out how to successfully date men to waste her time or money reading this book. This book has little to no value (offering simplistic and obvious advice) and on occasion gives advice to single women which is shockingly bad considering that it is coming from a professional matchmaker. The 1 star review posted here from "JanisSpindel Hater" may shed light on why this is the case.

In "How to Date Men", Ms. Spindel fails to go beneath the surface to evaluate (1) whether what is being said to her by certain male clients is truly what they want from a future partner and (2) whether what is contained in her book is the proper advice to give women. For example, in her book Ms. Spindel emphatically instructs women to ask men out. Not only does she provide excerpts of what she presumably believes to be witty examples of conversations demonstrating how a woman can make the first move (but which often come across as contrived and trying too hard from any objective point of view), but she even goes so far as to advocate that if all else fails women should bluntly state "I'd like your phone number. Can you handle that?" Perhaps Ms. Spindel would approach a man in that fashion as she advertises herself as being an extremely aggressive woman, however, this is one of the worst pieces of advice that someone can give to single women looking for a partner. No doubt that many men will take women up on such an offer because they are sure to think that a woman who would be that aggressive is bound to be aggressive in other arenas as well ... But whether an offer like that is likely to lead to a long term relationship, not just a rendezvous, is a totally different question. Ms. Spindel's advice goes against all proven science that men need to be the aggressor, need to chase and need to feel uncertain in the beginning about whether a woman is interested in them to sustain their interest. To be sure, there are ways for women to let men know that they are interested which are subtle and sexy but this type of approach is not offered in Ms. Spindel's book.

The book also contains obvious advice such as "don't talk on your cell phone on a date", "don't complain", "don't have bad table manners", etc. (basic Emily Post advice). In all fairness, Ms. Spindel does provide some excellent advice when she encourages women to let the sexual connection build slowly in the beginning and when she encourages women to communicate directly with men (as opposed to being passive/aggressive in their approach).

Overall, however, "How to Date Men" provides a very shallow treatment of the topic at hand often with alarmingly poor advice. I would recommend any John Gray book over this book, Sherry Argov's "Why Men Love Bitches", Steve Harvey's "Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man" or even the Millionaire Matchmaker Patti Stanger's "Become Your Own Matchmaker" for a better use of your time and money.

Marni Galison, President and Founder
Sunday at Noon Matchmaking and Events

This great book is one of the must-haves of women's dating collection. It is written in a professional yet personal tone and is very down to earth. As is stated in the title, this book is about dating men. It's very personal and if you want to know how to date men, I would definitely recommend reading it. This will change your life. Another great bestseller that will also improve your looks and your love life is- How to be a Super Hot Woman: 339 Tips to Make Every Man Fall in Love with You and Every Woman Envy You
Both books are a total MUST read. If I had more than two thumbs to put up, or 5 stars, it would get them all.

This book wasn't for me. It wasn't bad though, it gave some interesting advice and some good advice.

For me I'm a mid-20s girl and I'm just looking for someone I can get along with and maybe grow old with, have a white fenced house and a couple of kids sort of thing.

This book is for girls that want to get the "catch" the rich guy or something like that. This is the book that tries to tell you how to play the game, so they guy will want you more and want to marry you. I mean this is all well and good, but I don't want a "rich" guy. It will be nice I must admit but not something I'm really looking for.

If you want to be a stay at home mother or wife and cater to your "rich" husband, than this might be the book for you.

If you have run out of relationship books to read and want another point of view, this might be the book for you.

If you haven't read that many relationship books, then there are other good ones out there, this shouldn't be your first relationship book, is all I'm saying.

I bought this book as a mandatory requirement in order to meet Janis for a 30 minute $1000 interview. Both a waste of money and time. Please see review by Marni Galison, it expresses the facts perfectly:

"on occasion gives advice to single women which is shockingly bad considering that it is coming from a professional matchmaker"

"Ms. Spindel fails to go beneath the surface to evaluate (1) whether what is being said to her by certain male clients is truly what they want from a future partner and (2) whether what is contained in her book is the proper advice to give women".

"this is one of the worst pieces of advice that someone can give to single women looking for a partner."

"Ms. Spindel's advice goes against all proven science"

"Overall, however, "How to Date Men" provides a very shallow treatment of the topic at hand often with alarmingly poor advice."


FYI, Janis Spindel does not even look at the questionnaire when you meet her. She only wants to sign your book and boast that it is a bestseller (sure it is if it is mandatory text). Another reason not to buy.

I don't happen to agree with her advice that it's okay for a woman to ask men out on dates. She claims this will make you seem confident to men. I disagree. I think it makes a woman seem desperate instead, and it takes away the "thrill of the chase" for the man. A truly desirable woman doesn't need to ask men out. She's too busy getting pursued by them.

The author also says that if a man has your phone number but doesn't call you again after a date, then you should call him. WRONG. If he doesn't call you again, it's because he wasn't that into you, and you should take the HINT and move on. By calling him, it just sets you up for further rejection. Who needs that?

This is really, really an excellent help for anyone nervous about getting back into the dating world. This is especially true if you have little experience with dating. Many tips on reading body language, staying safe, and learning to trust your instincts.

Well, all I can say is Janis has hit another home run with this book - no wonder it is a bestseller in the relationship category already! Janis' wise, funny, honest, and down to earth advice will be heaven to anyone who is panicked when the doorbell rings and "Mr. First Date" is on the other side. Moreover, Janis takes you by the hand and leads you right through the first date and down the aisle...this book should go directly into your Fendi Fanny Pack and STAY THERE until you have met and married Mr. Right!

Not impressed with this book at all- its didnt give me an new information! Very disappointed in the purchase!

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