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How to Date Young Women: For Men over 35 vol II (Advanced Skills) 1st Edition

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From the Author

To get the most out of this book, you should first read one of the 65,000 copies of How To Date Young Women For Men Over 35 sold since 1987.

Body Language Secrets was published in May of 1997 and sold 15,000 copies in just over a year! You'll also need to read it to fully benefit from this book.

I have received over 4000 letters from guys. In September of 1997, my newsletter, Men Of Steel Balls, began publication as well as being posted on the internet. Over 2200 guys have emailed me with their feedback and questions since then!

This book is a combination of what guys have asked about and what I have learned the hard way since 1987.

The Foreword of The Revised Edition is reprinted here because 40,000 readers didn't get to see it. Please read it. If you do, everything in this book will make a lot more sense, plus it will stay in your head, and your heart, much longer.

Excerpt. © Reprinted by permission. All rights reserved.

Nature, to be commanded, must be obeyed. FRANCIS BACON 1597

Why She Picks You

You are at a crowded party on Saturday night at a sprawling, expensive home in the hills. People from all walks of life are here. The crowd ranges in age from 12 to 78. The occasion is the host's annual Summer Solstice party.

Imagine a 27 year old, natural blonde, about 5 feet 5 inches tall, weighing 120 lean, mean pounds with C cups, baby blue eyes, perfect white teeth and an IQ of 140. We all agree that she's a solid 9.2 on a scale of 10.

She's wearing a fire-engine red sheath dress about four inches below her knees. It is split up the back to about four inches above her knees.

Her hair is long and wavy. She's standing by the kitchen sink leaning against the counter sipping a glass of champagne looking over the party guests as they sample the hors d'oeuvres.

She's never been married but Randy RedPorsche's brother, Danny Manly, a fireman, broke off their engagement two years ago. For the past few months she's been casually dating a 32 year old guy who is worth about a half a million. He uses her as an arm charm. She also sees a 28 year old surf bum who lives half a block from her apartment. He's a construction worker when he needs money. He could take her or leave her.

She makes $32k as a Contract Administrator for a big company.

She gives you the quick once over, then looks away. A few minutes later, you see her studying you out of the corner of her eye.

Knowing what you do about her, what do you think she wants from you? How will you have to come across when you talk with her? Does she want you to tell her she has beautiful hair? Who is your competition? What does he have that you don't have? What do you have that she wants?

You notice a 24 year old brunette laughing loudly in the dining room. She's 5 feet 3 inches with extremely short hair. Tight jeans reveal a set of hips like Marilyn Monroe. She's braless under her cotton t-shirt, packing a pair of 34 B's. We'd all say she's a 7.8 looks-wise. Her IQ is about 115.

Two years ago she moved to LA from Minnesota after she broke up with her college boyfriend. She works for an insurance company pushing paper, making $23k. She had a 25 year old boyfriend for six months but he treated her like shit. A month ago she got up to courage to move out. She lives with two other young women.

She holds your glance, smiles, looks down before returning to the conversation with two college guys.

Knowing what you do about her, what do you think she wants from you? How will you have to come across when you talk with her? Does she want you to glance at her braless tits? Who else wants her? What does he have that you don't have? What do you have that she wants?

BEAUTY CHOOSES

Do you think either of these two young women likes pot bellies? How 'bout a few strands of hair combed over bald heads?

My point? It is within the power of your common sense to make sure that you are NOT in the no chance, Jack category of good-looking women.

Desirable women choose the men they want, not the other way 'round. What a desirable woman finds alluring is up to her. You must be what she wants.

VALUES AND GOALS PLUS NEEDS

Depending on her age and history of good and bad times at the hands of men, beginning with Daddy, she has an overall agenda. The young ones must have a boyfriend above all else. If she's a divorced mother of 28, she is looking for stability, if possible. When she's 34, divorced with no children, she's looking for something entirely different.

A woman makes choices because of what she believes in, where she wants to end up and what's lacking in her life. Her decision also depends on which hormones are dominating her brain chemistry that day, or night! It's a contradictory, jumbled, constantly-in-flux set of priorities that serve as the standard by which she determines your worthiness.

A woman does not sit down and rationally decide where she is and where she wants to go when she takes an older lover. She just does it.

Of the victorious males who court her, she selects the man she finds the most desirable. More in a few pages.

The choice a woman makes has much to do with where we all came from 60 million years ago.

WHY BEFORE HOW

If you know why something happens, you can learn how to control what happens. The quote my Grandpa used when he taught me this lesson was, "The man who knows how will always have a job. But the man who knows why, will be his boss."

The next chapter was in the appendix of Body Language Secrets because most women who reviewed that manuscript thought it slowed down the book. Men who read the appendix said they learned one helluva a lot by reading it.

To understand why women behave as they do, read it, even if it does slow you down a bit.

Air, Water, Food, Sex, Security, Love, Self-Actualization ABRAHAM MASLOW

Sex Is Number Four

Remember Maslow's hierarchy of needs from Psychology 101? Air is the most important. Water is second. Food is third. Fourth, comes sex, even before security, which is fifth. Love is sixth. Self actualization last.

Once the need for air is satisfied, one seeks water until that need is satisfied. Food then becomes the dominate need. If one has enough to eat, sex is the driving force, even at the office, even when socializing (courting) after church.

ANTHROPOLOGIST'S VIEW

In an interview with Playboy, anthropologist Helen Fisher, Ph.D., author of The Natural History of Monogamy, Adultery and Divorce answered this question. I was delighted she said what I had written.

What do you think about this constant harangue over the issue of patriarchy?

Naomi Wolf came out with that ridiculous book, The Beauty Myth, in which she blames men and the entire advertising industry for the fact that women want to remain beautiful and thin all their lives.

But for millions of years, men have been attracted to women who look youthful. That was an evolutionary adaptive response because clear eyes, white teeth, smooth skin and a youthful appearance indicated that the woman was more likely to have fresher eggs and more likely to bear viable young. As a result, men have always been attracted to women who look healthy and young.

If the advertising, cosmetic and clothing industries fell into the Hudson River, women would re-create them, because the human female instinctively seeks to look youthful, healthy and attractive. That has nothing to do with patriarchy.

MEN HAVE ALWAYS BEEN DIFFERENT

After three decades of feminist propaganda, a few men and many women believe that males and females are the same. They choose to ignore that during the rise of mammals over the past 60 million years, evolution perfected the male homo sapiens and perfected the female homo sapiens. Survival dictated the essential characteristics of each gender.

Males developed characteristics that are best for the survival of everyone in a hunter-gatherer band of about 25 humans.

Females developed characteristics that are best for the survival of everyone in a hunter-gatherer band of 25 humans.

Survival determined that males must be aggressive and competitive. Survival determined that females must be nurturing and submissive, unless defending their young. Every human male and every human female has these fundamental gender characteristics. When civilization arose, characteristics developed over millions of years did not disappear.

Gender differences do not disappear because the corporation or the singles' bar or the condo owner's committee is not a hunter-gatherer band.

BLINK OF A GEOLOGIC EYE

We homo sapiens created today's civilization in only 10,000 years. But we took 60 million years to become homo sapiens. Just under our thin skin of Western culture, we are the same as we have been for millions upon millions of years.

To understand the natural principles of courtship, the principles that actually control us, it is necessary to understand human nature, evolutionary, biological human nature-not the human nature professed by parents, priests and politicians.

BARBARIANS IN WAITING

Here in the United States, the most advanced country in the world, civilized behavior hangs by a thread. Doubt that?

Admit that everyday people rob the dead at an airliner crash. Think back on the Rodney King riots. Recall that many of the looters were average citizens. And, if still in doubt, go for a walk by yourself, unarmed, on the wrong side of town in any major city after midnight.

When there is no fear of retribution, many people become instant barbarians. If lawlessness persists, all of us must defend ourselves with force or be devoured, just as it was before civilization. Why? We are the same as we have always been.

So what? you ask. Well, if you realize that we are the same creatures we have always been, you can see that courtship is not exactly what we have been led to believe by our society and its institutions.

GENUINE, FUNDAMENTAL COURTSHIP

The principle goal evolution built into each of us is the same-get your DNA into the future. Each of us wants to, in a sense, live forever. That's exactly what we do when we send our DNA, in the form of a replica of ourselves, into the future.

The woman offers the man the ability to send a replica of himself into the future. The man offers the woman the ability to send a replica of herself into the future. At this point, men always ask, So, if that's the case, can't we just skip all these courtship games? Look at our ancestors to understand.

ANSWERS FROM ANCIENT ANCESTORS

We are all descendants of people who lived brutish, nasty, bloody, short lives, less than 25 years. Infants had to be suckled at the mother's breast for nearly four years.

FEMALE STRATEGY

Then, as now, a woman's goal is different for physical and biological reasons. She doesn't just want to get her DNA into the future, but to get it there with the best chance for survival. The key to understanding courtship is, "best chance for survival."

Look at our hunter-gather ancestors and realize that it's in a woman's best interest (in the evolutionary sense) to be persuaded only by strong, healthy, high-status males. Why? Her evolutionary programming tells her she must devote four years to nursing each child she produces before she can become pregnant again. (Suckling causes women to produce a hormone that prevents pregnancy.)

In short, on a fundamental, evolutionary level she knows she has only a few chances to get a replica of herself into the future. Thus, it is crucial that her replica have the best possible chance for survival. That's why she is particular.

In everyday terms, evolution wants a woman to be picky. Evolution wants her to select a strong, healthy male who is capable of providing food and protection for her and the child. When our grandparents described that male, they referred to him as "a good father and provider." At the dawn of the 21st century he's called a "great catch."

MALE STRATEGY

Look at our hunter-gatherer ancestors. In the evolutionary sense, it is in a man's best interest to persuade as many women as possible. Why? After adolescence, he produces millions of sperms every day until he dies. Any single one can send his replica into the future. The more women he persuades, the more replicas he sends. The more replicas there are, the better the chances are that one survives.

HERE WE ARE, AS WE WERE

Today, we are fundamentally the same mammals who scavenged for carcasses of animals killed by carnivores 250,000 years ago. Yet here we are, a quarter of a million years later eyeing each other across the dance floor at a wedding reception.

High status males at the reception have a wider choice of females than males of low status.

TODAY'S HIGH STATUS MALES

The high status males of our hunter-gatherer ancestors were men who could provide the things necessary for survival in that culture-food and safety. Thus, the best hunter-warriors had first choice of the females.

They selected females, replicated themselves and moved into the future. We are the result of those high status males and the desirable females they chose. Their DNA is the foundation of our DNA. They indelibly stamped their characteristics into our being. Their blood runs within us, literally. We are them. They are us.

Today, high status males are men who can provide the things necessary for survival in this culture-food and safety, just as with hunter-gatherers.

We don't live in small bands where everyone knows who the high-status males are. That's not a problem for our society's males of the highest possible status: movie stars, rock stars, athletic stars, political stars and stars of finance and industry.

I tried to accommodate as many young ladies as possible. MAGIC JOHNSON

All across the country everyone knows who they are because of mass communication. Thus, our highest status males can pick and choose which females they mate with no matter where they are.

That's until they want to mate with our society's most desirable females. Then, they too, must woo those females. Why? Because other high status males want those women too. Universal, fundamental fact-males compete, the victors get to choose. The most desirable females select from among the victorious.

Our society's other very high status males let females know who they are by displaying:

Expensive, exotic automobiles, yachts, aircraft Expensive, fashionable attire and accessories Expensive homes in prestigious neighborhoods Expensive gifts to highly desirable women.

The operative word is expensive. Money buys food, shelter, safety and long term security for the female and her children. Among this group of males, there is competition for the most desirable females. As always, the winners get to choose.

And so it goes, on down the socio-economic ladder. Within each income group, males compete for the most desirable females in their group. It is no different from our hunter-gatherer ancestors. The best hunter-warrior got first choice. The second best got second choice and so on. Survival of the fittest.

The most desirable females in every culture have always had the same two outstanding attributes. Hugh Hefner capitalized on that fact, sold it to males of all ages, and became a billionaire.

The next chapter is a Summary of this book. Key ideas and major principles are briefly explained. This will focus your subconscious and cause your memory to lock in crucial information.

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Product Details

  • Series: Advanced Skills (Book 2)
  • Paperback: 333 pages
  • Publisher: Steel Balls Pr; 1 edition (December 15, 1998)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0962067172
  • ISBN-13: 978-0962067174
  • Product Dimensions: 1 x 5.5 x 8.8 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 12 ounces
  • Average Customer Review: 4.5 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (70 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,098,229 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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This book, volume II in the series, should be read after thoroughly digesting volume 1. I have found Steele's advice invaluable in dating women of all ages, with the younger ones being the most challenging for the older guy. In my experience, dating was incredibly easy in my college years and early twenties, due to the availability of single women and the proximity, one didn't really need any skills to speak of...just show up at social events and talk to them. Later in life however, it's a completely different game, one that I wasn't prepared for, even the "rules" of the game weren't obvious. Steele's books help with all that, in working continuously, learning from your own mistakes and benefitting from Steele's experiences and that of his many readers.
The format of his books is just terrific. The material is incredibly well-organized, important points are emphasized and re-emphasized, the writing is funny and to the point, and he's very clear and direct on his topic. If you're unhappy with your dating life, not confident with women, or even unsure of your role as a man in life, get these books and start working with them!
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Do you really want to find, meet, talk, date, and then mate young women (say, under age 25)? There are only two ways to do this: first, you can be young (under age 35), within 5-7 years of their age range, and unmarried. Then young women will crawl out of the woodwork to try and meet you, and marry you.

But, if you're over 35, then you need to read this book. Very few yong women (25 years old and under) want to date a man over 35, unless he is of a special type. That special type of man is attractive to younger women, but it isn't easy reaching this state. I speak from experience, I'm over 50, and by reading this book, and its companion volume I, I have successfully had affairs with women age 35 and under, some as young as 21. I'm still working on it, I'm not successful all the time, but I wouldn't be able to do any of this without this book.

The interactions between men over 35 and young women have been analyzed and understood thoroughly by the author of this book, R. Don Steele. Believe me, he knows what he's talking about. He's been there, he knows what you have to do to obtain relationships which are unusual in our society: an older man with a much younger woman. He will take you step-by-step through all the phases of becoming the type of man that attracts young women, and can successfully date and have love affairs with them.

This is not a "pick-up" book. Actually, "picking up" younger women only works for younger men, because in actuality the woman is selecting the younger man, but he doesn't know it. Men over 35 cannot "pick up" a young woman, and any book that tells you otherwise is false. I know this from experience, I once believed I could "pick-up" young women.
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Are you willing to learn from the experience of others?
Don states "I offer a program to become a hu-MAN being who is confident and relaxed thus HIGHLY attractive to women of all ages. My program is guaranteed to be successful when you follow the program."
It works! I got laid without even trying! And I just started. If you want long term success with women and with life this is the book for you.
If you're looking for speed seduction or secret techniques look elsewhere. Some key points from the book. "Don't keep doing the same things and expecting different results. Patience, persistence, perseverance and perspiration are what it takes. Hard work and a willingness to risk, plus a commitment to learn from your mistakes."
Your life will not be the same.
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This elderly author has made a cottage industry out of a very limited number of observations about the dating scene. Most of his few worthy points are lifted out of "A Man's Guide to Women", which he did not write. Curiously, for all his preaching about being a man, this guy writes under the phony name of R. Don Steele. And he points out late in the book that even he has met with limited success using his strategies and that the young women he does nab dated him usually less than a year. Volume 2 is just a continuation of Vol. 1, no new tips or strategies. His books are surprisingly crude, even considering he is self-published, reading them is like swimming in cement. Combined with his controversial online behavior, the author continously displays a dominating demeanor which wouldn't work on an educated or emotionally healthy young woman. Just about any other relationship work available here would be better than this waste of time and money.
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R. Don Steele has nailed it big time with his How to Date Young Women, Advanced Skills. Steele covers a wide range of subjects that pertain to older men dating younger women. I now have 4 attractive girlfriends due to following the advice of this book. Of particular interest to me was Steele's explanation of WHY a man has to be strong. It helped me immensely. I also found his discussion on heterosexual HIV/AIDS paranoia to be right on.
Not for the overly sensitive or Politically Correct (unless of course you want to change and start dating young women!), HTDYW - Advanced Skills tells it like it is, not as "they" would have us believe. I only wish I had had this book when I was 16!
This book is a follow on to How To Date Young Women for Men over 35. LOTS of new info in it.
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