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How to Date Young Women for Men Over 35

5 star:		(195)
4 star:		(23)
3 star:		(9)
2 star:		(5)
1 star:		(25)

 

 

Most of the five star ratings here are a HOAX, artificially boosted by the author's groupies per his instructions to his small band of followers. Steele's books I & II are essentially inferior copies of the best seller "A Man's Guide To Women," which much more clearly explains the concepts of dating women of ALL ages. "A Man's Guide To Women" was written in 1983, four years before Don Steele made his far weaker anecdotal version. Many of the lines are so close it's just TOO obvious. eg 1) p8 AMGTW: "I make myself the catch." p69 HTDYW 1: "I'm the catch here not you..." eg 2) p48 AMGTW: If a girl ever blocks advancing the relationship by saying "No let's just be friends," say, "No, I have lots of friends. See you later." p217 HTDYW 2: Just say "I have plenty of friends." And the list of parallels go on and on and on...

Only the most inept and inexperienced males will be impressed by this guy, whatever his real name is (has been confirmed that it is not R. Don Steele). This guy's biggest problems are his suffocatingly dominant personality and the fact that the younger woman he married is fat. Plenty of dudes who never read his stuff have mated with fat girls. This guy writes that the overwhelming majority of his past conquests were bisexual smokers who really got around. And the author's behavior in some online groups cast doubt on his honesty regarding exactly how many young girls he actually dated. Vol. 2 has a horrifingly igonorant chapter on AIDS that could prove deadly. Vol. 2 is an overproced continuation of Vol. 1, nothing new. Occasionally this guy mentions his training under Nathaniel Branden, Branden has gone on record completely distancing himself from "Steele" (not his real name) and these spophomoric works. The last this guy could have done is get a college student to make his stuff readable. Avoid at all costs.

Born before the attack on Pearl Harbor, this old-timer turned 18 when Eisenhower was President. John White, who writes under the name of R. Don Steele, should stick to his prunes and oatmeal instead of handing out hilariously outdated advice. Stuff like "a man is in control because he pays for the date" is not only wrong, it shows how his dating ideas were formed in the 1950s. In the first two pages of Vol. 1 he begins a familiar practice of ridiculing African-Americans and how they speak (he disrespected several minority groups in a Jan. 2000 LA New Times interview), yet we are supposed to believe he had a hot and heavy fling with an African-American female young enough to be his daughter. Later in Vol. 1, he lists certain youthful females an older man should not attempt to date, John White (Steele) would have you chase after relatively unattractive, uneducated, bisexual, flat-chested girls. White (Steele) repeatedly asserts how a woman is not really an emotionally mature until she is 30. No one else makes such a silly observation. White (Steele) would have his followers lead a peculiarly joyless existence of hitting on coffeshop waitresses and trailer park trolls. Please do not let the relative scarcity of dating books written from the man's point of view to make you give this guy a look , White (Steele's) body language book is a particularly weak effort, reflecting how he has faded. Vol. 2 of his Dating Young Women series is merely a rehash of Vol.1, just an excuse to get more of your hard-earned dollars. Notice how about half of the 5 star reviews read suspiciously alike. Stay away from John White's stuff.

R. Don Steele is one of the few people writing about dating/courtship who have ANY credibility, as far as I'm concerned. He does not push "cute" pick-up lines or encourage you to insult (or "neg") women. What he teaches instead is how to be a man, not act like a boy. Boys use cute pick-up lines and "negs." Men do not. Being a man starts with dressing like a man -- not like a boy. Don't wear lesbian cargo shorts past the age of 25. Don't use gel in your hair or get blond hair streaks. Don't wear Jesus sandals or have tattoos. Instead, Steele encourages you to buy suits, have them tailored, and carry yourself like a MAN. Think Don Draper on "Mad Men." He is a man. Mystery, Ross Jeffries, and all the other tools out there with dweeby pick-up lines are BOYS, regardless of their age. Isn't Ross Jeffries almost 50 now? And still trying Speed Seduction on yoga chicks in Malibu. Sad...

Other dating books I have read encourage you to go to clubs/bars and try to meet women by acting like an a**hole. Not Steele. He tells you to take your time getting to know a woman, especially if you are significantly older than she she is. This means that you are consistently in control of your time and direction. Women love this much more than they love silly boys wearing trendy clothes. Steele shows you that older men have much more to offer young women than boys their age. No, I don't mean money (and Steele does NOT recommend flaunting money. Ever.) What older men offer young women is knowledge and experience and the opportunity to experience life at a more advanced level. Young boys in their 20's want to talk about their trucks and play with their iPhones. They want to have a quick hit with a woman and never call her again. Older men don't do this. This is what Steele teaches his readers. Steele's books tell you to open doors for a woman, suggest the restaurant, talk to her with interest, etc. He also shows you how to recognize (and pass) the inevitable tests every woman gives every man she dates.

I bought this book at the age of 35 after a n-a-s-t-y break-up and subsequent long dry spell. After reading it, I started working out on a regular basis. I updated my wardrobe and threw out all my "young guy" clothes. And then, I started meeting and dating women -- a lot of women. Most important, I started dating them on my terms, not anyone else's. Three awesome years later, I met my wife and have been with her for 9 years. The techniques I learned from Don Steele helped me every step of the way.

Forget the self-proclaimed dating "gurus." Steele's book is required reading for any single man over the age of 30.

Are you a nice guy who's sick and tired of striking out with women, over and over? Does it drive you crazy when you see jerks with beautiful women eating out of the palms of their hands? Do you want to know what it is that makes him attractive, and you not? And most important, are you ready to do something about it? If you are, then get HTDYW by R. Don Steele!

First off, Steele immediately explains why such nonsense advice as "be nice", and "just be yourself", never works. Then he explains which qualities women of all ages instinctively look for, and must have, in a man. Steele shows you how to look. How to talk. How to understand "her". How to find, date, and mate with "her". And just as important, Steele tells you what NOT to do, so you don't keep making the same mistakes over and over again.

Steele writes like a drill sergeant on a sacred mission. To help guys reclaim their manhood, and relearn the "politically incorrect" mating skills that have always worked since the beginning of time. But HTDYW is also quite funny, and Steele is brutally honest about his failures, as well as his successes.

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This is a perspective-changing book! It describes, and substantiates, that successful man-woman relationships require the presence of a MAN who looks and operates like a MAN as opposed to an unattractive, needy, and ambivalent male. The book continues to develop this concept to illustrate how men aged from about 35 y.o. up to maybe even 60 y.o. possess the traits of a MAN which immature, inexperienced "boys" almost never possess and which younger women have been seeking, often unsuccessfully. And the book continues further to describe how the traits of these MEN are naturally intriguing and attractive to what younger women seek in fulfilling relationships. Men learn, and understand, how to be as attractive to young ladies as young ladies are to men older than them. Contrary to what many people probably expect, this book details how men can cultivate unhurried, honest, friendly, and respect-based relationships with women fueled by mutual male-female attractiveness! Most men will need changes to develop into MEN, but the book talks the reader through the changes needed for a man to become a confident and relaxed hu-MAN continuing to develop into a MAN. This book instructs in life-changing practices, so be prepared to invest yourself towards change. However, the book describes how to realize, and enjoy, good results in the short term as you work towards even better results while you continue changing yourself for the better as you along "the Shining Path"! Read this book again and again and again, with highlighter in hand . . . you continue learning even when you've read it for the eighth time . . . with this book, reading and doing IS believing!

Interesting, honest book. When it comes to girls and dating, I always thought the world is divided into the "haves" and the "have-nots," and considered myself part of the latter. I'm a normal-looking and intelligent 23-year-old (yes, I still bought the book even though it's for older men), but when you're as inexperienced as me you know something's wrong.

Steele makes several points. First, when you are single, lonely, ... that is automatically the kind of vibes that you give off and that's the kiss of death. On the other hand, people who are dating someone will actually attract *more* and *better-looking* girls because they're automatically perceived as desirable by females.

To break the cycle, you must change yourself a little, and this is not as hard as it sounds. When you do something as trivial as getting a new haircut or starting to "dress for success," for instance, your personality changes a little. The concept of Change leads to more chances of developing a "String of Pearls," another issue explained by Steele. That, in turn, leads to the ultimate concept of the book: "THE RIGHT ATTITUDE." The Right Attitude leads to success with women.

There's a lot of other issues explained in the book in Q&A format, such as how NOT to be a "nice guy" and the fact that FEMALES choose you, not the other way around. The style is indeed crude but it works. Any single man should get this book, not just guys over 35.

The book is mediocre at best. Wasn't even worth finishing.
In my defense, I bought it during a nasty divorce. Call it a moment of stupidity on my part.

When I got it, the orders were probably being filled by the author himself since it is self published.
I say that because that is the only reason that explains how I ended up on his email list.
Unfortunately, I have never been able to get off of it. It has been over 8 years now if I remember correctly.
Requesting removal doesn't work. Only seems to prod him on to send more.
Blocking him doesn't work because every few months, he changes email addresses and/or servers.

If you want to get spammed to death by this clown for years to come, having him tell you how smart he is and has it all figured out, go ahead and get it. You have been warned.

I have not read this book, but I read a lot of the reviews here on Amazon, and it is pretty clear that many of the reviews are written by the same person. (Guess which ones? The ones with five stars!) Someone seems to be spamming Amazon with positive reviews.

I would further guess that if you read the book you'd notice some similarity between the author's style and the style of these reviews. Just a theory of course...