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We are all annoying!, January 24, 2006
This review is from: How to Deal with Annoying People: What to Do When You Can't Avoid Them (Paperback)
This book brings forth a simple, but powerful revelation: we are all annoying to someone! Rather than putting people into categories of what's wrong with certain people, this book helps one to see different personality types. The book then looks at how different personality types have difficulty interacting. It also looks at how differnt personalities interact well. The book discusses how to get along with other personality types based on one's own personality type. It doesn't focus on changing people's personalities, but focuses on how to work cooperatively, communicate effectively, and just get along! I recommend this book to anyone who wants to try to work on getting along with others without (pointlessly) trying to change anyone.
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Friction Control Toolkit, December 14, 2007
This review is from: How to Deal with Annoying People: What to Do When You Can't Avoid Them (Paperback)
Here's a gem that delivers practical help on those annoying people in your life and what to do about them. How do you perceive other people--and how do they perceive you? If you dislike all systems that put people in a "box," then you should also disregard your own system of first impressions--it's likely inaccurate. This book will help.
About 20 years ago, I heard Peter Drucker counsel ministry leaders on conflict resolution. He said inter-personal conflict and friction at work was inevitable--we're working with people. The bigger issue, he said, was to have systems in place for dealing with conflict. Is conflict resolution part of your team's toolkit? Or, is it stuffed way down where no one deals with it?
Survey your team and see how many have read a book, attended a workshop, or been thoughtfully mentored on conflict resolution. Bob Phillips and Kimberly Alyn have written a practical and indispensable Conflict Resolution 101 book--and it's fun to read.
For years, I've encouraged leaders and managers (actually--anyone who takes nourishment) to study the four social styles: Drivers, Analyticals, Amiables and Expressives. The authors have creatively communicated what makes people annoying to us (and us to them) by overlaying the social style construct on all things annoying. It's brilliant.
The book delivers conflict prevention and resolution principles, including 10 myths about conflict. Myth #7 is "Harmony is normal and conflict is abnormal." And Myth #10 is "Conflict is a sign that people do not care." The book also suggests how to sell to annoying people. Example: explain to Expressives how their buying decision will "add more adventure, fun and excitement to their lives." (Fundraisers: take note.)
The chapter on "Dispelling 10 Stereotypical Gender Myths" is worth the price of the book. If you've bought into the myth that women are relationship-oriented and men are task-oriented, you've misread God's unique design in people--male and female. It's a must-read chapter.
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Difficult People (Co-workers) Problems Solved, January 12, 2007
This review is from: How to Deal with Annoying People: What to Do When You Can't Avoid Them (Paperback)
This is an excellent read! The book identifies different personalities styles and provides feedback as to how "you" should deal with each personality based on yours. The book is filled with serveral short and useful diagnostic tests to determine each style. If your workplace is hostile and unpleasant purchase this book and everyone will benefit.
It is NOT just your ordinary personality type book.
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