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How to Deal with Annoying People: What to Do When You Can't Avoid Them

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This book brings forth a simple, but powerful revelation: we are all annoying to someone! Rather than putting people into categories of what's wrong with certain people, this book helps one to see different personality types. The book then looks at how different personality types have difficulty interacting. It also looks at how differnt personalities interact well. The book discusses how to get along with other personality types based on one's own personality type. It doesn't focus on changing people's personalities, but focuses on how to work cooperatively, communicate effectively, and just get along! I recommend this book to anyone who wants to try to work on getting along with others without (pointlessly) trying to change anyone.

Here's a gem that delivers practical help on those annoying people in your life and what to do about them. How do you perceive other people--and how do they perceive you? If you dislike all systems that put people in a "box," then you should also disregard your own system of first impressions--it's likely inaccurate. This book will help.

About 20 years ago, I heard Peter Drucker counsel ministry leaders on conflict resolution. He said inter-personal conflict and friction at work was inevitable--we're working with people. The bigger issue, he said, was to have systems in place for dealing with conflict. Is conflict resolution part of your team's toolkit? Or, is it stuffed way down where no one deals with it?

Survey your team and see how many have read a book, attended a workshop, or been thoughtfully mentored on conflict resolution. Bob Phillips and Kimberly Alyn have written a practical and indispensable Conflict Resolution 101 book--and it's fun to read.

For years, I've encouraged leaders and managers (actually--anyone who takes nourishment) to study the four social styles: Drivers, Analyticals, Amiables and Expressives. The authors have creatively communicated what makes people annoying to us (and us to them) by overlaying the social style construct on all things annoying. It's brilliant.

The book delivers conflict prevention and resolution principles, including 10 myths about conflict. Myth #7 is "Harmony is normal and conflict is abnormal." And Myth #10 is "Conflict is a sign that people do not care." The book also suggests how to sell to annoying people. Example: explain to Expressives how their buying decision will "add more adventure, fun and excitement to their lives." (Fundraisers: take note.)

The chapter on "Dispelling 10 Stereotypical Gender Myths" is worth the price of the book. If you've bought into the myth that women are relationship-oriented and men are task-oriented, you've misread God's unique design in people--male and female. It's a must-read chapter.

This is an excellent read! The book identifies different personalities styles and provides feedback as to how "you" should deal with each personality based on yours. The book is filled with serveral short and useful diagnostic tests to determine each style. If your workplace is hostile and unpleasant purchase this book and everyone will benefit.

It is NOT just your ordinary personality type book.

I heard the author at a special seminar that the State of Connecticut held for Dispatchers and emergency workers. That day there were people of all religons and back grounds.
This book was absolutley wonderful and it helped us all in many many ways-we all came away with more insights and skills on how ti deal with all the many tyopes of people we come across every day and the ones that call that we have to assist.
There was not one person that did not get something from this book.
I only wish that you all had the opportunity to hear the author speak also.
THis is a wonerful book.

One of my new favorite "hmmmmm, that's interesting" type books. It's not one that helps develop a way forward (e.g., changing who you are) but it helps understand where you fall in the four broad categories of personalities. What was helpful was identifying the personality types of the people you know and why your interactions with them are good/bad. So the book didn't make me change who I am, but it made me more sensitive to the priorities/motivations of other "types" around me.

This book shows you what you can do to improve any relationship by responding to a person's individual personality type. I learned a lot about myself and how I relate to others. I feel more confidant about communicating with people, especially those who can be difficult.

Wow! As someone with their own business I have found this book to offer real life application. Not to mention the author makes me laugh outloud. I highly recommend this to anyone who could use a healthy dose of perspective on what life throws your way.

An excellent book for someone willing to take on the task of getting along with other people. Short,concise and very informative. Helps one to see why you do what you do, and how to respond to other people's behaviour, not the perceived intents and motives of the heart. Very practical, and highly recommended.

I wish I had seen some of the reveiws about this book's religious nature. The author is not heavy handed in his approach, rather unable to understand the fact that not everybody has read the Bibile back to back. There are several sections where I was simply reading the words to get to the next non-religious section. It is absolutely useless for me to read examples based on passages in the bible or working in/attending a church because I don't do either of these things. Each chapter has a little quote as a subtitle and I count 10 of the 30 being directly from the bible. I probably would not have bought the book if I had read a more accurate reveiw of the material. I am about halfway through, and will finish it... but I cannot help but write comments in this book as I pass through the more obtuse sections.

This book is organized well, easy to understand, and fairly insightful into the personalities of others (and myself). However, I have to give it 3 stars because throughout the book God and even Jesus Christ is mentioned many times. I for one have no idea what Christianity has to do with learning to deal with annoying people. Obviously people of all faiths (including the absence of any) can learn through social science, philosophy, psychology, and the like without having God forced-fed down their throat. I am no satanist, but if knew this book was full of religious propaganda, I would not have ordered it. Authors are of course free to write any religious self-help books they want, however they must be marketed as such without having to read chapters into it in order to see what the true message is. I am doing my best to block out what dogma the authors managed to slip in, while still recognizing the valuable information worth reading.