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How to Fall out of Love: How to Free Yourself of Love That Hurts--and Find the Love That Heals... Mass Market Paperback – November 1, 1985


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Product Details

  • Mass Market Paperback: 192 pages
  • Publisher: Grand Central Publishing (November 1, 1985)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0446314080
  • ISBN-13: 978-0446314084
  • Product Dimensions: 6.5 x 4.2 x 0.6 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 3.5 ounces
  • Average Customer Review: 4.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (28 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #343,119 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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I actually found this book in the free donated books section of the library and I needed help with this subject.
Wink Nutnog
This book provides coping mechanisms if you are stuck in the pain of unrequited love, loss of a spouse/child/significant other.
M. Turcotte
Having this book around makes me feel confident that I will be able to get through it if people hurt me in the future.
Julian P

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159 of 161 people found the following review helpful By A Customer on March 4, 2002
Format: Mass Market Paperback
I recently (8 months ago) went through the breakup from hell (we've all been there). This book gives practical, down to earth and sensible suggestions about how to move through the pain and anger, stop obsessing and move on.
The most helpful suggestion for me was to write down on paper a list of every hurtful thing my ex said, every situation in which he embarrassed me or caused me pain. I put that list by the telephone. And I made a deal with myself: I could call him any time I wanted "just to say hi", but first I had to relive everything on that list - FULLY relive it and feel it and think about it and immerse myself in it. After that list was placed by the telephone, I never made another one of those why-the-heck-did-I-call-him calls again.
I highly recommend this book to anyone with a broken heart who doesn't want to remain broken-hearted.
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53 of 53 people found the following review helpful By Lunar on March 29, 2006
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This is a good book for getting an unproductive or destructive relationship out of your head much more quickly and permanently than time alone will. Be sure you want to before you start. There's even the possibility you could become "just friends" without wanting to repeat past mistakes.

The authors warn you up front, there are some raw psychological approaches used here, where you deliberately change your view of a person. Moving from adoration, to silliness, to outright ugliness if need be, you reverse the "attractive" thought processes that get us so caught up in the first place. If you keep an open mind and just do it you may be surprised at the results. Mr./Ms. unshakeable weren't always up on a golden pedestal and if you know they shouldn't be, this is your chance to quit reinforcing it, break it down, and move on to better things.
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63 of 65 people found the following review helpful By A Customer on August 29, 2001
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wonderful book- I first read it about 10 years ago. I like this particular book so much because it gives very practical steps to help a person 'get over someone'. It doesn't get into why and how (that is for therapy), but as the book points out, if you are overwhelmed everytime you see anyhting that reminds you of this person and you are CONSTANTLY thinking about them how can you get over them? You won't. Again, great book, easy to read, step by step cookbook behavior modification techniques.
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30 of 30 people found the following review helpful By ChiRaven on August 3, 2007
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Face it ... when you buy this book on how to fall out of love, chances are you are hurting. This book takes a behaviorist approach to breaking an obsessive connection to a person who you still love but who, for whatever reason, is no longer available to you.

There's an old joke that says that every time a dog salivates, a behaviorist psychologist somewhere has to quick run and ring a bell. But there is this ... the behaviorist approach can have quick positive results in certain situations, and rescuing people from helpless love is one of those situation. Other books on this topic seem to spend all their time endlessly describing the behaviors of people who are compulsive-obsessive about someone. This little book gets right down to cases, giving guidelines for a step by step practical program to help get your mind off that "special person" who occupied it hundreds of times a day.

Beginning with this technique of "thought stopping", the authors continue with a series of steps to take the reader through the process of breaking the old connection and forming a connection with a new partner successfully. Those who love obsessively have experienced the terrible situation where the former lover that you can't forget becomes a "third wheel" on a new romance. This book shows, step by step, how that can be prevented as well.

All in all, a very good practical approach to a vexing problem that many people who love deeply will face at some time in their lives.
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46 of 50 people found the following review helpful By webgrunt on April 21, 2005
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I was desperately in love with someone who could not love me back, and I was losing my mind. This book gave me simple, practical ways to let go of that painful love and get my life back. It worked for me and I am thankful!
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33 of 36 people found the following review helpful By Kathryn Abbott on November 14, 2000
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That's how good this book is... I read it about 10 years ago and to this day, I can't look at my ex and not want to barf. I've also given it to several of my friends who have gone through tough break-ups, and all of them found it helpful.
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25 of 27 people found the following review helpful By Wink Nutnog on December 8, 2005
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I actually found this book in the free donated books section of the library and I needed help with this subject. I was skeptical at first but in reading it, I was amazed at how close the ideas in the book hit home. I started trying them and they are working.

This is an excellent book, it may not help everyone but at the price you can find this for used here, why not give it a try. For me, it was brilliant.
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48 of 56 people found the following review helpful By A Customer on June 3, 1999
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I was given this book during a very difficult break up when I couldn't bear to go through another day of the pain. It was the most incredibly, down-to-earth and helpful book I read. I wasn't able to let go and move forward until I began practicing the techniques demonstrated in this book - what a great energy booster and reality check!
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