- Mass Market Paperback: 192 pages
- Publisher: Grand Central Publishing (November 1, 1985)
- Language: English
- ISBN-10: 0446314080
- ISBN-13: 978-0446314084
- Product Dimensions: 4.2 x 0.6 x 6.9 inches
- Shipping Weight: 3.5 ounces
- Average Customer Review: 4.1 out of 5 stars See all reviews (33 customer reviews)
- Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #942,381 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
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How to Fall out of Love: How to Free Yourself of Love That Hurts--and Find the Love That Heals... Mass Market Paperback – November 1, 1985
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Top Customer Reviews
The most helpful suggestion for me was to write down on paper a list of every hurtful thing my ex said, every situation in which he embarrassed me or caused me pain. I put that list by the telephone. And I made a deal with myself: I could call him any time I wanted "just to say hi", but first I had to relive everything on that list - FULLY relive it and feel it and think about it and immerse myself in it. After that list was placed by the telephone, I never made another one of those why-the-heck-did-I-call-him calls again.
I highly recommend this book to anyone with a broken heart who doesn't want to remain broken-hearted.
The authors warn you up front, there are some raw psychological approaches used here, where you deliberately change your view of a person. Moving from adoration, to silliness, to outright ugliness if need be, you reverse the "attractive" thought processes that get us so caught up in the first place. If you keep an open mind and just do it you may be surprised at the results. Mr./Ms. unshakeable weren't always up on a golden pedestal and if you know they shouldn't be, this is your chance to quit reinforcing it, break it down, and move on to better things.
There's an old joke that says that every time a dog salivates, a behaviorist psychologist somewhere has to quick run and ring a bell. But there is this ... the behaviorist approach can have quick positive results in certain situations, and rescuing people from helpless love is one of those situation. Other books on this topic seem to spend all their time endlessly describing the behaviors of people who are compulsive-obsessive about someone. This little book gets right down to cases, giving guidelines for a step by step practical program to help get your mind off that "special person" who occupied it hundreds of times a day.
Beginning with this technique of "thought stopping", the authors continue with a series of steps to take the reader through the process of breaking the old connection and forming a connection with a new partner successfully. Those who love obsessively have experienced the terrible situation where the former lover that you can't forget becomes a "third wheel" on a new romance. This book shows, step by step, how that can be prevented as well.
All in all, a very good practical approach to a vexing problem that many people who love deeply will face at some time in their lives.
This is an excellent book, it may not help everyone but at the price you can find this for used here, why not give it a try. For me, it was brilliant.
Most Recent Customer Reviews
I have owned my original copy of this book for over 28 years and just ordered another because I lent mine out. Read morePublished 7 months ago by Lauren C.
Excellent. Really fast read packed with some great information, techniques and advice. Really easy to follow and easy to apply techniques. Read morePublished 15 months ago by Chris Fraser
This is a very helpful book for people going through a breakup. Book was in great condition will order from buyer again.Published 18 months ago by Karen Van Deraa
It was ok, alot of activites to do. Time will do the same thing!Published 20 months ago by Gypsy71671
It was amazing how this tiny book helped my heart heal. I have shared it with several people I care about that were hurting.Published on March 30, 2013 by Toni A. Fox
Highly recommended when you need to get things into perspective. I loved this book, and have bought copies for friends who have been going through a tough time with relationship... Read morePublished on February 20, 2013 by S. Leach
Not as helpful as you may think, but all in all not a terrible book. Perhaps better suited for certain situations rather than anyone who has gone though a break up.Published on February 15, 2013 by Joanne Westers