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How to Be First in a Second Marriage: Forgiveness and Healing for All Concerned Paperback – April 1, 1999

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About the Author

Rose Sweet has been a First Wife, Second Wife, Ex-wife and Stepmother and knows first hand the problems faced by those in todays' blended families. Rose has authored magazine articles, appeared on TV and radio talk shows and is a public speaker at seminars around the country, helping to heal the hurts unique to divorce and remarriages.
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Product Details

  • Paperback: 250 pages
  • Publisher: College Press Publishing Company (April 1, 1999)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0899008186
  • ISBN-13: 978-0899008189
  • Product Dimensions: 0.4 x 6 x 9 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 9.6 ounces
  • Average Customer Review: 4.1 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (9 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #2,889,954 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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Oddly, upon my first reading of this book, I found myself disagreeing with the author in regards to much of the content.
Then I realized why I was disagreeing - there is so much truth in the examples set forth, that I was uncomfortable reading something that `hit' so close to home.
The truth is, rejection is difficult. And, a divorce is certainly rejection. When there are problems blending a family together, more rejection is involved. The idea that rejection continues to be present throughout the post-divorce environment was a new idea for me, and one that made me uncomfortable initially (especially the section that spoke about the rejection stepmothers experience). However, after much thought and two readings of this book, I must agree.
Our current legal system is designed to pit parents against each other - always declaring a `winner' and a `loser'. This continues to perpetuate rejection. When a child (or children) involved feel they must choose one parent over the other to ensure their emotional survival, more rejection is involved. When one parent launches a campaign to persuade the child (or children) that the other parent and the new same gender stepparent are `bad', there is still more rejection involved.
Another important concept of this book is that how we respond to that rejection is completely within our control. In other words, I do not have to feel jealous, hurt, or shut out if my stepchildren and their same gender parent treat me with hostility and suspicion. I can't prevent them from rejecting me, but I can control how I respond to that rejection.
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By A Customer on August 5, 2000
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I am second wife and stepmom of two teens for more than three years; I have many problems as most women in similar relationships. I am Christian as well so I thought this book would be perfect for me!
I have just finished reading the book of Rose Sweet and I am really disappointed.
Why?
· This is a book for real novices; if you are a second wife or even fiancée for more than a year, either your marriage does not exist any more, or you have learned all Ms. Sweet's tips by yourself.
· If your husband has physical custody of his kids, ¾ of this book is not for you.
· If you are Christian but the sentence: "(name), God has shown me that I need to ask your forgiveness for something. Will you forgive me for my bitterness toward you? Will you also forgive me for having failed as your wife?" is not exactly in your style, this book probably is not in your style as well.
· If your husband is not in love with his previous wife any more you should probably look for another book.
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Do you realize that 50% of women today are in 2nd marriages? How do we deal with his ex-wife when she is bound and determined to play on your hubbie's sense of guilt? How do you deal with your stepchildren when they absolutely REFUSE to accept the marriage to their father and therefore, take it out on you? How do you muster up the strength to stand together and overcome all of these outside influences without letting them destory your marriage? This book helps you look at things from a different perspective and empowers you to overcome them with love, understanding and compassion without giving up who you are in the process.
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By A Customer on February 4, 1999
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I highly recommend this book to everyone in a second marriage - husband's and wives alike. If you are thinking about marrying for the second time or going to marry someone who is divorced, this is the book to read before you do. Ms. Sweet has called upon her practical experience as a second wife and stepmother to open herself and her relationships for us to learn from. This book shows all of us that we are not alone. The challenges facing a second marriage are similar for everyone, especially when there are children of the first marriage. Ms. Sweet has provided us with a solid, practical guide to identify and correct the shortcomings of our current relationships. Ms. Sweet shows her readers how she has used her faith to support and guide her through the quicksands of a second marriage. However, this is not a book about faith -- this book is first and foremost about how to successfully deal with the challenges that face second and subsequent marriages.
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I am the author whose husband was still emtionally attached to his ex wife through guilt, fear and bitterness. When she said "Jump", he still did...even though he was married to me!
Through counseling and by the seat of our pants we learned exactly HOW to deal in a healthy way with all the problems of custody, violations of visitation agreements, nasty phone calls, no shows on weekends, clothes that don't come back with the kids, everything!
We learned specific ways of protecting our time, our legal rights, our serenity and our marriage from outside emotional pulls.
The book is written for SECOND WIVES, but the principles and practices I suggest can be used with anyone who meddles in your marriage!!!!
I hope you'll invest in your marriage with this book. I welcome all coments!
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