How to Get the Women You Desire into Bed [Paperback]

Ross Jeffries (Author)

Product Details

• Paperback: 80 pages
• Publisher: Jeffries Pub (September 1992)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0963037900
• ISBN-13: 978-0963037909
• Product Dimensions: 8.3 x 5.5 x 0.4 inches
• Shipping Weight: 4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 2.9 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (80 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #158,582 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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24 of 26 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Fantastic, November 8, 1998

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This review is from: How to Get the Women You Desire into Bed (Paperback)

This book is fabulous for lots of reasons, but the main reason is that it helps men (particularly the dreaded nice guy) take control of and responsibility for his sex life. I have spent the past several years ending up in a virtual sexual, dates from hell wasteland. Now, is it because I am really bad-looking, uneducated, boorish, offensive or totally misogynistic? No. The reason is that I have been trying to be, and shape myself into, what I felt women wanted- all those qualities that women talk about gushingly in magazine articles- sensitive, kind, dependable, smart, funny, etc.... I grew up in my relationships with women thinking that brains (I have two advanced Masters and am working on a PhD), money (which I luckily make a lot of), and a whole host of other qualities would just make me the ideal man. I guess I figured that the female companionship thing would just come as a matter of course, that it would take care of itself. But, as someone said in another review, those qualities may be great. But, that's not what turn a woman on or makes a woman desire you. It's not what causes a woman to respond. This book, along with another one I bought called 'How to Suceed with Women' really kicked my butt. Which is okay. I needed it. It reoriented me into what I was doing wrong, and really showed me that the best way sometimes to get a woman to walk towards you is to be totally willing to walk away from her. Seems simple. But, this book opened my eyes. I am not sure I would try everything in this book, but I do think that it can help a 'nice guy,' or a guy that continually is told that he is just seen as a friend. There is very little about dating that is fair, even with the most egalitarian-minded women. As a matter of fact, I find someone women my age (late 20's) as more spoiled than ever. If you want to succeed and get what you want in your relationships, particularly with some of the women out there who will gladly let you do everything for them, you need an edge. This will given it to you, or at least sharpen it up. Ross gives women virtually no quarter, which is something I respect. And believe me, once you've tried it, women will respect you for not letting them pull their BS on you either- even if you do frustrate them at the same time. A great book written by a guy who understands how men think, and explains his tactics to you in a way that a guy will clearly understand. Buy it! PS- If you suffer from the nice guy syndrome, also look into buying 'Nice Guys Don't Get Laid.' If you have ever been told you were a nice guy, this book will also set you straight about how bad that can be sometimes.

44 of 51 people found the following review helpful:

2.0 out of 5 stars Doesn't make sense, December 16, 1999

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This review is from: How to Get the Women You Desire into Bed (Paperback)

It's not that the book wasn't quite as good as I had expected. No, it was pathetic. I have no use for obscure pick-up lines and Ross Jeffries's success stories. Maybe this book will give a complete jerk something of a start. Maybe it can help one improve from three conquests a week to six conquests a week. I don't know. What I do know is that it won't help an average guy like you and me who succeeds to get a woman now and then, but who needs to improve radically upon the number and quality of his relationships, and - above all - who wants to get control of women instead of being pushed around by them.

I agree completely with the female reader from San Francisco - Ross's techniques, as described in this book, DO LEAVE WOMEN IN CONTROL. The advice repeated by far most often in the book is: "if she does so-and-so, dump her immediately and throw away her number". Well, do you want to pay money for being taught how to run away? I guess you'd rather want to learn how to nail those chicks. As it is, the book should be titled "How to Get the Women Who Desire You into Bed".

If you have read Ross's newsletters that are available for free on his website and expect to find something different in this book - the real stuff, you know, knowledge that would enable you to get the women you desire into bed - you'll be bitterly disappointed.

The book's got no clear content. First, it's very short - 88 pages, not counting the advertisement. In a normal print and without all those empty and half-empty pages, it'd probably be only a half of it. On those 88 pages, Ross is jumping from subject to subject, giving you small pieces of unrelated information. You'll feel like having 50 pieces of a 1000-piece puzzle. You have no chance of putting together the whole picture - or even a part of it, for that matter.

One thing that has probably awaken your interest is the claim that the first part of the book is dedicated to confidence building. Well, sort of. That means actually a few pages of chit chat and a most primitive NLP exercise. Exercises of this kind will take a long time before you'll see any results. (If you are to get any results at all.)

Ross Jeffries is the world champion in making big words. Very, very big words. When someone throws such "guaranteed overwhelming success" claims all around him as Ross does, he better deliver something of real value. This book made me cautious about Ross Jeffries, to say the very least. Maybe he wrote the book just to get women's attention.

Some advice in this book is indeed useful to know. If you can find it in a library or something - by all means, read it. I would have given it three stars, were it titled something like "Some Tips on Dating". But because of the false promises implied in its title and Ross's big talk about it, it'll get no more than two. I don't like being cheated.

20 of 22 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars It's worth a look., November 27, 1999

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This review is from: How to Get the Women You Desire into Bed (Paperback)

I would recommed this book. Not in the heartiest sense but I think there are some important lessons in here. You may be worried about the implications of manipulation but I assure you that it can't possibly be any worse than what exists out there for women to read about manipulating men (The Rules, The Art Of War For Lovers, etc.). Women are big offenders in the "gender war" as well. The only thing that I regret is that there aren't more books out there similar to this, only seriously written and more in depth. This one comes across as a get-rich-quick scheme and the grammar and structure is generally shabby, but is has some valuable tips for all you nice guys out there who may be just a bit too nice; something that I don't believe women necessarily want. As a matter of fact, I don't believe women actually know what they want as much as they think they do; they are highly inconsistent beings. Take the good advice you can get from this book, such as "Make no excuses for my desires as a man" and "I move through the world without apology." Skip chapter 10. You can read this book and still be a nice guy. You may not actually get laid but the few tricks that are of use in this slim volume will at least put you on the path towards greater confidence. And isn't that what women are always saying they find appealing?