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How to Get the Women You Desire into Bed

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This book is fabulous for lots of reasons, but the main reason is that it helps men (particularly the dreaded nice guy) take control of and responsibility for his sex life. I have spent the past several years ending up in a virtual sexual, dates from hell wasteland. Now, is it because I am really bad-looking, uneducated, boorish, offensive or totally misogynistic? No. The reason is that I have been trying to be, and shape myself into, what I felt women wanted- all those qualities that women talk about gushingly in magazine articles- sensitive, kind, dependable, smart, funny, etc.... I grew up in my relationships with women thinking that brains (I have two advanced Masters and am working on a PhD), money (which I luckily make a lot of), and a whole host of other qualities would just make me the ideal man. I guess I figured that the female companionship thing would just come as a matter of course, that it would take care of itself. But, as someone said in another review, those qualities may be great. But, that's not what turn a woman on or makes a woman desire you. It's not what causes a woman to respond. This book, along with another one I bought called 'How to Suceed with Women' really kicked my butt. Which is okay. I needed it. It reoriented me into what I was doing wrong, and really showed me that the best way sometimes to get a woman to walk towards you is to be totally willing to walk away from her. Seems simple. But, this book opened my eyes. I am not sure I would try everything in this book, but I do think that it can help a 'nice guy,' or a guy that continually is told that he is just seen as a friend. There is very little about dating that is fair, even with the most egalitarian-minded women. As a matter of fact, I find someone women my age (late 20's) as more spoiled than ever. If you want to succeed and get what you want in your relationships, particularly with some of the women out there who will gladly let you do everything for them, you need an edge. This will given it to you, or at least sharpen it up. Ross gives women virtually no quarter, which is something I respect. And believe me, once you've tried it, women will respect you for not letting them pull their BS on you either- even if you do frustrate them at the same time. A great book written by a guy who understands how men think, and explains his tactics to you in a way that a guy will clearly understand. Buy it! PS- If you suffer from the nice guy syndrome, also look into buying 'Nice Guys Don't Get Laid.' If you have ever been told you were a nice guy, this book will also set you straight about how bad that can be sometimes.

It's not that the book wasn't quite as good as I had expected. No, it was pathetic. I have no use for obscure pick-up lines and Ross Jeffries's success stories. Maybe this book will give a complete jerk something of a start. Maybe it can help one improve from three conquests a week to six conquests a week. I don't know. What I do know is that it won't help an average guy like you and me who succeeds to get a woman now and then, but who needs to improve radically upon the number and quality of his relationships, and - above all - who wants to get control of women instead of being pushed around by them.

I agree completely with the female reader from San Francisco - Ross's techniques, as described in this book, DO LEAVE WOMEN IN CONTROL. The advice repeated by far most often in the book is: "if she does so-and-so, dump her immediately and throw away her number". Well, do you want to pay money for being taught how to run away? I guess you'd rather want to learn how to nail those chicks. As it is, the book should be titled "How to Get the Women Who Desire You into Bed".

If you have read Ross's newsletters that are available for free on his website and expect to find something different in this book - the real stuff, you know, knowledge that would enable you to get the women you desire into bed - you'll be bitterly disappointed.

The book's got no clear content. First, it's very short - 88 pages, not counting the advertisement. In a normal print and without all those empty and half-empty pages, it'd probably be only a half of it. On those 88 pages, Ross is jumping from subject to subject, giving you small pieces of unrelated information. You'll feel like having 50 pieces of a 1000-piece puzzle. You have no chance of putting together the whole picture - or even a part of it, for that matter.

One thing that has probably awaken your interest is the claim that the first part of the book is dedicated to confidence building. Well, sort of. That means actually a few pages of chit chat and a most primitive NLP exercise. Exercises of this kind will take a long time before you'll see any results. (If you are to get any results at all.)

Ross Jeffries is the world champion in making big words. Very, very big words. When someone throws such "guaranteed overwhelming success" claims all around him as Ross does, he better deliver something of real value. This book made me cautious about Ross Jeffries, to say the very least. Maybe he wrote the book just to get women's attention.

Some advice in this book is indeed useful to know. If you can find it in a library or something - by all means, read it. I would have given it three stars, were it titled something like "Some Tips on Dating". But because of the false promises implied in its title and Ross's big talk about it, it'll get no more than two. I don't like being cheated.

I would recommed this book. Not in the heartiest sense but I think there are some important lessons in here. You may be worried about the implications of manipulation but I assure you that it can't possibly be any worse than what exists out there for women to read about manipulating men (The Rules, The Art Of War For Lovers, etc.). Women are big offenders in the "gender war" as well. The only thing that I regret is that there aren't more books out there similar to this, only seriously written and more in depth. This one comes across as a get-rich-quick scheme and the grammar and structure is generally shabby, but is has some valuable tips for all you nice guys out there who may be just a bit too nice; something that I don't believe women necessarily want. As a matter of fact, I don't believe women actually know what they want as much as they think they do; they are highly inconsistent beings. Take the good advice you can get from this book, such as "Make no excuses for my desires as a man" and "I move through the world without apology." Skip chapter 10. You can read this book and still be a nice guy. You may not actually get laid but the few tricks that are of use in this slim volume will at least put you on the path towards greater confidence. And isn't that what women are always saying they find appealing?

I read this book and overall I liked it. The chapters on self-confidence, and the chapters for getting a girls' attention and how to appeal to women are true, so I don't understand how some readers can be so harsh as to discount a book when much of what was written are true. (The section on JASL members had me rolling! :) The only chapters I was skeptical about, were the sections on hypnosis. However, in retrospect, mirroring techniques are well-documented proven facts. Whether it'll lead you straight to the bedroom is something I think has yet to be proven. In addition, I don't necessarily think that his chapter on Using Hypnosis to Get Your Date in the Sack would work, but peripherally, I've had phone sex (and cybersex) with women that eventually led to the bedroom... just not in the same night. All it did was open the crack in the doorway that eventually led to where I wanted it to go. If that's the point Ross was trying to make, then he's succeeded. I think that overall, the book presented a lot of truths, and is worth a glance. Women, afterall, like sex just as much as we men do! And if she denies this, she's lying! If you're looking for a magic *formula* to succeed with women, you won't find it in this book. However, understand the context of this book, and understand what attracts a women to a man, and apply the traits and seduction techniques mentioned in this book, then I think you're dating life / sex life will improve. Mine has

I realize this book might be a bit controversial, but I ask the reviewers on this list: Have you guys actually TRIED the techniques in the real world? To me, this would be the ONLY true measure of the books quality. Reading some of the reviews, it's painfully obvious which "reviewers" haven't even tried doing what the book says (most haven't), and are giving their opinions from a COMPLETELY theoretical perspective. This is understandable, since the book doesn't give you the classical, comfortable dating advice so popular elsewhere, so people either reject it without giving it a second chance, or feel uncomfortable with it.

Personally, I lost nothing by reading this book, since I got it for free when it was being given away for free on one of Ross Jeffrie's websites. The book deals with an issue most dating books either sidestep or don't deal with in detail: that you have to get a woman TURNED ON in order to take her to bed. I've tried some of the stuff in it (or at least some of the principles), and I can tell you women drool when you use the stuff on them (properly), and basically by changing your attitude towards them, they view you in a completely different light. The principles are more important than the specific techniques. I also tried some of Ross's later, more advanced SS stuff, which by the way is much better than this book, and again I was surprised at just how well women reacted. I'm in no way trying to promote Ross's products, (which I consider seriously overpriced), I'm just pointing out that this kind of information has to be tried out before you can judge it - if you're a bit scared at first, just play around with it a bit with your female friends and people you already know. Don't be just another theoretical philosopher who reads tons of books on dating and then gives their "expert opinion" without even bothering to try out what they learned.

If you're really looking to learn about seduction, Ross Jeffries is the least of the best at this point in time. Sure, he may have started things back in the 90's with his Speed Seduction course, but his stuff is old and he's gone off in odd directions (magick? c'mon - childish fantasy stuff at best). And this book is the oldest of his old stuff. It will basically leave you looking to more of his products if you want to really learn any of what he has to offer. Face it, he's in this for money. This book is bait for his more expensive audio and video products, all of which are pretty questionable.

If you really want to learn the cutting edge seduction stuff, look to David DeAngelo (do a Goggle search on "Double Your Dating") or Swinggcat (do a Goggle search on "Real World Seduction"). These guys have far more contemporary, far less misogynistic theories and techniques that are aimed more at helping you to understand what about men is attractive to women and how to accentuate the positive to recreate yourself as a man who is naturally attractive to women.

Although the title refers to picking up women, this book is much more valuable than for that. My initial purpose was to "pickup women," but I've found that the principles that lie underneath his methods can be applied to practically all aspects of life (developing rapport, making a better workplace, selling more items). The book discusses Neuro-linguistic programming which is used in many self-help and inner power type books and seminars, for example, Anthony Robbins. But in this tiny $20 booklet, you will probably learn more than if you were to shell out hundreds of dollars. There is no fluff in Ross Jeffries' book. It's all method and why it works. Skepticism should abound, just as it should in any other purchase, and perhaps it will still be around after using his methods the first time around. But rest assured, there will be results that first time around. It only gets better each time.

G'day from Down Under.

Although I'm smart enough to realize that a lot of things he says are obvious, it's the way Jeffries said it that made it powerful and had its lasting impact on me (I'm talking about the first 5 chapters). I was the "too-nice" guy too long to let women walk all over me. Actually I kind of reveled in it too. In this book, Jeffries gave me a good talking to, his style kind of reminds me of Thomas Paine's fiery propaganda. That's the only reason this book got 4 stars, because, cliched or not, this changed my life by changing MY outlook on myself and on dating.

I read the rest of the book for entertainment but ignored most of it because 1) I find it repulsive and 2) I have no intention to bed every beautiful woman. I'm just another guy looking for The One.

The appendix is very helpful. And although a lot of the NLP/hypnosis stuff may be a bit suspect (I'm a skeptic from birth), the section on mirroring is absolutely true and I will speak more about this.

I know this works because as a volunteer crisis-hotline counselor and I've been told (by my supervisor who listens in, and the caller too) that during my calls I generate a lot of empathy and made them feel listened to. At first it comes as a surprise because I'm usually detached emotionally. Although I do care about my callers, I know that I really could not care THAT much for them because it'll mess with my head. Anyway, so what gives the impression of great empathy? I was told repeatedly by my supervisor that it's my intuitive ability to closely match the caller's tone of voice, language pattern, etc. And of course that requires me to be a good listener in the first place. So even though on the phone obviously I can't mirror their body language, mirroring something does work. Not only that, but from my end, mirroring actually helps me too because I can feel more of what my caller's feeling.

How's this relevant to picking up? Sure looks and wit will get you in the door, but getting her to feel the sense of togetherness is what will keep her. And listen and empathize you must. Look I'm no expert on women, but from my mistakes I can tell you things that don't work, and the very few things that do work for me.

Anyway, at least I'd recommend this book for an initial read. And if you like it then get the book for yourself. Might even pick up a copy in the zShop. Oh, and don't actually do everything in this book, unless you want to be or are already a pond-scum.

Ross could have been more complete in how to use Neurolinguistic Programming as a tool to date women. It would give other readers a better understanding of "why this will work for you."

If followed -- Ross' advice does and will work -- not every time with every woman -- but it makes a positive difference.

Ross Jeffries provides very useful insight in this short, but crucial text for guys. I think one of the reasons why nice guys always finish last with girls is because they allow themselves to be walked over, I know I did. After reading this book it just all made too much sense.

The majority of girls, particularly in California LOVE to play games and mess with a guy's head - and they're very good at this. Yes I know - not ALL girls are like that, there are some good ones out there, but they're probably reclused into the confines of a living room with Star Trek videos or are already hooked up with a two-bit jerk who belongs in jail!

This book not only woke me up and allowed me to see right through it all, but also provided a how-to on dealing with it. The results : no more anxiety, no more dangling to the manipulative whims of game-playing girls who think that they can continue to do what they do and expect to get away with it!. No more, now it's our turn.

Girls are nice, they mean well BUT where they fail is simple : They want a nice, caring compassionate guy who empathizes with their universe of problems - however, when that guy DOES come along, he gets walked ALL over and gets left behind for the arrogant jerk, who the same women later complain about - yet can't leave! Sort your lives out, ladies please!