How to Get Your Husband to Talk to You [Paperback]

Connie Grigsby (Author), Nancy Cobb (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: April 3, 2001

"What's a topic that all women can relate to?" asked authors Nancy Cobb and Connie Grigsby as they brainstormed the dynamic sequel to Is There a Moose in Your Marriage? Now the two women's ministries leaders have collaborated on a primer that promises to resolve the age-old mystery of communication between the sexes -- and leave men and women conversing happily. Cobb and Grigsby present a five-step "training program" for women who choose to love their husbands more effectively, but need practical help learning the best approach. Chapters on loving, learning, listening, loyalty, and laughter guide a wife up five "levels" of mastering essential skills to promote unity, trust, and friendship with the man whose company she most enjoys and desires.A man comes home and says to his wife,

“I had a horrible day at work today.”

“Tell me about it,” she says.

“I just did,” he replies.

Men and women communicate differently—and, all-too-often, not at all! This book is a sort of “linguistics” school that will teach you to speak your husband’s language: male!

Discover simple ways to: Cultivate a sense of humor about your male and female differences. Open conversations with your mate, and keep them going. Frame what you are saying within masculine interest areas. Respond proactively to what your husband shares—promoting more sharing! Develop thicker skin. (This alone is worth the price of the book. This will be your husband’s favorite thing you’ve ever done…well, almost!)

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About the Author

Connie Grigsby

Connie Grigsby enjoys using humor and practicality to share with others the love and joy that can only be found in Christ. She received a bachelor of science degree from the University of Oklahoma and has worn a variety of hats, including teacher, speaker, columnist, and radio guest. She and her husband, Wesley, have three daughters. They also make their home in Omaha.

Nancy Cobb

Nancy Cobb is a popular speaker at women's retreats. She led a Bible study of over 500 women for four years in Raleigh, North Carolina, and has previously worked on the team of Anne Graham Lotz, daughter of Billy Graham, in teaching seminars to women at the Billy Graham Training Center. She is the Leader of Women's Ministries at Christ Community Church, a congregation of over 5,000, and spends much of her time mentoring younger women. She and her husband, Ray, have four grown children and live in Omaha, Nebraska.

Product Details

• Paperback: 288 pages
• Publisher: Multnomah Books (April 3, 2001)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1576737713
• ISBN-13: 978-1576737712
• Product Dimensions: 8.2 x 5.1 x 0.8 inches
• Shipping Weight: 10.4 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 4.1 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (15 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #2,117,603 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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21 of 22 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars There's Truth between these covers!, March 13, 2002

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Chris Peters (Austin, Texas) - See all my reviews
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As a man, the best thing I can say about this book is that it is dead on correct about men. I have no idea if it will bring comfort to wives or even change to marriages, but at least you can trust that the information you are getting here is normal, down-to-earth common sense about men from a woman's perspective (the authors are women), and from there you can do with it what you want.

The book's audience is young wives in their 30s or late 20s, and this reflects a situation I am seeing so often in this (my) generation - both partners begin with seperate careers and consider each other equals, yet the husband and wife gradually shift towards more traditional division of labor (stay-at-home mom, bread-winning dad, blah blah) as the marriage solidifies - not out of obligation but out of choice and trust. The example stories in this book clearly show young busy mothers with healthy social lives and husbands who watch football and are busy trying to succeed at their new careers. The men are quiet and their wives are curious and caring, period. No big mysteries, just age old sexual misunderstandings.

This isn't a "marriage-in-crisis" book, but rather a manual on how to fine tune your relationship from the position of an already loving (but perhaps not perfect) marriage. It suggests understanding of men from the woman's part, and doesn't ask that men change or understand you at all. Thus this book is largely intended for you to love your husband (even more than you already do) by learning about his basic nature and enhancing your relationship with him. From there you can better communicate your needs to him, and through his naturaly desire to help you, he will strive to meet those needs. (a lot harder than it sounds, I know) The authors give God a minor yer important role in this process, and anyone with or without a spiritual leaning will find this book complimentary. The authors don't strike old fashioned "woman is her husband's servant" stances, but they aren't feminists either - they portray men as they are, and suggest you improve your marriage, not your man. So, if you are struggling to come to grips with the stereotypical weaknesses of males and perhaps your mate, this isn't the book for you.

The writing itself is very focused - chapters often lasting only 3-4 pages, and each ends with a short "recap" sentance. This method makes the book very accessable, with over a hundred chapters for you to quickly find some comfort for whatever problem is bother you. One piece of advice, it's in the book but might be overlooked or underemphasized: read the chapter titled "Don't Make Him a 'Project'" and take its lessons to heart, as the right knowledge with the wrong emphasis can backfire on you.

9 of 9 people found the following review helpful:

2.0 out of 5 stars Some good ideas, but tone is a bit degrading to women, March 20, 2008

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I really wanted to like this book...however, the tone really makes a woman feel a bit like a doormat. There is little encouragement of actual being "real" with the person you are with. Intelligent women appreciate advice that allows them to be open and honest about their needs and to be able to compromise. The focus of this book seems to leave this out.

4 of 4 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars This book completely opened my eyes!, January 8, 2007

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I was very hesitant to order this book being that my husband and I do "talk". However, I felt as if we had not have a normal conversation like when people date. We didn't talk about goals, interests, feelings, or anything else that came from the heart. We were merely exchanging essential information, such as, "Please pick up milk on your way home", or "What time will you be home?". I began to wonder why we were even together because although I wasn't unhappy, I was not truly happy. Little things got in the way like he wouldn't remember to take out the garbage, or he would forget birthdays, but yet he could remember very insignificant things that had nothing to do with him or myself. Upon receiving this book I felt like I finally had an answer, a complete answer. Most of the things discussed in this book can be found elsewhere, but only in bits and pieces. Why not get the whole solution, and from a Christian perspective? If you employ these solutions to your real problems, whether big or small, your relationship can turn around like magic!