How to Give Her Absolute Pleasure: Totally Explicit Techniques Every Woman Wants Her Man to Know [Hardcover]

Lou Paget (Author)

Book Description

Release date: January 11, 2000

What, and where, is the G-spot? Where do women like to be touched, and how? For every man who's hungry to please the woman he adores, a refreshingly modern, tastefully explicit, and totally honest guide to giving your woman absolute pleasure.

Millions of men out there are looking for the real scoop on what women like, and want to learn how to really "rub them the right way," but are either afraid to ask or don't know where to look.  And millions of women are looking for ways to tell men what really turns them on, but don't know how to put their desires into words.

Well, search no further!  How to Give Her Absolute Pleasure will take you to another level as a lover, providing you with the proven techniques and explicit advice that have made author Lou Paget one of the world's most respected and sought-after sexuality experts.

Based on the secrets shared by hundreds of men and women in Lou's enormously popular Sexuality Seminars, How to Give Her Absolute Pleasure gives the true scoop on what women really like, and why, along with detailed surefire techniques guaranteed to drive any girl wild.  Packed with little-known details and steamy tips and tricks--from the nooks and crannies of a woman's body to the fine "art of tongue"--How to Give Her Absolute Pleasure removes the mystery from woman's sexuality and shows you how to enhance your bedroom expertise. With tips on creating the ideal romantic atmosphere, finding her elusive erogenous zones (there are more than you'd think), and mastering the delicate art of foreplay, Lou provides the down-and-dirty details on the ins and outs of amazing oral and manual sex, innovative intercourse positions, and most important, how to capture the big O.

Complete with over seventy step-by-step illustrations, as well as a catalog of sex toys and tips on how to use them, How to Give Her Absolute Pleasure is a refreshingly straightforward, always stimulating guide that will take you and your partner to new levels of ecstasy and intimacy.

Editorial Reviews

Amazon.com Review

"Women are like golf courses," writes sex educator Lou Paget. "Even though you may have played a course a hundred times, chances are your approach shot rarely lands in the same place on the green." How to Give Her Absolute Pleasure was written for men who want to please women. Much of the book focuses on foreplay (Paget comments that we need to rename it) designed to "excite both her mind and her body." The author offers a variety of strategies for romancing and relaxing a woman and making her feel comfortable. If you don't, she claims, "nothing you can do can rev her engine". Then she describes ways of "kissing her, touching her, and teasing her." Paget includes "a topographical guide" of a woman's body, starting with the sensual areas of the head and face and moving down. She describes ways to massage, caress, lick, kiss, and otherwise excite all these regions. She also discusses lubricants ("slippery, slidy, marvelous stuff"), condoms, manual stimulation, "the art of tongue," sex toys, and a variety of positions (clearly illustrated) for everything you might do. The book is in no way formulaic--in fact, Paget continually stresses that some women love having a particular body part touched in a certain way, while others can't stand it. Whether you're a novice or consider yourself sexually sophisticated, you'll learn plenty from Paget. --Joan Price

From Library Journal

Paget's How To Be a Great Lover (LJ 1/99) was a unique and useful sex manual for women about men. Now this "sexpert" is back to tell men how to arouse women-stressing the best and most versatile uses of hands and mouth. Having spent the last seven years giving sexuality seminars and working as an AIDS volunteer, she quite appropriately places sager sex advice upfront, in Chapter 2. Her discussion of intercourse positions is complete and concise, and she includes a good chapter on sex toys. Her organized approach, good illustrations, and judicious use of metaphors (women are like hockey, with shooting and scoring) should appeal to men. Heartily recommended for public libraries.
Martha Cornog, Philadelphia
Copyright 2000 Reed Business Information, Inc.

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Product Details

• Hardcover: 240 pages
• Publisher: Harmony; 1 edition (January 11, 2000)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0767904524
• ISBN-13: 978-0767904520
• Product Dimensions: 8.5 x 5.8 x 0.8 inches
• Shipping Weight: 11.2 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.1 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (78 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #50,500 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

Combining fifteen years of sexuality research with her experience as a sex educator, Lou Paget is the author of the acclaimed sex guide for women How to be a Great Lover, and is the instructor and founder of the nationally recognized and wildly popular Sexuality Seminars. Lou has appeared in Cosmopolitan, Marie Claire, and Redbook. She lives in Los Angeles, California.

Most Helpful Customer Reviews

707 of 742 people found the following review helpful

2.0 out of 5 stars Pretty Basic March 3, 2003

By A Customer

Format:Hardcover

I just got married on New Year's Eve, and my mother-in-law (who is totally cool) gave me a big stack of sex-instruction books as a wedding present. This was one of them among the pile, which also included "5 Minutes to Orgasm Every Time," "Satisfaction" by Kim Kattral, "The Bedside Kama Sutra" by Linda Sonntag, "9 Free Secrets of New Sensual Power" by Clint Arthur, and "Secrets of Sensual Lovemaking" by Tom Leonardi. I took the whole lot with me to Hawaii on our honeymoon, studied them thoroughly, and from my bride's reaction to the things I put into good use during our ten days in the tropics, I got an "A" on the final exam.

So here's what I learned, and a few bits of advice I have for anyone who is searching this category in earnest for some self-help in the area of mastering the skills of making love and making a woman scream with sexual ecstasy. #)1 There really is a lot of information available on how to be a MUCH better lover. One would think that sex is just sex, and that all these books are just a bunch of hype, but it's just not true. There's thousands of years of education and study in this field, and it can make a dramatic difference. To get a little personal, my wife and I were by no means virgins when we got married -- in fact, we'd been having what we both considered to be GREAT sex together for almost three years of dating and being engaged. But after I read these books and put the lessons into action, UNBELIEVABLE FIREWORKS went off for her and me both. So picking the right book out of this bunch can be a worthy investment of your time and efforts

2) There is a big difference between these books. Some are written by women, others by men, some are just about how to give HER pleasure, others are about the COUPLE getting pleasure. Choose what you are going to order very carefully.... I would say that if you are a woman wanting to give pleasure to a woman you should pick one of the books by a female author, and if you are a man (or buying this book for a man) you should get one of the books by a man. Even though the text may be directed toward men, and the information may be what women want men to know, it's easier for a man to relate and understand the messages when he's hearing it from a man. So, for the women seeking advice on how to pleasure a female lover, go for Kim Cattral's, Lou Paget's or Linda Sonntag's books. But for men wanting to learn how to give women pleasure, get Tom Leonardi's or Clint Arthur's book. Those guys really know what they're talking about.

#3) No matter what Lou Paget says in her fine book "How to Give Her Absolute Pleasure", while I do think that a woman's pleasure is central to the issue of Great Sex, I don't think it can or should exist in a vacuum. And many women (luckily for me, my wife included) ENJOY giving pleasure to men. And there's much breakthru information on that available here as well. As long as you are getting one of these books, you should factor that into the equation as well, which is available only in Clint Arthur's book. So think about that.

#4) Lastly, sex can be such a powerful force. It creates bonds of intimacy and communication between lovers, and it can even have a powerful impact on most areas of a person's life, including one's health, wealth, and overall level of fulfillment. It's an awesome part of leading a rich life, and with the proper respect and amount of study, huge impacts can be achieved. Which is why I really advise all the men and women to look seriously at "9 Free Secrets of New Sensual Power" as THE choice above all the others in this category. As far as information is concerned, it has everything you'll find in all the other books, plus a whole lot more. But more importantly, it has a whole-life perspective on sex that none of the others delivers, and that will change your life much more than even the GREAT sex it will teach you how to enjoy. Read more ›

63 of 64 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars What Every Man Should Know January 25, 2000

By Oscar Travsmarts

Format:Hardcover

Women are mysterious, or at least I always thought they were, but a soft, romantic light is shed on this mystery of feminine sexuality by Lou Paget's engaging, readable book. She covers everything from foot massage to massage of, well, more intimate body parts. But the proof will be with your partner, and mine says, "every woman should give this book to her lover." But smart men will buy it for themselves and just surprise her with all they know about what REALLY turns her on.

226 of 248 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent Concise guide for men to Love their Women January 24, 2000

By Rick Wine

Format:Hardcover

An excellent book, created out of experience from Lou Paget's seminars and workshops. The techniques are well explained and illustrated, the tone of writing is on a personal basis making the information easy to accept and apply. Of at least equal importance to the great variety and explanation of "how to" techniques, is the early discussion of setting the mood, consideration of caring approach , and simple "partner considerations" that do so much to pave the way to opening the mind for rewarding and exciting new fulfillment in sexual relationships. I sure recommend getting the first of Lou Paget's book, "How to be a Great Lover" to go with this (gift it to your partner!), they make a GREAT compliment to each other and makes a great mutual gift for the lady and gentleman in the relationship. From mood setting before the foreplay to the ultimate "breathtaking" inimacy and beyond, this is very worth reading and USING! We will continue to enjoy these books for a LONG time! Thanks Lou and Tara!

26 of 26 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars Not Confused Anymore September 28, 2001

By Bobby Nickells

Format:Hardcover

Women can really be difficult to figure out when it comes to satisfying her. Well this book explains in detail on what your average woman likes. I don't think any other book comes close to this one. I have a copy of Women, Sex and Dating, For The Single Man and this too is one of the best, because it explains in detail on what she likes in the bedroom, but Paget's book is the best of them all.

Paget gives great advice on how to give a woman mutilple orgasms and how to put her in the mood. That was my biggest problem, how to put her in the mood. Much of this advice also comes from other women on what they like. How can you go wrong? If you want to know all about women and sex, without having to ask, read this.

Other books to read are Lesbian Sex Secrets, Women, Sex And Dating For The Single Man, The Art Of Kissing & I'm Not In The Mood; What Every Woman Should Know About Improving Her Low Libido (The BEST book to read if you are with a woman with no sexual desire).

37 of 39 people found the following review helpful

3.0 out of 5 stars Good, but not what it promises August 11, 2005

By M. Thomsen

Format:Hardcover

This book has lots of good advice, and is definitely helpful. However, if you're looking for something specific with detailed explanations, keep looking. Most of the advice is simply advice such as "ask her what she wants," "get her comfortable," and "be safe." Specific techniques are rarely explained, and when they are the wording is confused and hard to follow (though occasionally the diagrams help).

28 of 29 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars Enlightening July 31, 2003

By A Customer

Format:Hardcover|Amazon Verified Purchase

I bought this book a while back and never read it. Recently, I began reading it and trying the different suggestions on my girlfriend as I came across them in the book. This started driving her really wild. I knew a lot of the things covered in this book but never considered the various possible approaches to doing these things, e.g., building anticipation in a female. There are so many ways to do this. I told my girlfriend about the book and she plans on buying three for her brother-in-laws! This is a thorough, entertaining, and enlightening book that can assist about any man in correcting common misconceptions about sexuality and making the woman in his life happier.