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Product Details

  • Hardcover: 256 pages
  • Publisher: Broadway books (January 12, 1999)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0767902874
  • ISBN-13: 978-0767902878
  • Product Dimensions: 5.7 x 0.9 x 8.5 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 14.9 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.6 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (145 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #152,376 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

Editorial Reviews Review

Sex should be "an experience to be relished from beginning to end," says Lou Paget in How to Be a Great Lover: Girlfriend-to-Girlfriend Totally Explicit Techniques That Will Blow His Mind. Paget (a woman) aims "to empower you as a woman, heighten the intimacy of your romantic relationship, and enable you and your partner to enjoy yourselves in intense new ways." She lives up to that promise with this friendly, titillating, educational, and explicit guide to enlivening your sex life and keeping your man coming back for more. Is he a bad kisser? Learn an easy strategy to get him to kiss you just the way you like it. Does he object to using a condom? Use your mouth to put it on him (a six-step process, complete with illustrations). You'll find information you might not find anywhere else, such as dozens of explicit manual and oral techniques (many illustrated) that will drive him crazy, a comparison of different brands of lubricant for different uses (along with sexy ways to apply it), techniques for anal stimulation, and a guide to sex toys. This book is fun to read, and will certainly open up the sensuality in your relationship. --Joan Price


Praise for How to Be a Great Lover

"An excellent guide for women who want to expand their bedroom skills and put more fun and excitement into lovemaking.  I highly recommend it."
--John Gray, author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

"Lou Paget is funny, informative, and classy.  She is dedicated to teaching women to express their sexuality from a place of empowerment and power, not just for the sake of man-pleasing.  Her course taught me some tricks even I'd never thought of!"
--Laurie Sue Brockway, former Editor-in-chief, Playgirl magazine, and author of How to Seduce a Man and Keep Him Seduced

"Finally, a how-to sex book that actually tells you how to.  Women readers will gain skill and confidence, men will gain pleasure and will respond by giving their women more pleasure.  A lot of couples will have much more enjoyable sex because of Lou Paget's down-to-earth, practical, and altogether excellent advice."
--Dr. Bernie Zilbergeld, Ph.D., author of The New Male Sexuality

"Lou gave the Jane staff one of her sexuality seminars, and it rocked!  This book is definitely the next best thing."
--Jane Pratt, editor-in-chief, Jane magazine

More About the Author

Combining fifteen years of sexuality research with her experience as a sex educator, Lou Paget is the author of the acclaimed sex guide for women How to be a Great Lover, and is the instructor and founder of the nationally recognized and wildly popular Sexuality Seminars. Lou has appeared in Cosmopolitan, Marie Claire, and Redbook. She lives in Los Angeles, California.

Customer Reviews

This was an informative (and fun!)
She then told me that she had read this book, I must say that having been on the receiving end it is HIGHLY recommended!
Bill Thomson
If you like to give your man oral sex, then this is the book for you.

Most Helpful Customer Reviews

114 of 115 people found the following review helpful By "marianne_b" on October 17, 2001
Format: Hardcover
And I've read more than a few of them. I've been in a couple of long-term relationships, and I really didn't think I had much to learn until I picked this up in the bookstore. One look at the instructions and drawings for "Ode to Bryan" (a technique for manual stimulation described in the book) and I was sold.

Lou Paget has written a book that is refreshingly straightforward, respectful of monogamy and relationships, unabashedly sensual, and undeniably specific and USEFUL. At the same time, it's not gimmicky. The problem I have with most sex manuals is the space they waste on recipes for sexual side dishes, hors d'oeuvres you may serve up once in a while. Lou's book is pure entree--meat and potatoes that you, and your partner, will enjoy every night. In other words, most sex manuals are an issue of "Martha Stewart Living"; this is "The Joy of Cooking."

You may be doubtful about buying a book like this. Maybe, like me, you figure that if you are good enough at communicating with your partner, you don't need it. Well, I was wrong. The fact is that men are not necessarily good at explaining what they like--either because they are shy about it or because they have never experienced great loving. If you think about it, the reverse is also true. Haven't you ever had a lover who introduced you to something new--an incredible, wonderful surprise that you now can't live without?

Whether you are experienced or inexperienced, need help in the bedroom or think you know it all, this book is for you. It's like sitting down with your three best straight girlfriends and/or gay male friends and having a no-holds-barred information-sharing session about what makes men tick (and explode).

If you are open to making your sex life incredible, this will be the best $$$ you've ever spent. (Less than that, at a discount!) Take the plunge. The information you will gain is priceless.
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60 of 60 people found the following review helpful By A Customer on November 15, 1999
Format: Hardcover
Even if you already have a great sex life, buy this book! You will be amazed at the reaction you will get when you try out a few simple techniques. The book will pay for itself in one night (or morning, or afternoon). The moves on pages 143-147 had unbelievable results: after regaining his composure, my husband said "that was the BEST EVER" ... only to be left absolutely speechless two nights later. What are you waiting for? Buy this book NOW!
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68 of 71 people found the following review helpful By Caz on June 28, 2000
Format: Hardcover
If you want to fine-tune your sexual prowess between the sheets, or spice up your love life a little, then this book is for you.
Author Lou Paget doesn't hold back and gives some of the best tips'n'tricks on pleasing your man. I bought this book on a whim - I found that I'd already discovered some of the 'tricks' on my own - and was pleasantly suprised to find some oft-not-talked-about topics of foreplay.
This was an informative (and fun!) read... best read when the two of you are in bed and feeling adventurous and ready to explore. We laughed, and he moaned... and moaned. And begged for more.
If you think sex between husband and wife is boring, dull, unpleasurable then go get yourself a copy of this book. You won't after you've tried some of the tips in this tome.
Get the book, go play, and have fun!
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39 of 39 people found the following review helpful By girldiver on March 27, 2005
Format: Hardcover
There are a multitude of books on sexual technique and sexuality but often many books are hype rather than help. I have found in reading any Lou Paget book to be both inspiring and helpful. Lou Paget is the author of several books on sexuality. She does concentrate on heterosexual sex but most all the information contained in her books can be utilized for alternative sexual lifestyles.

The book is organized into ten very informative chapters:

1. The Kama Lou Tra

2. Beyond the Bedroom

3. The Art of Kissing

4. Safety is Essential

5. To Lube or Not to Lube

6. Give that Man a Hand

7. Blowing His.....Mind!

8. The Outer Limits

9. Coming Together At Last

10. Pearls and Other Passionate Playthings

The Kama Lou Tra concentrates on how the author came to teach sexuality seminars and writing her books on sexual techniques. One of the many reasons I continue to buy and read books by Lou Paget is her writing style: clear, intelligent, and friendly advice. Her books are always very helpful and written very well. Never is it too complicated to follow or understand and always in a friendly round table tone.

The rest of the book gives explicit details on subjects of pure pleasure. I must comment that in the second chapter, Beyond the Bedroom is incredibly insightful for women. I really loved the fact that Lou took the time to not only tell about specific techniques in her book but asked men what they really thought of sex, women, and what they consider the most important attribute to have in a sexual partner. As a woman who loves sex I must say I have found that the statements made on page 29 paragraph one and two under "Bodily Bliss" are right on.
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58 of 61 people found the following review helpful By A Customer on September 11, 1999
Format: Hardcover
This is a must read for every woman. It takes you to the height of power over a man you never thought you had. It is informative and very forward. When you read this and it will be more than once, it is unbelieveable what can happen to your sex life. If your relationship is on the rocks and you want to spice it up, read this. You will see the difference in your man. You have the power after reading this and at the same time does wonders for you. Have read many other books and this is the "ONE" and only to have. It will be your bible. I have given it to other women and actually have laundermat seminars talking about this book. Your man will actually look forward to the attention from you and you will be rewarded. BUY IT NOW!!! As they say knowledge is power and "oh boy" it sure is.
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