How to Be a Great Lover [Hardcover]

Lou Paget (Author)

Book Description

Release date: January 12, 1999

One of America's most popular sexperts offers a fun, refreshingly modern, totally explicit guide to mastering a man's body.

No matter what age we are or how much experience we have, we all want to be great lovers. Most of the sex guides for women, however, have been prudish, esoteric, or incomplete. The ultimate sexual instruction book for women, How to Be a Great Lover gives you the down and dirty details that you really want to know on exactly what men like and why, and shares the proven erotic techniques that make for incredible sex you'll both enjoy.  

Acclaimed sex expert Lou Paget draws on the real-life experience of the hundreds of men and women who have attended her workshops and presents their secrets and tricks in an elegant, no-nonsense style. Lou has found that in the bedroom (or closet, or kitchen), knowledge equals confidence, and confidence will make you feel empowered, heighten the intimacy of your relationship, and enable you and your partner to enjoy yourselves in a variety of intense, new ways. Whether you are starting a new relationship, have run out of creative ideas, or want to light his fire all over again, How to Be a Great Lover has enough spicy tips and surprises to excite both of you and leave him begging for more.

From kissing techniques, ways to create the right atmosphere, and a lesson on safe sex--including the "Italian Method" of putting a condom on a man with your mouth--to twenty different manual techniques and the secrets of great oral sex,  Lou covers all the basics and more.  She offers innovative positions for intercourse, tantalizing moves you can do with a pearl necklace, and a beginner's guide to anal stimulation, as well as a catalogue of sex toys and how to use them.  With more than ninety step-by-step illustrations that will show you how to drive him wild, How to Be a Great Lover provides proven, sure-fire techniques that will make you a master of the bedroom.

Editorial Reviews

Amazon.com Review

Sex should be "an experience to be relished from beginning to end," says Lou Paget in How to Be a Great Lover: Girlfriend-to-Girlfriend Totally Explicit Techniques That Will Blow His Mind. Paget (a woman) aims "to empower you as a woman, heighten the intimacy of your romantic relationship, and enable you and your partner to enjoy yourselves in intense new ways." She lives up to that promise with this friendly, titillating, educational, and explicit guide to enlivening your sex life and keeping your man coming back for more. Is he a bad kisser? Learn an easy strategy to get him to kiss you just the way you like it. Does he object to using a condom? Use your mouth to put it on him (a six-step process, complete with illustrations). You'll find information you might not find anywhere else, such as dozens of explicit manual and oral techniques (many illustrated) that will drive him crazy, a comparison of different brands of lubricant for different uses (along with sexy ways to apply it), techniques for anal stimulation, and a guide to sex toys. This book is fun to read, and will certainly open up the sensuality in your relationship. --Joan Price

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Praise for How to Be a Great Lover

"An excellent guide for women who want to expand their bedroom skills and put more fun and excitement into lovemaking.  I highly recommend it."
--John Gray, author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

"Lou Paget is funny, informative, and classy.  She is dedicated to teaching women to express their sexuality from a place of empowerment and power, not just for the sake of man-pleasing.  Her course taught me some tricks even I'd never thought of!"
--Laurie Sue Brockway, former Editor-in-chief, Playgirl magazine, and author of How to Seduce a Man and Keep Him Seduced

"Finally, a how-to sex book that actually tells you how to.  Women readers will gain skill and confidence, men will gain pleasure and will respond by giving their women more pleasure.  A lot of couples will have much more enjoyable sex because of Lou Paget's down-to-earth, practical, and altogether excellent advice."
--Dr. Bernie Zilbergeld, Ph.D., author of The New Male Sexuality

"Lou gave the Jane staff one of her sexuality seminars, and it rocked!  This book is definitely the next best thing."
--Jane Pratt, editor-in-chief, Jane magazine

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Product Details

• Hardcover: 256 pages
• Publisher: Broadway books (January 12, 1999)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0767902874
• ISBN-13: 978-0767902878
• Product Dimensions: 5.7 x 0.9 x 8.6 inches
• Shipping Weight: 1.9 pounds (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.5 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (139 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #65,309 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

Combining fifteen years of sexuality research with her experience as a sex educator, Lou Paget is the author of the acclaimed sex guide for women How to be a Great Lover, and is the instructor and founder of the nationally recognized and wildly popular Sexuality Seminars. Lou has appeared in Cosmopolitan, Marie Claire, and Redbook. She lives in Los Angeles, California.

Most Helpful Customer Reviews

247 of 254 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars Abolutely a great book that will blow your lovers mind! May 9, 2001

By I. kohlman

Format:Hardcover

This wonderful book has received many great reviews and rightfully so, I don't know what to say that other readers haven't already said, other than this is a GREAT book and these are my reasons for thinking so!

This book is written in a totally readable style and includes literally thousands of mind-blowing techniques to use on your man. The author, Lou Paget has spent the last 15 years as a sex educator so she knows what she's talking about. The book does not use vulgar terms to describe body parts and treats the whole sexual experience respectfully. How to Be a Great Lover runs the gambit on sexual experiences between a man and a woman. Every possible thing you could think of is included in the handy little book. Some of the chapters include: how to create a sensual environment, the art of kissing, safer sex, lubrication issues, hand jobs, oral sex, anal sex, actual intercourse, and sex toys. There are detailed drawings of everything you could possibly have questions about in this book. Personally, I found the drawings of all of the different ways to give a man a hand job very helpful. (Like they say: a picture is worth a thousand words). Another interesting thing about this book are the little bubbles included throughout the book. They are called "Secret from Lou's Archives" and include little known facts about whatever the chapter is about. I would highly recommend this book to anyone who has sex, engages in foreplay or kissing, wants their sex life to be better, or anyone who is thinking about engaging in sexual activities. There are so many neat tricks in this book that your sex life will never get dull. Lou Paget's book HOW TO BE A GREAT LOVER is sure to put some pizazz back into your sex life.

This book is a fun, informative guide for women who want to master their bedroom skills. Paget provides a no-nonsense guide for women. Her advice is intended to empower you and give you confidence, enabling you to enjoy greater intimacy in the bedroom.

Let's face it, we all want to have a great sex life. Even if you THINK you know everything, you will learn a few new tricks from this book. What do men like and why? You will find out in this book. Without getting too explicit here, just let me say that after reading this book, you find out all you will ever need to know about how to truly please, excite, and satisfy your man.

108 of 108 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars The best sex how-to book I've ever read. October 17, 2001

By "marianne_b"

Format:Hardcover

And I've read more than a few of them. I've been in a couple of long-term relationships, and I really didn't think I had much to learn until I picked this up in the bookstore. One look at the instructions and drawings for "Ode to Bryan" (a technique for manual stimulation described in the book) and I was sold.

Lou Paget has written a book that is refreshingly straightforward, respectful of monogamy and relationships, unabashedly sensual, and undeniably specific and USEFUL. At the same time, it's not gimmicky. The problem I have with most sex manuals is the space they waste on recipes for sexual side dishes, hors d'oeuvres you may serve up once in a while. Lou's book is pure entree--meat and potatoes that you, and your partner, will enjoy every night. In other words, most sex manuals are an issue of "Martha Stewart Living"; this is "The Joy of Cooking."

You may be doubtful about buying a book like this. Maybe, like me, you figure that if you are good enough at communicating with your partner, you don't need it. Well, I was wrong. The fact is that men are not necessarily good at explaining what they like--either because they are shy about it or because they have never experienced great loving. If you think about it, the reverse is also true. Haven't you ever had a lover who introduced you to something new--an incredible, wonderful surprise that you now can't live without?

Whether you are experienced or inexperienced, need help in the bedroom or think you know it all, this book is for you. It's like sitting down with your three best straight girlfriends and/or gay male friends and having a no-holds-barred information-sharing session about what makes men tick (and explode).

If you are open to making your sex life incredible, this will be the best $$$ you've ever spent. (Less than that, at a discount!) Take the plunge. The information you will gain is priceless.

55 of 55 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars You have to get this book! November 15, 1999

By A Customer

Format:Hardcover

Even if you already have a great sex life, buy this book! You will be amazed at the reaction you will get when you try out a few simple techniques. The book will pay for itself in one night (or morning, or afternoon). The moves on pages 143-147 had unbelievable results: after regaining his composure, my husband said "that was the BEST EVER" ... only to be left absolutely speechless two nights later. What are you waiting for? Buy this book NOW!