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helpful for husbands who hate their wives faith
on November 21, 2011
I was going to give it 2 stars since i don't hate anything....but decided to give it one star to give fair warning to future buyers before purchasing. I may up it to 2 stars at a later date. First of all, i bought this book because my husband is unsure of his salvation & by his outward self, I'd say he's not saved. He is full of anger, turns all things around on me, sees me cry because of his words and doesn't comfort me, basically isn't really shining how the Lord would have him. He goes to church with me! I have to wake him up to get him to go and he says he does not go for me, but every Sunday, it never fails, he's fast asleep and I get the kids bathed, clothed, etc etc alone and then wake him up so he can get ready. So, i thought this book would help a person like me - but instead it deals mostly with men who resent their wives faith in God. My husband knows better than to resent God openly...which i guess is a good thing, but I am dealing with a fake husband. One who goes to church and acts a certain way & gets to the parking lot and in the car starts getting angry because of the kids being whiny, basically I have a husband who hears the word, but it's in one ear and out the other. I was hoping this book would touch base on those living with husbands in general aren't living in God's will, not just about husbands who hate Chrsitianity. This books main focus is about the man who is angry about his wife being a christian. It also spends most of the time telling the woman how she shouldn't be beating herself up about her husbands salvation. I never beat myself up over it, although I do spend time crying about why I have to deal with a husband like this. But I never think it's my fault he's not saved, even though most pastors will tell you to submit and he'll get saved. I always knew it was my husband who's shoulder that rested on, not mine. I also know that i can be a better wife. I really was hoping this would be a self help book, helping a wife of an unsaved husband deal with a husband who has the devil in him. I was hoping I would learn how to deal with his anger at the world, some strategies I could use so I don't fall into the trap of stooping to his level. As a newly saved christian i was looking for direction on how to be a better wife, despite my husband trying to bring me to a low level. I wanted to know how i could acheive victory and ways i could be more Christ-like when I have someone acting out against me all the time. This wasn't the book. I can sum the book up by this: Don't beat yourself up over your husband not being saved, don't think it's your fault or that there is anything you can do - God has to do it (and so does your husband) Pray that the Lord save your husband, learn to understand that the unsaved husbands anger toward your faith is the devil and submit because it's your choice, not because you HAVE to, but because you want to please God. It doesn't go in depth about submission, either. This book, for me, was a waste of money, really dissapointed. IF your husband is unsaved and you have been saved for a long time AND your husband HATES that you are saved and hates christians....this book might help you. If you are newly saved and waiting for your husband to come around and have never grown up in the church and don't know the bible's roles for women and want to learn - this is NOT the book for you, it won't help you. I didn't grow up in the church, my mom was the head of my household & I was really hoping to get more insight into how I can live for Jesus in spite of my circumstances...