How to Instantly Connect with Anyone: 96 All-New Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships [Paperback]

Leil Lowndes (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: April 6, 2009

Meet new people and converse with confidence
Be credible and charismatic in every social and business situation
Make friends and important contacts wherever you go
Command the respect of everyone you meet

You know who they are. They're the people who, regardless of money, education, looks, or personality, make an impression wherever they go. They are master communicators, and everyone enjoys talking to them. How to Develop Great People Skills shows you how to be one of those lucky few.

Communication guru Leil Lowndes arms you with ninety-six all-new, cutting edge, research-based communications techniques for success in life, love, and business. You will smash the invisible glass ceiling that keeps many people down both personally and professionally. Your new weapon is a neurologically and psychologically sound concept called “Emotional Prediction,” or E.P. Leil Lowndes explains the power of EP and shows you how to harness it through deceptively simple methods to reach greater success in all of your relationships.

An enhanced ebook is now available with 11 demonstration video clips, including 5 never-before-published techniques! Select the Kindle Edition with Audio/Video from the available formats.

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About the Author

Leil Lowndes is one of today's most sought-after communication speakers and consultants through her company Applause, Inc. and is author of the international bestsellers How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You and How to Talk to Anyone.

Product Details

• Paperback: 336 pages
• Publisher: McGraw-Hill; 1 edition (April 6, 2009)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0071545859
• ISBN-13: 978-0071545853
• Product Dimensions: 8.3 x 5.5 x 0.9 inches
• Shipping Weight: 9.6 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.2 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (20 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #36,598 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
  • #98 in Books > Health, Fitness & Dieting > Personal Health > Stress > Stress Management

More About the Author

Everybody knows that authors write their own bios and comments! And most paint a rosy picture of their books. It's only natural. (Besides, their publishers would strangle them if they didn't.)

So my conscience lets me sleep at night I'm going to live dangerously and do something a little different. But don't tell my publisher! Because I want you to enjoy and get a lot out of any of my books that you choose, I'll give you my HONEST opinion of which ones are good, which are only OK, and which is lousy.

BTW, Meeting Planners, I don't want the photo to scare you away if you're looking for a speaker. I chose it because I always write in jeans, not the speech giving suit that's on my website. You'll find my speaker's bio there, www.lowndes.com

Back to books. IMHO, these first two books are fabulous and practically all readers will get a lot out of them.

HOW TO TALK TO ANYONE (92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships)
This book helps you become a confident and charismatic communicator in both social and business relationships. The techniques unique. You won't find them anywhere else, and they are easy to learn. Readers have sent me email from all over the world telling me how it has changed their lives. (BTW, "TALKING THE WINNER'S WAY," is the same book because it was the original title. So please don't make a mistake and buy both.

HOW TO INSTANTLY CONNECT WITH ANYONE (96 All-New Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships)
This book similar to HOW TO TALK TO ANYONE but with 96 more completely different techniques for creating and maintaining relationships. Please read the rave Amazon reviews to see how both books have helped others. Just like "How to Talk to Anyone," there is a shaded box at the end of each chapter summarizing the technique. (I like to call them "Little Tricks.")

UPDATING (How to Date Out of Your League)
Thus is a dumb superficial book which I wrote when I was going through a tough period in my life. Don't buy it. You'd be wasting your money.

HOW TO BE A PEOPLE MAGNET (Finding Friends and Keeping Them for Life)
This book is OK but readers over 25 may find this book a bit too basic. However it is helpful for younger readers because it covers some of the fundamental skills for making friends.

HOW TO MAKE ANYONE FALL IN LOVE WITH YOU (85 Scientifically Proven Ways)
If you're looking for love, this one is great. The title says it all! You won't find any touchie-feelie stuff here. Each of the unusual 85 techniques is based on solid research with the studies referenced in the appendix. Some are subtle. Some are outrageous. But the bottom line is, they all work - if you follow them correctly.

GOOD-BYE TO SHY (85 ShyBusters that Work!)
This fine book comes straight from heart. I wrote this one because I understand so well the nightmare that Shy people go through. I was painfully timid as a teen. In fact my "Social Anxiety Disorder" is what made me dedicate my life to helping others become better communicators. In this book, I give you 85 "ShyBusters," many of which cured my own shyness, and many based on the latest research. Hundreds of readers have written telling me that the book "cured" their shyness. And countless others who aren't shy have told me how the book boosted their confidence to greater levels.

HOW TO TALK TO ANYBODY ABOUT ANYTHING (Breaking the Ice with Everyone from Accountants to Zen Buddhists)
I feel bad because the title is completely misleading. It sounds like it's communicating "techniques" similar to those in "How to Talk to Anyone" and "Instantly Connect." No, the book is just opening questions to ask people in a 100 different jobs and hobbies to make you sound like an insider and get good conversations going. It's useful for, say, salespeople or dentists who want to establish rapport with a wide variety of clients. Because of the confusion, I've taken the book off my website. If you're looking for techniques to become a better communicator, read the first two books in this list instead.

UNDERCOVER SEX SIGNALS (A Pick-up Guide for Guys)
OK, dude, this one's for you. Do you know that 97.6% of men in the world don't pick up on a woman's signals? They can't tell if a woman likes them or not? Yet, to us females, it's so obvious! Since pictures are worth a thousand words, I had 4 of my girlfriends, 3 of them top models, demonstrate the expressions and moves for you. When you learn to recognize them, you'll never strike out again. Why? Because, even before you make the first move, you'll know whether she likes you or not. Women, since men are so clueless, you can learn a lot from this book too. Just exaggerate each signal in the photos 10 times and guys MAY pick up on it!)

Most of my books are available in audio and for Kindle. If you're an audio-holic as I am, you'll find a complete list at my audio-publisher's website: http://www.listenandlive.com//advanced_search_result.php?osCsid=290102be0555c1bf04873a9b09e86388&keywords=Leil+Lowndes

Three short e-books just came out which are excerpts from "How to Talk to Anyone" and "How to Instantly Connect With Anyone."
If you have those two books, don't get:
BE CONFIDENT AND CHARISMATIC,
LOOK LIKE A SUCCESS, or
WIN ANYONE OVER
They are pretty much the same material.

Forgive me if I sound schmaltzy now. But I truly care about my readers and want you to buy only the books which are right for you. I'm grateful that you read them and am so happy when you write to tell me how they've helped your life. You can ask me questions and read my blog on my website, www.lowndes.com

Customer Reviews

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41 of 43 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars Compared to How to Talk to Anyone, April 28, 2010

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Jason Lee - See all my reviews
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This review is from: How to Instantly Connect with Anyone: 96 All-New Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships (Paperback)

This book is like a continuation to Leil Lowndes' How to Talk to Anyone. You should read that book first since it covers the basics, before reading this one.
The techniques referred to in this book are a bit more "advanced," you could say, and they generally apply to various scenarios one could be faced with, and there are no shortage of examples especially in the professional environment.
EP, or emotional prediction, is an essential concept covered in this book that has shaped my behavior and attitude during social interactions.
Overall, a great read and highly recommended.

49 of 58 people found the following review helpful:

2.0 out of 5 stars On the dumb side..., September 18, 2010

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GABRIELA O. Martinez - See all my reviews
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This review is from: How to Instantly Connect with Anyone: 96 All-New Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships (Paperback)

I did not find this interesting at all.

"Little tricks" include:
- When meeting someone new, press their pulse.
- Don't pat when you hug.
- Hover around to see where they sit first.
- Give people a schtick name.
- Speak s-l-o-w-l-y for nonnative speakers.
- Don't speak of your "haves" with "have-nots".
- Wave to imaginary friends.

If this sound interesting to you, by all means read this book!

6 of 7 people found the following review helpful:

3.0 out of 5 stars Not a book about connection -more about impressing and avoiding uncomfortable social situations, November 26, 2010

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deepest (USA) - See all my reviews

This review is from: How to Instantly Connect with Anyone (Audio CD)

The book is definetely worth to read, even if you might choose not to use some more weird and dishonest tricks. Some of them are great though like if the person asks you the same question again in the same conversation, author suggests using different wording for your answer.
That said, this book is not so much about connecting as I expected it to be from the title. It is more about some tricks to impress others and avoid uncomfortable situations and graciously helping others to do the same. I would call it the book of social etiquette.