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How to be Kinky: A Beginner's Guide to BDSM

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This book is exactly what the title claims. It's definitely for newbies looking to add a little spice to the bedroom and or basement. The author recommends that readers "take your time to learn what gets you hot and bothered and rest assured that just because you like a little bit of 'tie me up with some slap and tickle' in the bedroom doesn't necessarily mean you will give up your day job and start wearing leather 24/7." The sex educator author of this tome, further "wants to encourage others to explore their sexuality in a safe way without fear of reprisal, guilt, or shame either with one partner, or several, or solo. Flirt with your urges and explore."
The author, Morpheous, who is also a Toronto-based fetish photographer/artist has illustrated this beginner's guide book with many of his own pictures. Those images are more relaxed than most fetish photography in that the models are all having a good time; smiling, giggling, smirking and enjoying their role playing. This is a big improvement over the usual images that are designed to illustrate and reinforce the erotic aspects of fantasies of pain, punishment, fear and suffering. This is also a more realist portrayal of the activities detailed in this volume. The writing style has a touch of Toronto to it and that's a good thing. One of the more unusual chapters is a step-by-step guide for the reader and his partner to safely visit a professional Dominatrix or "Domina" as well as exploring the non-professional scene. This is an excellent guide for those people who will quickly discover that they only want to add a little kink as a form of foreplay to their normal sexual relationships. There are so many kinds of kinky activities including theatrical role playing and a whole universe of desirable, very sexy fetish fashions to collect that people in long-term relationships will greatly enhance their traditional love life. Practicing a little fetish adds some spark to what may have become routine.
It provides lots of opportunities throughout the day for planning and dreaming up the next exciting fantasy session(s). It encourages new forms of creativity and communication. That kind of full-time anticipation makes the love making itself infinitely more satisfying. A little hidden bruise, hickey, scratch mark or extra tender nipple from an earlier love making session provides constant reminders of the previous night's bliss.

I really enjoyed this book! I am not new to BDSM, it has been a passion for about 20 years, but even with this much experience I found it informative, engaging and very funny. I dare anyone to read about the author's mother's dishwasher and not LOL. I think this will be a classic and a must have for every kinkster's library.
Well done!
Aurora

Finally a reader-friendly how to book! This book is as user-friendly as it gets...the author writes as if he's actually talking right to you. The book is broken down into categories, so whether you're just curious about one little thing, or you've been online for years and think you're a pro but haven't ventured beyond your living room, this book is for you! I read this book cover to cover and frequently return to my favorite chapters. Buy this book and go sit by your mailbox. Its *that* good.

This is a great overview guide and a "must-have" for anyone interested or even curious about BDSM. It is NOT intended as a detailed primer; other books go into far greater detail. This book provides insight into just how broad the topic of BDSM is. Anyone can pick this book up, and in minutes discover something they didn't know.

Light reading; a nice book for the nightstand.

This book is more geared toward how to do kinky acts instead of how to start into a kinky lifestyle or kinky scenes. It is a good book if you already have a partner and want to start trying kink, but not for single people looking to start the lifestyle.

Those more familiar with the media-sensationalized aspects of the BDSM community expecting Morpheous to be the Marquis de Sade will be pleasantly disappointed. Morpheous is as erudite and intelligent as the Marquis but stresses constantly that all endeavours in the kink world be "safe, sane and consensual". This is the mantra which echoes throughout the book, as the author depicts and describes a vast array of delightful deviances and all the while states how they can be acted out without damaging either the body or the mind of anyone involved. Just as one should practice safe sex, so too should one practice safe kink.

This is not to say that sex and kink are one and the same, or that the latter is always accompanied by the former. The art of fetish is often sexually gratifying, but such things go so far beyond normal "vanilla" sex that sexual acts do not even need to be a part of kinky play. It is very complex and deep-reaching; the physical element of it is really merely the shell for its discovery of the psychological issues/qualities of its practitioners.

As such, "How To Be Kinky" is perhaps the best primer out there for those who wish to begin exploring interests they may only have dreamt of, and is vitally recommended reading for anyone new to offline kinky experiences. For those who wish to properly delve deeper still, Morpheous is working on a second book....

excellent book, very well written, from a realistic and sincere point of view.
Master Morpheus gives an inside look to bdsm, including all the vital things one has to know before making his/her fantasies come to real life.
definitely recommend it, i read it in a sip, totally enlightning.

I haven't finished reading this book yet but I am pretty far into it and I love all the tips and suggestions for role-plays in it. I bought it for my Master but I have been the one reading and marking it. I know from just looking at it online that I already loved it. ;) I highly recommend this. Very professional and love all the pictures it includes.

Because I decided to try my hand in writing some stories in the erotica genre, I thought it might be a good idea to read up on the subject. This book was recommended by some on the online [...], since [...] is my home away from home.

I admit it opened my eyes about the BDMS scene, and some of the toys mentioned in the book had me giggling. This is my first foray learning how to be kinky, and I think it's a great book for beginners like me.

J. A. Buxton
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I absolutely love this book,it explores not only the many different aspects of BDSM lifestyle,it also goes into terms and definitions to widen your understanding of them.I am somewhat experienced in this lifestyle,but there was alot i hadn't yet explored and this book introduced me to them.it helps you understand what you need to do to have and maintain the kind of kinky relationship you want,weather it be just sometimes to spice it up,or as more of a continuous role play,what i also like about this book is there are picture illustrations, and its fun to read,other books like this ive bought have been way to scientific for my boyfriend (whom im introducing to this lifestyle) to read,this book is much more fun,and easy to read,easing you into it,not throwing you in the middle of it. i recommend this book to anyone who is new to this and wants to explore it,or maybe to someone who has a partner they are looking to introduce to it,or even to somewhat experienced individuals who are just looking to understand more,its an all around awesome book! two thumbs up