"...In How to Love Your Marriage, Hogan describes proactive steps we can take to create the marriage we desirea marriage that can be a mutually supportive classroom, playground, and safe sanctuary.” Marriages provide the perfect arena for us to learn, love, laugh, and serve,” Hogan says, explaining that, in fact, relationships are the only place we can get such valuable feedback on how we present ourselves to the world.
According to Hogan, most of us have approached our relationships from an ego standpoint, bringing out needy and judgmental qualities which overshadow who we really are. When there is a difference (gap) between who you really are at your core (your soul) and how you are showing up (your ego), your self-esteem suffersand so do your relationships,” she says.
Fortunately, those barriers to positive self-esteem can be removed, and Hogan’s message is: it’s up to you to make those changes. She applies the EROS equation: Event + Response = Outcome and Solutions,” a formula that shows your power lies not in trying to change events, but rather in changing your responses to those events.
To help you do that, the book features Love Tips,” exercises, factoids, assessment tools and other practical ways to apply Hogan’s wisdom. There are also matter-of-fact chapters like What to Do When the Grass is Greener Over There,” and How to Be Your Own Relationship Advisor.”
And of course, you won’t want to skip the enticing excerpts from her With Aloha” column: Dear Eve, I am about to return to a relationship with a man I am married to but have lived away from for the last five years ”; Dear Eve, Every aspect of our relationship is great, except I have overpowering feelings of jealousy that are hard to control ”; Dear Eve, I really want to have a relationship with somebody, but I am insecure about my body Is there love out there for me, or will I have to wait until I’m perfect?”
Find out the answersand a whole lot morein How to Love Your Marriage.
5 out of 5 Shakas — Sky Barnhart, Maui Weekly.com, Bookshelf