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How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You Paperback – September 1, 1997
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Following some of her advice will have you treading that fine line between nice and obsequious, and at times, this book may sound offensive to some, advising the reader to play what may sound like games. Lowndes is aware of this, and she offers some caveats, but still it is hard to get past advice such as, "Show him you're smart, but remember--not too smart" or "Watch your Quarry's reactions to outside stimuli, then show the same emotions." In all fairness, Lowndes doesn't play favorites: her advice to men and women can be equally appalling. Yet, the relaxed style of this book, presenting solid wisdom with a bit of scientific support, makes this book appealing, and, who knows, maybe it will make you more appealing, too! --Jenny Brown
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The passion she brings to her writing and speaking on communication skills can be traced to childhood when she suffered almost debilitating shyness which lasted right through college. After being a teacher for six years and still feeling socially insecure, she decided to leave the teaching profession and work only in situations which put her in constant touch with a wide variety of individuals. Here is a short history of how she gained her insights and share them with the world.
After working with elementary school children, she decided to take the first step toward her goal by becoming an international flight attendant to feel at ease speaking with adults from all over the world. Still shy in front of crowds, however, tried acting to become confident on stage in. But, although she was very successful (even starring in a Broadway show,) she wasn't satisfied simply speaking from a playwright's script. To become comfortable addressing large audiences with her own "script," she became a cruise director on ships traveling around the world. That exhausting experience of dealing with people almost 24 hours a day, she said, would cure anyone's shyness!
Between trips, Leil worked as substitute host on New York's #1 radio talk show. Interviewing celebrities and political figures is how she became confident talking to anybody about anything.
After decades of communicating with all types and ages of people, Leil decided to write and speak to groups to share her knowledge with the public. Leil now conducts seminars for Fortune 500 companies and speaks at conventions, but her favorite type of communicating is still one-on-one talking with people.
She has written ten books, many of which have been translated into 26 languages. The best selling ones include: "How to Talk to Anyone," "How to Instantly Connect with Anyone," Good-bye to Shy," "How to Be a People Magnet," and "How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You."
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In short, a must read. I am sure that this book will open a new horizon for many "common male" like me.
p.s. In order to avoid any bad impression that I or the book is sheerly sex related, below please find some of my favorite techniques mentioned in the book.
No. 33 Employ Empathizers: Dust your discussion with phrases like "I see what you mean." "Yes, you were right." "I can related to that," and the all time favorite, "I understand."
No. 59 "How do you feel about that?": Whatever she is discussing, simply ask that. Go ahead, force yourself.
No. 65 "Tell me about it.": Beg her to tell you about it. Then listen - like a woman listens. It makes you a more loving man in your Quarry's eyes.
True, it has many insights and scientific data to prove its points (and i believe in them), However, for a woman, this book is telling her "to sell herself" to the man she desires. I recommend that you read "The Rules" (if you're a woman), because those tactics, though manipulative, really works.
I gave this book a four star because of the many surveys and results it gave. . .such as "a man is more likely to commit suicide after a broken heart than a woman", and things like "couples who undergo through a scary experience with each other tend to develop positive feelings for the other, and more strongly" (therefore when you plan a date, do something scary, or at the very least, exciting).
This book is a great book for those of you (even women) who are already in a stable relationship. It teaches you how to love a man, such as "bite your lips if you have to, but never ask him to ask for directions while driving", or "give killer compliments". But these will only help you if someone is already in love with you. In your teen or earlier years, i suggest "The Rules".
Last words, this book is worth the money, because it is extremely informative in its scientific data about men versus women feelings and behaviors, and its many collected surveys. But if you're a woman looking for a healthy love relationship, read "The Rules".
If you are young and just look to mess around, then this book might help. But if you want to find lifelong love, you should look somewhere else. I'm curious how many readers have found lasting loving relationship with the help of this book.
If you set out to play games, you can only lose. If this book doesn't help you develop healthy and positive attitude towards the opposite sex, then what would you expect to get from the opposite sex in the end ?
In that regard, I strongly recommend the book "10 foolish dating mistakes that men & women commit: And how to avoid them" by Lila Gruzen and Rebecca Sperber. That's the kind of book that deals with the essence of dating relationships. It's about how to better understand each other, not how to fool each other.
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Most Recent Customer Reviews
Helpful information that makes you think about how you interact with your special someone.Published 4 months ago by Iron Bess
I believe this book has information that truly works...but I think parts of it border on encouraging creepy behavior.Published 6 months ago by Robin Snyder
A sorta interesting book however it seemed to be for mature audiences ignoring the younger folks who needed the info for their inexperienced young selvesPublished 8 months ago by jacqueline
Practical advice is provided along with the relevant theoretical background.
The serious approach to the topic is well balanced by occasional humor.
This and other books by Leil Lowndes are far better than the trash
produced by PUAs. The pick up artists are full of themselves and
tread women like guinea pigs. Read more