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How Men Think

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Unless you already are more successful than you ever wanted or dreamed of being, this is a MUST book for any woman, whether rookie or veteran, whose business life involves regular interaction with men. As a woman who believes herself to be relatively fluent in "guy", I found this book to be extremely helpful in confirming many of my hunches about the "appropriate" behavior in particular work situations and explaining other reactions and actions of my male colleagues and opponents that I sometimes found puzzling before. Once you understand the WHY behind what men do, responding to it and mirroring it become much easier which in turn uncomplicates my life. After reading this book and implementing what I learned in the next relevant work decision (which meant acting somewhat different than I would have previously), I was able to finally take control rather quietly over a relationship with a male colleague that had been a source of friction and general unpleasantness for some time and direct it into a more productive path for both of us.

In the interest of helping out his daughter the best he could, my father "educated" me on the strategies and thinking of men (including himself) in the business world and in general. I found this book to be amazingly close to what he had always told me and right on with my own experiences. I imagine it to be a real eye opener for those girls who didn't have the type of honest father that I did. If a woman reads this book and says to herself, "Yeah right! That can't be so," I would venture to guess that they didn't, and that they should take this book very seriously. If a man reads it and says, "That doesn't really happen," he's not in touch with reality.

This is perhaps the best book I have ever read about the inteaction between women and men in the workplace. When you read this book its like the light bulb has come on! Finally, a book that gives women the rules men play by.

The author directs this material at women in business, but this material is relevant to anyone who is "not part of the club". Finally, an objective look at the rules that hold outsiders outside. This is a practical, step-by-step, method for participating in a way that the power structure can understand and appreciate. I am particularly appreciative of the author's resistance to "man bash". In examples, she explains the reality and opportunity that this powerful influence creates. The pros and cons created for men and women who live by these rules is explained clearly and without judgement.

I wish this book had been around when I joined the workforce in the late 80's, because I work in a mostly-male field and for years I was "the only one" everywhere I worked. Having been a tomboy when I was a child made some of the aspects of working in my field(civil engineering/construction)easier for me, but I still struggled with some of the other aspects, like fear of making mistakes and conflict. Through the school of "on the job training" I figured out a lot of the information presented in the book, but it was sometimes a very painful process. When I read the book, it verified for me that a lot of what I had figured out on my own over a period of 10 years was on the mark. If I had had this book when I started working, I believe I would have handled certain issues in the workplace differently. Although some of the information in the book is now somewhat dated, it is still a good book to read before you start your first job, because you will always be competing with someone in the workforce and the book offers strategies for successful habits.

We could debate about the degree to which Ms. Mendell writes about is relevant today, 10 years after the book's publication. I found everything she said was true. Nothing she wrote was ridiculous or exaggerated. She gives plenty of real examples to make her points, plus the examples of situations and suggested responses are from both Men and Women. My own life experience in the Technology field confirms the reality of what she has to say. I can give examples from my own life that parallel the samples in the book. And I'm still in the 1st half of my work career.

I liked that the suggested behavior changes for Women don't include turning themselves into some weird version of men. Instead Ms. Mendell suggests using humor as much as possible to keep your poise. The point is more to put the person on notice that you are on to their attempts to "put you in your place" and you will act accordingly. To dismiss the book as being "out of date" or "true 20-25 years ago" is to your disadvantage.

Great job! The information contained in this book will be put to use immediately in my every day dealings with men. Thank you so much Adrienne!

In the interest of helping out his daughter the best he could, my father "educated" me on the strategies and thinking of men (including himself) in the business world and in general. I found this book to be amazingly close to what he had always told me and right on with my own experiences. I imagine it to be a real eye opener for those girls who didn't have the type of honest father that I did. If a woman reads this book and says to herself, "Yeah right! That can't be so," I would venture to guess that they didn't, and that they should take this book very seriously. If a man reads it and says, "That doesn't really happen," he's not in touch with reality.

You really need to read this book to believe it, it gives an enmours insight into the men's mind and the work enviornment he has created.

Throughout my life,I have noticed how women hold back when the vibes of competition are in the air, they have been taught to believe they cannot withstand the emotional and physical requirements needed for this expression of assertiveness..take heart,,this book can help you,especially if you have thought you had to be a 'female impersonator" all your life,you don't,use the masculine energy within to achieve goals and don't be afraid that someone may be thinking your too strong,,because you're never too strong.

Women have been taught that they lack assertiveness but this is not true,it has been merely taught and can be untaught.

It does give you room to be yourself,some women as myself,find that the male way of thinking comes naturally and also fierce singlemindedness, others may want to be more feminine in their approach but it depends on the individual.

Some women DO get away with very male behavior such as ranting and raving at an employee,some don't,hard to explain yet I've seen it.Some will be respected for it and some will br called a #itch for some myterious reason..but being strong is definetly worth a try even if you shock some people a bit.Sometimes people HAVE to be shocked in order to change societal sterotypes, sometimes it takes alot of shock for change,there fore,if a woman shows that demominate edge... so be it.