How to Mend a Broken Heart : Letting Go and Moving On [Paperback]

Aleta Koman (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: March 11, 1998

Coping with the end of a relationship is one of the most common experiences a person faces, yet few are prepared for the intense shock, pain, and frustration that is involved. How to Mend a Broken Heart is a step-by-step program for dealing with loss brought about by breakup, divorce, separation, end of a friendship--even custody disputes and job termination. This book identifies the predictable emotional stages following a loss, provides reassuring strategies for coping, and emphasizes strength and knowledge that one can gain for the future.

Editorial Reviews

From Library Journal

Losing a meaningful relationship, whether with a sibling, spouse, lover, or job, can be a major life crisis. This title suggests ways of working the crisis into an opportunity by rethinking the relationship or career path. Through fictionalized case studies, Koman, a nationally known therapist and teacher, illustrates a five-step grieving process. Understanding the loss is step 1 in the recovery; every process is personal, and not everyone moves up from step 1 through step 5. Korman emphasizes working through the muck to a happier, healthier life. A list of support groups and further readings are appended. Recommended for public libraries and counseling centers.?Lisa S. Wise, Broome Cty. P.L., Binghamton, N.Y.
Copyright 1997 Reed Business Information, Inc. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

About the Author

Aleta Koman, M.Ed., has worked in family psychotherapy, conducts corporate seminars, teaches college courses, and makes frequent television and radio appearances.

Product Details

• Paperback: 240 pages
• Publisher: McGraw-Hill; 1 edition (March 11, 1998)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0809229498
• ISBN-13: 978-0809229499
• Product Dimensions: 8.8 x 6 x 0.6 inches
• Shipping Weight: 13.4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.4 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (5 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,091,353 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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63 of 67 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars An easy to read book , well written , good practical advice, June 2, 1997

By A Customer

This review is from: How to Mend a Broken Heart : Letting Go and Moving On (Hardcover)

This is a well written book, which addresses the common problem of letting go of your pain and getting on with your life. It is especially useful in dealing with the various ways in which we can feel loss. The stated cases give insight into the depth of feeling and the ways in which we can deal effectively with loss. The most important aspect of getting on with your life is first discovering that you are important. Ms Koman states over and again the need for self worth in each of us. This is a book which should be read by everyone not just those who are currently in a state of pain

28 of 29 people found the following review helpful:

3.0 out of 5 stars Good advice that can be too harsh at times., March 13, 2001

By A Customer

This review is from: How to Mend a Broken Heart : Letting Go and Moving On (Paperback)

I enjoyed this book, but I am writing this review to warn some of you that this probably shouldn't be the first book you read after a tough break-up or divorce. The first section of the book is sometimes harsh and negitive about the value of love and it's importance in your life. Most things said are very true, but it sometimes comes across blunt and a hard manner to absorb if you are still very emotionally tender, or rather depressed. I would recommend a more light/positive book first, such as "Mars And Venus: Starting Over." Again, it's a good book, the case studies are very helpful but it may be a little hard for some of us who have seen our significant other just walk out the door. Hope this helps, but then again it's just my two cents!

10 of 12 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Close to Receiving Actual Therapy after the Broken Heart, October 10, 2004

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This review is from: How to Mend a Broken Heart : Letting Go and Moving On (Paperback)

Well, first, I think everyone of us needs to acknowledge the heart is broken before reading anything or seeking any help. I read through this book and the points the author made are remarkable. People always say, "You get hurt. What things are you doing to make you feel better?" Well, seriously follow the guide the author tells you. I went through a painful breakup and was under the partial program. The path this book suggested is very similar to what I was told in the partial program. I did what the partial program people told me and it worked. After the broken heart, the first thing is really giving the attention and the care. Focus on yourself. This book has good tips about how to do so. Put your broken heart into what she says and try to understand. Feel it as the pain and anger comes. It is ok. Practice what she says. It is ok to take good care of yourself.

Again, one book is not going to fix it all. There are so many layers you need to explore and acknowledge. There are so much garbage you have inherited from the past, especially your early childhood experience. You cannot just expect you will feel completely good after one reading. However, try to explore what the author says. If you are searching for "do things to feel better", read this book and do what the author suggests. Identify what the author says and do what the author told you. Remind yourself you might have the tendency to withdraw or try self-medicating yourself. You will have that tendency because you are human. Stay in presence.

This book also offers you as an extra support for you to understand many of us go through heartbreaks. We just all do. The heart will hurt and it will seem like it is forever. But until we can truly honor the pain can we truly heal. It is about healing and not running away from it. The book offers the help and telling you that you are not crazy. Your experience was just not widely spread in the public media but it happens in our society. Please take really good care of yourself. You will heal when you walk out from this experience and find out who you are meant to be.