How My Parents Learned to Eat [Hardcover]

Ina R. Friedman (Author), Allen Say (Illustrator)

Book Description

Age Level: 5 and up | Grade Level: K and up

An American sailor courts a young Japanese woman and each tries, in secret, to learn the other's way of eating.

Editorial Reviews

Review

"The book is wonderfully thought-provoking in its portrayal of the subtle similarities and differences among cultures." School Library Journal, Starred

About the Author

Allen Say was born in Yokohama, Japan, in 1937. He dreamed of becoming a cartoonist from the age of six, and, at age twelve, apprenticed himself to his favorite cartoonist, Noro Shinpei. For the next four years, Say learned to draw and paint under the direction of Noro, who has remained Say's mentor. Say illustrated his first children's book -- published in 1972 -- in a photo studio between shooting assignments. For years, Say continued writing and illustrating children's books on a part-time basis. But in 1987, while illustrating THE BOY OF THE THREE-YEAR NAP (Caldecott Honor Medal), he recaptured the joy he had known as a boy working in his master's studio. It was then that Say decided to make a full commitment to doing what he loves best: writing and illustrating children's books. Since then, he has written and illustrated many books, including TREE OF CRANES and GRANDFATHER'S JOURNEY, winner of the 1994 Caldecott Medal. He is a full-time writer and illustrator living in Portland, Oregon.

Product Details

• Reading level: Ages 5 and up
  
• Hardcover: 32 pages
• Publisher: Houghton Mifflin Books for Children; 1St Edition edition (September 24, 1984)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0395353793
• ISBN-13: 978-0395353790
• Product Dimensions: 8.4 x 8.6 x 0.4 inches
• Shipping Weight: 10.4 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 4.5 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (20 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,938,891 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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34 of 36 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A wonderful message with no preaching, July 17, 2001

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slomamma (San Luis Obispo, CA USA) - See all my reviews

This review is from: How My Parents Learned to Eat (Sandpiper Houghton Mifflin books) (Paperback)

A bi-racial child tells the story of how her Japanese mother and American father met, fell in love, struggled to understand each other's ways, and finally married. It's a wonderful portrait of diversity, showing children that superficial differences in cultures don't really mean much and shouldn't get in the way of people appreciating each other. But just as important to me is the fact that this is one of the few children's books I know of that shows adults falling in love in a realistic way - no fairy tale, love at first sight kind of thing, but a picture of love growing as two people learn more about each other. Those two qualities - its appreciation of cultural diversity and its honest portrait of love - make it a little gem.

12 of 13 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars THE TABLE OF BROTHERHOOD OR THE FAMILY TABLE, October 18, 2002

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BeatleBangs1964 (United States) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: How My Parents Learned to Eat (Sandpiper Houghton Mifflin books) (Paperback)

This story is narrated by a bright little girl who describes how her parents met and adapted to one another's cultures. A bright, beautiful child, the girl is blond like her American father and has beautiful Asian features she inherited from her Japanese mother. She tells the story of how they came to sit at the family table.

An American sailor meets a woman in Japan and is instantly smitten. Their attraction is mutual; however each worries about being able to adapt to the other's culture. The sailor learns to eat with chopsticks and the woman in turn learns to eat with a knife, fork and spoon. She approaches her grandfather, a kind, scholarly man who teaches her the British way of handling western utensils. Still she worries because her fiance is American.

They meet again; their transcultural love shows they really have more common grounds than differences. Each is moved by the other's willingness to learn the other's culture and the results are heartwarming indeed.

Their daughter joins them and all readers at the Table of Brotherhood which once again proves that people really have more in common than they do differences.

This is such a wonderful book. I love it! I think it belongs in all homes and classrooms because it is an excellent example of cultural harmony and pride.

9 of 10 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Wise and muted, simple and understanding, August 6, 2002

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Larry Mark "editor of MyJewishBooks.com" (nyc) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: How My Parents Learned to Eat (Sandpiper Houghton Mifflin books) (Paperback)

The author of this Reading Rainbow Selection is wise; she knows how eating styles and habits can separate people and be inhibiting. The narrator recalls how her parents met: a white American sailor and a Japanese woman from the port city of Yokohama. The girl tells the reader that some days, in her house, they eat with chopsticks, and on some days with knives and forks. In the clear, muted watercolors, the reader finds her eating with chopsticks with a rice cooker on the first page, and eating with a knife and fork with a toaster on the last. Somewhat like O. Henry's story, The gift of the Magi, the sailor is too embarrassed to eat with Aiko, since he cant use chopsticks. And Aiko is frightened to eat with John, for she has never used a fork. But the port call is ending in a few weeks, so both rush to learn the other's ways, and an eating date is finally arranged. Love conquers all.