How Not to Screw It Up: 10 Steps to an Extraordinary Relationship [Paperback]

Nita Tucker (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: December 29, 1998

"The Rules" for any committed relationship, How Not to Screw It Up offers 10 essential steps to achieving an extraordinary, healthy, fulfilling partnership that will last a lifetime.
        
How Not to Screw It Up is for all those people who have vowed "I do" and are now wondering exactly how to do it. One of the central problems for couples is that they've been conditioned to think that there is nothing to do after the "I do." Relationship expert Nita Tucker sets us straight, espousing a proactive approach to any relationship and showing us how to do it right. Good, sound, practical advice on keeping a relationship solid and happy is as rare as it is valuable, and that's exactly what How Not to Screw It Up delivers.

Following the format of her highly successful first book, How Not to Stay Single, Tucker has created 10 steps for couples to follow in order to keep their partnership (and love) alive. For example, "Learn to Fight Fair," "Watch What You Say," "When It Comes to Sex, Give--Don't Trade," and "Agree to Disagree About Money."

How Not to Screw It Up is for people who want their relationships to be the best they can be--passionate, romantic, honest, and fun!

Editorial Reviews

Amazon.com Review

Having a successful relationship needn't take a lot of work and needn't even have to involve a commitment from both people, says Nina Tucker, author of How Not to Stay Single. If you followed her advice the first time and are now married or in a bonded relationship, this new book will help you avoid, as she says, screwing it up. Her basic premises:

(1) "It only takes one person to have a healthy, happy relationship." She discusses how one person can be one hundred percent responsible for making the relationship work by making an absolute commitment.

(2) "What there is to do is a matter of fun and play, not work." Focus on appreciating what you love about your partner, as you did when you first fell in love, instead of taking those things for granted and concentrating on what you wish would change.

To improve your relationship, Tucker says you need to expose your own negative attitudes, look at patterns (yours, not your partner's) that sabotaged relationships in the past, and turn all this around. Tucker gives practical communications advice, such as committing an hour a day to talking with your partner and making requests rather than complaining. She helps you deal effectively with fighting, sex, and money. If your relationship is in trouble--or if you don't want it to be--this book will help you change the way you think, speak, and act. --Joan Price

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"The Rules" for any committed relationship, How Not to Screw It Up offers 10 essential steps to achieving an extraordinary, healthy, fulfilling partnership that will last a lifetime.
        
How Not to Screw It Up is for all those people who have vowed "I do" and are now wondering exactly how to do it. One of the central problems for couples is that they've been conditioned to think that there is nothing to do after the "I do." Relationship expert Nita Tucker sets us straight, espousing a proactive approach to any relationship and showing us how to do it right. Good, sound, practical advice on keeping a relationship solid and happy is as rare as it is valuable, and that's exactly what How Not to Screw It Up delivers.

Following the format of her highly successful first book, How Not to Stay Single, Tucker has created 10 steps for couples to follow in order to keep their partnership (and love) alive. For example, "Learn to Fight Fair," "Watch What You Say," "When It Comes to Sex, Give--Don't Trade," and "Agree to Disagree About Money."

How Not to Screw It Up is for people who want their relationships to be the best they can be--passionate, romantic, honest, and fun!

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Product Details

• Paperback: 192 pages
• Publisher: Three Rivers Press (December 29, 1998)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0609803336
• ISBN-13: 978-0609803332
• Product Dimensions: 5.5 x 0.2 x 8.5 inches
• Shipping Weight: 6.7 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (1 customer review)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #931,424 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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4.0 out of 5 stars A simple and direct guide to improving your relationship, January 9, 1999

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This review is from: How Not to Screw It Up: 10 Steps to an Extraordinary Relationship (Paperback)

This book is a simple, direct guide with specific instructions to improve your marriage or relationship. Tucker writes in an honest, direct style and gives many personal examples of how her advice works and creates results. The method she describes is innovative and contradicts many accepted ideas about relationships. Using her directions, it is possible for one person in a relationship to improve the relationship by using her simple strategies and by changing their own perspective and mindset. Tucker includes ideas such as taking personal responsibility for the success of a relationship and making things happen the way you want them to. She includes valuable advice in the areas of finance, communication, sex, family planning and behavior. Her book is easy and quick to read and her advice is direct and useful.