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How Not to Stay Single: 10 Steps to a Great Relationship

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I thought the author did a good job of getting to the point of why people are single who really don't want to be. I particularly liked when she dispelled the myth that most people don't find their mate "when they are looking for one", and gave instructions on how to get into situations to find that special someone.

Overall the book had a very common sense approch. What she suggests for us single people to do is things I either needed a refresher course in, or just plain never thought about. Highly recomended reading.

Do you need some motivation to get out there and find your mate? Well look no further. Nita Tucker's How Not To Stay Single is a very good remedy for the Lonely Hearts Blues. Nita lists some basic suggestions where to go to meet quality people. She also emphasizes to do what you feel comfortable with and not what someone else may like.

What really makes this book stand strong is her no excuses attitude that exists through all the chapters. She encourages both men and women that the only way to meet your partner is to take chances and risks. Sitting home alone and hiding from the world is not going to help. Put yourself in the position to win in as many scenarios as possible and keep an open mind for what is your type. Most people do not know their own type yet they pick and pick and pick. This is not beneficial to anybody. Just get out there and deal with whatever rejection is the basic premise. For me it makes plenty of sense.

I don't give it the full five stars because among the list of questions to break the ice are several negative questions(What is your biggest failure?) which should not be explored in the initial meeting process. Nita should clearly distinguish this. Also, a little more detail to handle varying situations of rejection and initial date blues would be helpful. Nita does do a good job with handling problems that come up in established relationships. She should do a little better job with some of the initial awkward moments other than play rah rah cheerleader.

None the less, this book is very good as a basic Self Help Book. Her lectures are even more entertaining and in person Nita Tucker is one funny and charming lady.

But I don't recommend actually buying it. Tucker just basically rehashes what other books have said before. The end-of-chapter excercises are helpful and do provide you with some soul searching material. But you'd be better off borrowing it from someone or visiting the library that wasting your money on it.

But, if you want to buy a book on getting out of 'singledom,' I suggest 'If I'm So Great, Why Am I still Single.'by Susan Page. It's a much better book in dealing with the issue of 'don't want to be single-dom.

While the advise in this book is good, the best part of this book are the exercises at the end of each chapter. This book almost summarizes the same points that are found in "How To Succeed With Women" by Ron Louis & David Copeland which is a much better book and covers the subjects in much finer detail. It also tells you HOW to accomplish some of the tasks that How Not To Stay Single only tells you that "you must do". If you still feel compelled to buy this book, then at least give yourself a definate advantage by also buying "How to Succeed With Women".

This book is optomistic. It all is very good information! It's the creme of the crop. It saved my relationship overnight! It encourages! It's meant to be done with a support buddy. There are exercises for each principle. Way good book! I wasn't really looking for a book like this, but the part on commitment is right on. 180 degree change. :) Buy it for that!

It's so true that people are reluctant to admit they want a relationship. A relative of mine picked it up, and she loves it! No one knew she was looking for a relationship! Pick it up for yourself if you're single or anyone single you know! It can change your life.

Follow-up: I thought it saved my relationship to this looser. I liked this book for like a week, but its effects weren't long-lasting. I would recommend "Why Men Won't Commit" instead. By the way, I'm now happily married to someone else! I would change the stars to a 2 for an entertaining read, but that's the extent.

The book was written in daily languages while many of it's advices are practical and useful. The chapter about"Commitment" is particularly useful for women who gradually get impatient and doubtful about their partner's attitude. It's worth reading. I couldn't put it down until I finished it.

Short, concise, to-the-point book, for those of us who need a coach to encourage us, get us off our butts, and help us to go out and find someone meaningful in our lives.

Very practical, with useful exercises, and good information on how to evaluate potential partners, and not screen other people out too quickly.

Highly recommended for those of use creating a conscious, purposeful partnership.

Nita Tucker does make some valid points on why people are still single, but alot of the book is mostly assignement book. There was no enough "Do this on a date" and toom much "Go out and do this"

Her section on commitment is quite precise though.

When I tell most people I'm single, not dating, and don't have any kids, a look of surprise (and sometimes horror) crosses their faces. Just as the author described, I was even embarrassed about standing in line to purchase a book with this title. The funny thing is, as I read it, I felt like the author was talking to me. Since I relocated to a new city for career reasons, I've allowed myself to hide away in my house and sadly I've mastered how to do everything alone. Needless to say, many of the tips she provided in this book seemed like they were written just for me. I go out with a man once and say..."nah...not my type." I've even allowed myself to believe that when the time is right that some man will suddenly appear (like magic) and we'll run off like some sort of fairy tale. This book helped me put some things into perspective. Nothing--not even a relationship--falls into your lap. Most things take time and work. I am especially thankful for tips like the three date rule and the eight date rule (read the book). I plan on applying many of the things she suggested right away. Yes, I've read Why Men Love Bitches, The Rules, and all the other self-help relationship books, but I really enjoyed how the author appeared to be talking to me. Sometimes when I would read something and roll my eyes as if to say I'm not doing that, in the very next paragraph she'd catch me off guard with "Fine, if you think it's stupid, then don't do it, but..." Her logic, subtle humor, and examples have really motivated me to get back out there and try again. Again, I've read the other books and this is the only one that has actually really motivated me. Can't wait to see what happens.

I actually wrote the review from Jan 24, 2003. But, I've changed my mind. I think the part on commitment isn't as good as "The Rules" by Sherri Ellen/Schneider Fein. This book is good in theory, but "The Rules" actually produces results. I ended up being too supportive of my boyfriend when I should have backed off and had a separate life instead. This works. Now it's too late for that guy.