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How to Be a People Magnet: Finding Friends--and Lovers--and Keeping Them for Life [Kindle Edition]

Leil Lowndes
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Book Description

"Humorous and wise . . . Lowndes helps readers focus on what's important and gives them a good chuckle along the way."

--Publishers Weekly

Making friends can be intimidating for anyone, especially if you are naturally shy. This can be an obstacle not only in social interactions but in romantic and work relationships as well. Now there is hope from communications expert Leil Lowndes's How to Be a People Magnet. The bestselling author of How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You, Lowndes reveals specific and proven techniques for attracting friends and lovers and keeping them for life. She uncovers the secrets of attracting friends for fun and romance as well as networking to strengthen business contacts and relationships. Her advice is effective, yet easy for anyone--shy or bold--to implement.

Editorial Reviews


"Every single person I know asks, ‘How can I meet her/him?’ At last I have the answer—read this book!" -- Regis Philbin, talk-show host

"Never be intimidated again! The lost art or verbal communication may be revitalized by Leil Lowndes." -- Harvey Mackay, author of Swim with the Sharks

"You’ll not only break the ice, you’ll melt it away with your new skills." -- Larry King, talk-show host

Writing for both men and women, Lowndes focuses on what's important and gives readers a good chuckle along the way. -- Publisher's Weekly, January 15, 2001

From the Inside Flap

Some folks are human magnets. People smile at them wherever they go. They have faithful friends who would do anything for them. They get invited to all the parties. They have more dates than they can handle. What's their secret? According to bestselling author Leil Lowndes, beloved and popular people know the secret of fearless communicating . . . and now you can, too. How to Be a People Magnet will teach you how to walk fearlessly into any situation with total confidence, authority, and flair and to walk away with whatever you want—a new friend, a new customer, or a new lover. You'll also learn how to:

• Make strangers like you instantly
• Stamp out that Fatal FUD Factor (Fear, Uncertainty, and Doubt)
• Make everyone around you feel singularly special
• Know when to smile, when not to smile, and why one size doesn't fit all
• Listen to someone's heart, not his or her words
• Fine-tune your tongue, depending on to whom you're talking
• Avoid the two biggest mistakes when meeting someone new
• Develop a round table of friends who will be there for you, whatever happens
• Market yourself like a Hollywood celebrity
• Benefit from the surprising studies on what separates social "winners" from social "losers"

Plus, you'll find out how to prevent simple shyness from trashing your life and why having a high OQ (Optimism Quotient) is the key to communication success.

Like Leil Lowndes's top-selling titles How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You and How to Talk to Anybody About Anything, How to Be a People Magnet is brimming with helpful hints, tips, and ideas for approaching, attracting, and communicating with just about anyone. Whether you're a shy gal or guy or you're just looking for ways to improve your social skills, How to Be a People Magnet will show you exactly what's needed to successfully add new friends and lovers to your life.

Product Details

  • File Size: 2815 KB
  • Print Length: 267 pages
  • Simultaneous Device Usage: Up to 4 simultaneous devices, per publisher limits
  • Publisher: McGraw-Hill; 1 edition (May 31, 2002)
  • Sold by: Amazon Digital Services, Inc.
  • Language: English
  • ASIN: B000QCS96O
  • Text-to-Speech: Enabled
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  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #602,102 Paid in Kindle Store (See Top 100 Paid in Kindle Store)
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98 of 107 people found the following review helpful
1.0 out of 5 stars A Great Disappointment February 1, 2001
I have read all of her previous books and generally speaking, I feel that she is an excellent author. I even went so far as to pre-order this book before it was released. However, let me warn you, this book fails to live up to her previous books.
To put it simply: it is a disappointment. There are some excellent points made in this book, but they are the same as advice that can be found in her previous books. For example this book claims to: "Make strangers like you instantly; Make everyone around you feel special; Give the response that separates social 'winners' from social 'losers.' " Unfortunately, this book falls flat on its face delivering these points when compared to her previous book: Talking the Winner's Way: 92 Little tricks... This book does deliver, but in a more eloquent and applicable manner.
Your money and time would be better spent buying or, if you already own, it re-reading her earlier book: Talking the Winner's Way. Best of all, this advice saves you money as this book is out in paperback!
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37 of 40 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Things I needed to learn February 16, 2004
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I really needed to hear some suggestions on developing/maintaining and nuturing friendships. This book was more than I could have hoped for at a time in my life when I needed friends the most and didn't seem to have any. It gave me the tools I needed to do just that and more. I'm finding it fun to work on "Knights At My Round Table." I'm learning how to develop friendships with all different types of people - people I really like who may not necessarily like each other.
Leil shares some very personal experiences in her book - experiences that are only printed words to people who have not gone through them. She talks about the importance of having friends during these times. Friends who do things for you without asking "why or how." Friends who help us live our lives when we have trouble remembering how.
I'll never be without friends now after reading this book. It's helped to change my life and see what's most important to me in addition to my immediate family.
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41 of 45 people found the following review helpful
As a person, who is involved in a very ethnically, racially, and educationally diverse community, and also happily employed in the human services profession, I read People Magnet, by Leil Lowndes. I read it for both business and personal reasons, as I am, surprisingly, very shy in my personal life. I finished the book less than two weeks ago and have seen immediate improvements in both my personal and business life; from getting along with people who others in my business circle label as "very difficult" - to closer relationships with the important people in my life. Also, this week, I have been able to ask for and be accepted for a date, with a woman, who I have been wanting to get to know better, but was too shy to ask out for almost a year now! In summary, reading this book has been like participating in the best quality personal presentation seminar. However, I've paid hundreds of dollars to attend such seminars and have not achieved the results that I have already achieved after two reads of Ms. Lowndes' book. Of course, it is a book I will reread again over and over.
Ms. Lowndes book is different not only in content from the standard conversational improvement books, but the process of reading the book requires active reader participation and the signing of contracts and clauses throughout the book to engender more commitment. The book is written from the heart and speaks to issues of the growing isolation and alienation that are so real in the year 2001. I have read many of the top ranked books on personality improvement, conversation improvement, etc. by many of the best known authors of today and yesterday, but I found Ms. Lowndes book to be most down to earth, while the facts are supported by research, testimonials, and an extensive bibliography.
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21 of 22 people found the following review helpful
3.0 out of 5 stars a little disappointing January 9, 2007
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I read one of these kind of books every once in a while. As I've gotten older it takes more effort to socialize, and I'm always looking for tips to make the process a little smoother. This book is more for someone who has convinced themself that life in a cabin in the mountains on a desert island with no phone is the way to go, and needs to be persuaded otherwise. In other words, this book is less about how to be a people magnet and more why you need a network of friends. Probably a bit more geared for women, as one might expect, and not without some good insights at a basic level, but probably not much that is going to turn you into the life of the party. Still, like most of these books, if you come away with just one or two things that you can put into practice, it's probably been worth your while. It's an easy read, and has a few good items, and I thought was very level-headed in its treatment of the men/women differences in communication, etc. Again, the book is well written and light, but I don't think it's likely to make anyone into a people magnet who wasn't headed there already.
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25 of 29 people found the following review helpful
1.0 out of 5 stars Completely Imcomprensible and Lame! May 30, 2005
I read her "HOW TO MAKE ANYONE FALL IN LOVE WITH YOU" book and it was entertaining and interesting. Even in that read, there was some stereotypes and generalizations. But this one was a complete disaster! She makes so many corny lame jokes thru out the thing that you're just totally confused on what she's trying to say. And yes, way too many stereotypes and generalizations!! Overall, the book is just corny and it doesn't seem to have much of a direction to it either. It just keeps going on...........
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2.0 out of 5 stars I was disappointed by the other reviews and wonder if they are ...
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Published 1 month ago by Rita F. Weyant
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Published 4 months ago by judy busse
4.0 out of 5 stars Four Stars
Lots of great pointers to people who have trouble coming out of their shell.
Published 8 months ago by sdgolf
5.0 out of 5 stars Great
Believe me, if you want a women to care about you, this is a good place to start. It's awesome.
Published 14 months ago by Nitro
1.0 out of 5 stars A Complete Waste of Time and Money
I bought the audio book. I think the paper book might be a better read but the content would fall short still...more of that to come. Read more
Published 15 months ago by Nemesis
4.0 out of 5 stars You can make people love you
I really enjoyed this book. It gave me several exercises to help get over my somewhat shy nature. I can talk to pretty much anyone about anything once they talk to me but i'm not... Read more
Published 16 months ago by Lorriane
2.0 out of 5 stars Get a better book and skip this one
I don't think I'm terribly inept with social skills, but I often feel uncomfortable in social situations (especially with strangers or large groups). Read more
Published 20 months ago by Who's It
1.0 out of 5 stars Outdated, Irrelevant, and Patronizing
I made the mistake of purchasing the audible version of this book to occupy my time on an extended road trip. Read more
Published 23 months ago by A. Wallace
3.0 out of 5 stars ANNOYING
i made the mistake of listening to an audio of this book. Some parts of it were helpful. But unfortunately, the author chose to read the book herself. Read more
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More About the Author

Leil has devoted her professional life to helping people become more effective communicators in business, social, and romantic relationships.

The passion she brings to her writing and speaking on communication skills can be traced to childhood when she suffered almost debilitating shyness which lasted right through college. After being a teacher for six years and still feeling socially insecure, she decided to leave the teaching profession and work only in situations which put her in constant touch with a wide variety of individuals. Here is a short history of how she gained her insights and share them with the world.

After working with elementary school children, she decided to take the first step toward her goal by becoming an international flight attendant to feel at ease speaking with adults from all over the world. Still shy in front of crowds, however, tried acting to become confident on stage in. But, although she was very successful (even starring in a Broadway show,) she wasn't satisfied simply speaking from a playwright's script. To become comfortable addressing large audiences with her own "script," she became a cruise director on ships traveling around the world. That exhausting experience of dealing with people almost 24 hours a day, she said, would cure anyone's shyness!

Between trips, Leil worked as substitute host on New York's #1 radio talk show. Interviewing celebrities and political figures is how she became confident talking to anybody about anything.

After decades of communicating with all types and ages of people, Leil decided to write and speak to groups to share her knowledge with the public. Leil now conducts seminars for Fortune 500 companies and speaks at conventions, but her favorite type of communicating is still one-on-one talking with people.

She has written ten books, many of which have been translated into 26 languages. The best selling ones include: "How to Talk to Anyone," "How to Instantly Connect with Anyone," Good-bye to Shy," "How to Be a People Magnet," and "How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You."


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