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How to Really Love Your Child [Kindle Edition]

D. Ross Campbell
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Book Description

Many parents would be dismayed to discover that their child feels unloved.
After all, they make sure that their child has the things they need. They attend
their child's school events. They buy their child the things they want. So
why is it then that most children doubt that they are genuinely and unconditionally

In this best-selling book, Dr. D. Ross Campbell reveals the emotional needs
of a child and provides parents with the skill and techniques that can begin
to help make your child feel truly loved and accepted. You'll learn to really
love your child through every situation of child rearing from physical touch
to discipline and from affirmation to spiritual nurture.

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About the Author

Dr. D. Ross Campbell is an adult, adolescent and child psychiatrist, noted author and lecturer on parent-child relationships. He was the founder of Southeastern Counseling Center in Chattanooga, TN, and served as its director until retiring in January 1996. Dr. Campbell serves as an Associate Clinical Professor in the Departments of Pediatrics and Psychiatry at the University of Tennessee College of Medicine. Dr. Campbell earned a B.S. degree from the United States Naval Academy and his medical degree from the University of Florida.

Dr. Campbell's first book How To Really Love Your Child, published in 1977, has sold over 1 million copies and is in its 35th printing. Revised and update in 1992, it continues to be an internationally acclaimed best seller. His book How To Really Love Your Teenager received the Gold Medallion Award.

In addition to writing, Dr. Campbell has lectured throughout the United States and in numerous European countries. He is currently a seminar leader and board member of Ministering to Ministers, an organization dedicated to the support of ministers and their families.

Dr. Campbell and his wife, Pat, have four adult children and one grandchild. They reside on Signal Mountain, TN where he is a member of Signal Mountain Baptist Church.

Current Title: How To Really Love a Child
How To Really Love Your Teenager

Brand: Life Journey

Product Details

  • File Size: 334 KB
  • Print Length: 146 pages
  • Page Numbers Source ISBN: 0781439124
  • Publisher: David C. Cook (November 1, 2010)
  • Sold by: Amazon Digital Services, Inc.
  • Language: English
  • ASIN: B009H7J72E
  • Text-to-Speech: Enabled
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  • Word Wise: Enabled
  • Lending: Not Enabled
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #123,726 Paid in Kindle Store (See Top 100 Paid in Kindle Store)
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105 of 106 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars "Mom, you need to get out THE BOOK". May 27, 1998
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I was deeply offended when a friend gave me a copy of this book. How dare she insinuate that i didn't know how to love my children. Nobody loved their children more than I, but out of respect for her effort to help me to find better ways of living with my children as a single parent--I read the book. Just about everything Campbell said , I found contention with. why should I hug them when I didn't get hugs in my own childhood? or get down on their level when I was so busy? or look into their eyes when I was so tired? why? none of it made sense to me & I argued all the way through the book. I am a very stubborn person, so I set out to prove this obviously idiot author WRONG--BY EXPERIMENTING & DOING IT HIS WAY. Well, guess what, folks, I saw such a tremendous change in life with my children that "How to Really Love Your Child" became known as THE BOOK at our house. When life got tough & we'd be in the middle of some big of them would stop & say "Mom, you better get out THE BOOK". They knew its value because when I'd refer to THE BOOK & re-read what Campbell said about whatever problem we were having, I'd become more centered & balanced & back in control myself. My kids knew they'd GET IT when i figured out what to do, but they also knew that coming from THE BOOK whatever THEY GOT would be administered with real love. I came from a background devoid of personalized attention & hugs & most of the stuff THE BOOK advocates. I learned real fast that what i got when I hugged a child...was a hug for myself. and when I looked into little eyes, they were looking into mine. I felt that by parenting my children with the skills touted in THE BOOK I was making up for some of the loss of my own childhood. Read more ›
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49 of 50 people found the following review helpful
An absolutely wonderful book! Dr. Campbell writes from a Christian perspective on how to REALLY love your child. He asserts that everyday a child is asking his parents, "Do you love me?", not only through his words, but more importantly through his behavior. It's our answer to this question that will have the biggest impact on his/her life. Loving UNCONDITIONALLY is the answer--this means loving your child no matter what and even when at times you detest his/her behavior.
Specifically, Dr. Campbell teaches that in order to love unconditionally, you must do four things: Show love through eye contact, show love through physical attention, show love through focused attention, and finally show love through discipline. He explains how important each of these things are and how big a mistake it is to only focus on discipline. I especially liked his discussion on what he thinks Proverbs 13:24 really means regarding "Not sparing the rod". "The shepherd's rod referred to in Scripture was used almost exclusively for guiding the sheep, not beating them." In other words, we need to guide and train our children, not beat them to instill obedience.
Can't recommend this book highly enough. It's a very easy read and it really convicted me to be a better parent by loving my kids unconditionally. Read it and see if you're not convinced it will make you a better parent.
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29 of 31 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars A Must for Any Parent who wants to love their Child December 18, 2002
I have two other sisters one younger, one older and we all have at least two children. My mother bought three copies of this book and sent one to each of us at the same time. By some grace I happened to have recieved my copy at a time when I was having horrible problems with my 3 year old son. At three he was on the verge of being expelled from the Christian Daycare he was attending. My husband I were at our wits end so when I got this book I immediately picked it up and read it.(I found out later that of us 3 girls I was the only one who did).I read the whole book in 3 days going over sections several times. My husband and I began putting Dr. Campbell's suggestions into practice right away and within one week it was like living with a completely different child. Once we understood the whole "Emotional Gas Tank" theory we began to recognize quite easily when our son was getting low. What a difference. We sat down and talked with the director of the school whom also helped us to identify some personalized areas that we were not setting limits for our son thus compounding the discipline problem. The frist week was very tough but it was so worth it. It has been over a year now and we continue to practice the things we have learned in this book. I have recommended it to many friends and encouraged my sisters to read it as they continue to have problems with thier children. It is written from a Christian Standpoint which I personally find a big plus. This book is worth its weight in gold.
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39 of 44 people found the following review helpful
3.0 out of 5 stars some important truths... June 20, 2007
... but like many book authors, he takes good points to an extreme, leaving the teaching unbalanced. I totally agree with his basic premise, that today's Christian parenting books are too heavy on discipline and don't teach how to nurture enough. He does a really good job of stating the few basic things every child needs - eye contact, physical touch, focused attention, affirming words. These things fill the child's "emotional tank," therefore avoiding many discipline problems before they come up. He also does a great job of explaining why the marital relationship is of vital importance to a happy home.

However toward the last 1/3 of the book the good teaching was taken to a not-good extreme. He implies that if the child is being obnoxious or ornery it is always the parent's fault for not filling the little darling's emotional tank. On page 114 he gives an example of a child who has always willingly done a task before, but is unwilling now. To the parent who might enforce the request instead of stop and "fill the tank," he states, "If the reason for your child's behavior was legitimate, then you would be the one who should be punished for forcing him or her to perform the task."

Now, this sounds a bit extreme to me. First, there are times when children behave badly because of something that isn't Dad and Mom's fault. We should most certainly nurture our children emotionally, but not cater to each and every bad mood the child has. As the parent we are in charge and at times have every right to expect cooperation whether the child's tank is "full" or not. As an adult I have responsibilities to fulfill and people to submit to whether my tank is full or not. Am I really doing my child a favor to expect nothing from him if he is not feeling 100% full and happy?
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5.0 out of 5 stars It's the best book on parenting I've ever read
It's the best book on parenting I've ever read! It changed me, which created a huge change in my children! Less discipline and happier , more confident children! That was 30+ yrs. Read more
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Published 21 days ago by Dean L Stoll
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this book, along with "Raising Awesome Kids" by Sam and Geri Laing, and "5 Love languages of children" are the 3 best parenting books out there. Read more
Published 1 month ago by Joseph M. Thomas
5.0 out of 5 stars Completely changed the way I parent
I couldn't have read this at a better time. Parenting my toddler was becoming an every day struggle and I was at a loss regarding how to handle her tantrums. Read more
Published 1 month ago by Kim Shope
5.0 out of 5 stars Very helpful for open minded parents who are tired of the battles.
Why'd you have kids anyway? You want relationship but all you get is headache? Maybe it's not just the kids but you, too! Read more
Published 1 month ago by Insite4U
5.0 out of 5 stars great book on parenting
This was a great book. It has great principles and practicals that I can apply right away at home. It is simple yet powerful when applied. Read more
Published 1 month ago by J. C. Cheng
5.0 out of 5 stars Such a great book! Every parent needs this
Such a great book! Every parent needs this! :)
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Great book for parents! Thank you!
Published 2 months ago by Victoria
5.0 out of 5 stars Parents-- READ THIS BOOK!!
I love, love, love, love, LOVE this book. I honestly wish every parent in the world would read it. It cues in so well to nurturing your child's emotional needs and even though some... Read more
Published 2 months ago by Jackie
5.0 out of 5 stars MUST READ!!!
Excellent read....I had this book when my grown children were young by a different author and this one is just as helpful. Every parent or expectant should read this one!!!! Read more
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