How to Spot a Dangerous Man Before You Get Involved [Paperback]

M.A. Sandra L. Brown (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: April 15, 2005

What is a dangerous man? Most women would answer: one who is physically violent. But abusive behavior is often more insidious. Men who want mothers, not partners, who prey on lonely, passive women, who are mentally ill, addicted, or emotionally unavailable, or who won't go away when asked to leave all fall into this dangerous category. In this book women are encouraged to take responsibility for their own safety, are shown how to choose men wisely, and learn how not to make the same mistake twice. Thirteen chapters cover all the red flags of a dangerous man, offer stories of women's successes and failures dealing with each type, and provide safe ways to get out of a hazardous relationship. Armed with this valuable information, women have the tools they need to cultivate positive and healthy relationships with men.

Editorial Reviews

From the Publisher

Fortunately, risky dating behaviors can be targeted and altered. Using checklists, exercises, and a direct approach honed in her workshops, Brown shows women how to choose partners wisely, avoid pain and danger, and improve their chances of hooking up with good men. How to Spot a Dangerous Man Before You Get Involved is for all women who have a history of bad relationships and want to regain control of their lives. It also serves as prevention for women who do not have a history of bad relationships — and don’t want one.

Sandy Brown has been in huge demand on television and radio programs across the country. She cares deeply about her readers and wants to help them.

From the Author

The goal for this book is harm reduction for women – and to help women live better lives free from men who are dangerous. Women get harmed by dangerous men in a myriad of ways of which, while not always on purpose, end up reducing the quality of her life. At the heart of this negative selection pattern is a woman's inability to know, recognize and avoid dangerous men. Our society has not taught women these skills. Instead, we focus on how to be sexier or more compatible. If you only pick dangerous men, these skills of knowing how to be sexier and more compatible are not going to help you. Why not learn the skills that will help you pick healthier and safer men?

Learning the eight categories of dangerous men, their signs and symptoms, and looking at why you have been with these men, will take you farther in reaching your own goals of relationship security and happiness than anything else you invest in. When you change your choices, you change your life.

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Product Details

• Paperback: 262 pages
• Publisher: Hunter House (April 15, 2005)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0897934474
• ISBN-13: 978-0897934473
• Product Dimensions: 8.5 x 5.6 x 0.6 inches
• Shipping Weight: 12.8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.6 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (71 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #40,898 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
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  • #30 in Books > Health, Fitness & Dieting > Relationships > Dating
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89 of 92 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Very no-nonsense book, a must read, June 30, 2005

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This a fantastic book. This book is written is a no-nonsense style. Sandra Brown is factual, and plain spoken when it comes to dealing with dangerous men. Dangerous men look just like normal men, but they will only drag you emotionally and mentally downward. She describes plainly the different types of abuse, and how they make you feel. She also discusses what can be a chronic problem like depression, compared to a psychopath, who will prey upon you.
I like that she goes through your personal red flags, we all have them, but we often fail to recognize them. We fail to recognize red flags due to the way we were brought up. Often we have been taught how to be dsyfunctional in order to keep peace within the family unit.
Sandra Brown does an excellent job of describing what red flag are, how to recognize yours, and how to learn not to ignore them. She then guides you through recogizing what works for you personally, and what does not. She teaches about boundaries, and how you can develop some of your own.
This book is plainly written, and may seem a little harsh at times. If you have been in a relationship with a dangerous man, or are wondering if the man you are involved with is dangerous, this is definately worth the read. This book will aide you in determining which man you have, or what the next should be. I highly recommend this book!

38 of 39 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Incredibly helpful!, September 27, 2005

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R. S. Evans "The Rockin' Rev" (Clearwater, FL, USA) - See all my reviews
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As a pastor of a growing church I come into regular contact with women of all ages who have been struggling through one dysfunctional relationship after the other. In the past I would offer the best advice and encouragement that I could think of, but now with Sandra Brown's insightful new book I have the tools to help these ladies make wise choices. This book isn't just for the woman who can't seem to find 'Mr. Right'; this book is also for anyone who cares enough about these women to help them see and understand themselves and those they are drawn too! I now look forward to a possible sequel?? Maybe: 'How to Spot a Healthy Man?'

34 of 35 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Saved My Life, June 2, 2005

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K. Warriner (San Diego Calif) - See all my reviews
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I was having trouble with my off and on boyfriend of 7 years when this book was reccomended to me. I knew he had some of the Red Flags, but I didn't realize how dangerous he really was until I seriously tried to leave him. I felt that Sandra really knew what I was going through and feeling when I read the other womens stories. Every time I said, yes but, she had an answer for me. I am now out of the relationship, am getting help with the law, and not listening to his lies and issues.If I had not read the book when I did, I may be here today to tell my story. I still have a long way to go, but I feel there is hope for me .
We all have to look to our past, to why we attract the men we do and her book makes you look at dating in a very selective light..Kudos!!