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How to Spot a Dangerous Man Before You Get Involved

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This a fantastic book. This book is written is a no-nonsense style. Sandra Brown is factual, and plain spoken when it comes to dealing with dangerous men. Dangerous men look just like normal men, but they will only drag you emotionally and mentally downward. She describes plainly the different types of abuse, and how they make you feel. She also discusses what can be a chronic problem like depression, compared to a psychopath, who will prey upon you.
I like that she goes through your personal red flags, we all have them, but we often fail to recognize them. We fail to recognize red flags due to the way we were brought up. Often we have been taught how to be dsyfunctional in order to keep peace within the family unit.
Sandra Brown does an excellent job of describing what red flag are, how to recognize yours, and how to learn not to ignore them. She then guides you through recogizing what works for you personally, and what does not. She teaches about boundaries, and how you can develop some of your own.
This book is plainly written, and may seem a little harsh at times. If you have been in a relationship with a dangerous man, or are wondering if the man you are involved with is dangerous, this is definately worth the read. This book will aide you in determining which man you have, or what the next should be. I highly recommend this book!

As a pastor of a growing church I come into regular contact with women of all ages who have been struggling through one dysfunctional relationship after the other. In the past I would offer the best advice and encouragement that I could think of, but now with Sandra Brown's insightful new book I have the tools to help these ladies make wise choices. This book isn't just for the woman who can't seem to find 'Mr. Right'; this book is also for anyone who cares enough about these women to help them see and understand themselves and those they are drawn too! I now look forward to a possible sequel?? Maybe: 'How to Spot a Healthy Man?'

I was having trouble with my off and on boyfriend of 7 years when this book was reccomended to me. I knew he had some of the Red Flags, but I didn't realize how dangerous he really was until I seriously tried to leave him. I felt that Sandra really knew what I was going through and feeling when I read the other womens stories. Every time I said, yes but, she had an answer for me. I am now out of the relationship, am getting help with the law, and not listening to his lies and issues.If I had not read the book when I did, I may be here today to tell my story. I still have a long way to go, but I feel there is hope for me .
We all have to look to our past, to why we attract the men we do and her book makes you look at dating in a very selective light..Kudos!!

Don't let you or your daughter go on another date without Sandra Brown's essential microscopic dissection of the ways to detect the dangerous man. Not only does the author explain the myriad types of dangerous men that every woman will encounter, but gives us a psychologist's insight into what ticks in every woman's psyche that can make her vulnerable. Ms. Brown rips the mask off these predators and exposes their tactics and shows us where our own vulnerabilities lie.

I highly recommend this book be given to every woman you care about. This fascinating book is choc a bloc with a psychologist's insider information and is the essential knowledge that can save a target from devastating consequences. This is the book mothers have dreamed about for years. "How do I warn my daughter?" Sandra Brown's book sets the gold standard for crucial information needed by every woman who dates. And the essential key is the look inside each of us to discover what make us so vulnerable.

'How to spot a dangerous person.' If you take a truthful look into the past you might see a feminine presence there that acted just like the characters described in this book. You could also get a glimpse of your own manipulative, maladaptive traits. Great! Get to Work! The only way to clean the machine is to examine the hardware and repair what is broken. Sandra Brown explains the details and gives examples on how to get started.

Highly recommended for those walking wounded who continue to stagger through the minefield in search of answers. Get into a relationship with yourself first. Be honest and see what happens!

Every responsible parent should be providing this book to their child, whether male or female. This is the street smarts they should have that society so carefully educates out of them. Discuss it with them. Provide your own experiences. It may be the best gift you ever give them. I would also recommend reading Barbara Hort's Unholy Hungers: Encountering the Psychic Vampire in Ourselves & Others along with it. It gives a more complete psychological picture of a "dangerous person" and what drives them.

Impressive, very impressive! After reading this book, I bought one for each of my two single daughters. I felt it was vital for them to read the book. It clearly exposes dangerous behaviors and spells out one's responsibilities in relationships. I particularly loved the last couple of chapters with their healthy relationships' blueprint.

True stories from women everywhere, examples of "red flags," and profiles of dangerous men make this book useful and interesting while cutting out most psychological jargon. It includes strategies for avoiding unhealthy relationships and lays out clearly what is and isn't acceptable in a healthy relationship.

A must-read for anyone ready to stop make bad dating choices and start building a healthy relationship with a healthy person.This book puts the power to change back in the woman's hands.

Excellent book! Ladies, there are a lot of SCARY men out there who prey on unsupecting women. You need to educate and protect yourself. This book helped me to take an honest look at some of my personality traits and behaviors that acted as a "WELCOME" mat to dangerous men. I was motivated to change my ways, and I will be a lot more picky and cautious when it comes to dating. No more "fixer-uppers" for me, thanks.

My only regret is that I didn't read this book sooner, I would have saved myself a lot of stress and heartache.

Thank you all for the reviews. This is definitely a good book. I have only read excerpts so far, but it is really worth reading it. I love the author's blog, too. ( http://howtospotadangerousman.blogspot.com/ ) I think she really knows what she is talking about. And this information is essential in our everyday lives. How many people have "dangerous men/women" in their own households and do not even notice it, or, if they do, do not know how to protect themselves from them? It's a pity that just a very few people realize the importance of learning about humans who love being psychic vampires...