How to Spot a Dangerous Man Workbook: A Survival Guide for Women [Paperback]

M.A. Sandra L. Brown (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: April 28, 2005

What is a dangerous man? Most women would answer: one who is physically violent. But abusive behavior is often more insidious. Men who want mothers, not partners, who prey on lonely, passive women, who are mentally ill, addicted, or emotionally unavailable, or who won't go away when asked to leave all fall into this dangerous category. Most women who have dated one dangerous man have in fact dated two or three, according to research. How to Spot a Dangerous Man Workbook, designed for use with the author's book How to Spot a Dangerous Man Before You Get Involved, contains useful exercises from the author's highly successful workshops for women, including 22 worksheets and quizzes to help readers develop their own personalized list of "do not date" characteristics. The author’s extensive research in this field makes this hands-on guide an important aid in both avoiding a potentially dangerous involvement and recognizing — and getting out of — an existing one.

Editorial Reviews

Review

"There simply are not enough wonderful things I can tell you about Sandra L. Brown’s book How to Spot a Dangerous Man Before You Get Involved. Statistically almost 100% of the ladies coming through our shelter were returning to their abuser or getting involved in another dangerous relationship a year ago. Our program was based on the “Power and Control Wheel” at that time.

Concern for our clients and their children lead our organization to look closely at what was lacking within our program. We quickly discovered that the majority of the clients we service knew and understood the “Power and Control Wheel” but lacked the knowledge of how to apply it to their lives. Jointly we began to restructure our program around the pattern changing ideals in Sandra L. Brown’s book How to Spot a Dangerous Man Before You Get Involved.

Participation in my group therapy has soared from one or two people I had to drag to group to nearly every resident in house at our eight room shelter. The majority of our clients will plan their activities around these groups as not to miss one. I often receive requests from our clients to begin my groups at an outside location so that they can continue to attend and learn. Our staff could not be more pleased by the results of the changes we have made to our program as not 85 to 90% of our clients are breaking the cycle and not going back to or getting involved in new abusive relationships. The clients that are returning to their abuser or getting into another dangerous relationship are the ones that do not attend our groups.

Our staff and clients that got to meet with and hear Sandra L. Brown speak could not have been more thankful and excited. Her work has done wonders in the lives of our clients and their children. We look forward to a day when we can say that 100% of our clients are making better life choices."


— Renee L. Rose, Domestic Violence Advocate, Salvation Army Domestic Violence Program

From the Publisher

Sandy has been in huge demand on television and radio programs across the country. She cares deeply about her readers and wants to help them.

Product Details

• Paperback: 60 pages
• Publisher: Hunter House; Workbook edition (April 28, 2005)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0897934520
• ISBN-13: 978-0897934527
• Product Dimensions: 10.6 x 8.6 x 0.4 inches
• Shipping Weight: 10.4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.5 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (6 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #135,774 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

Customer Reviews

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18 of 18 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars How to spot a dangerous man workbook, January 9, 2007

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M. Visser (South Africa) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: How to Spot a Dangerous Man Workbook: A Survival Guide for Women (Paperback)

I think it is a must read if you want to brake the circle of having the same men in your life who lead to the same dead ends time after time. I lost 20 years in the dating game. This book showed me why... :-)

I am able to deal with men and myself differently all together and can already see that I benefit. I was able to spot a few "dangerous" men quite quickly into getting to know them. I didn't say much, they just got lost. I was also able to walk away from potential hurt. I am happy about that.

I would like to suggest though that you read the book how to spot a dangerous man first before you attempt the workshop workbook. It did help me to do some of the exercises. What I mean is I did understand where the author came from and why she asked some questions...

10 of 10 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars VERY useful in groups of adults, November 6, 2007

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WichacpiHoskila (United States) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: How to Spot a Dangerous Man Workbook: A Survival Guide for Women (Paperback)

I work with adults i group therapy, and my primary specialty areas are domestic violence and sexual assault. I've purchased several copies of this workbook, and have ALWAYS had an enthusiastic response from my clients--even the title of the book brings broad smiles. I am a male therapist, and I wanted to assure potential buyers that this book is NOT biased or snide toward males in any way. In fact, it's a very fair and honest look at men in general, and distinguishes correctly between men who use violence or control in relationships and those who do not, and how to tell the difference. The fact that this book looks at past relationship histories and how we learn from them is invaluable; I like that Sandra uses history to education, but never blames or shames the reader with any subtle hints that "it was your fault 'cause you picked him"-type scolding.

Also: Sandra, I read your review of a similar book that seems to have "borrowed" your writings, and even arranged their chapters in identical order. I agree with your outrage at being stolen from, and regret that subsequent reviewers dismissed your observations without investigating, because your allegations are easily verifiable with the slightest examination.

10 of 10 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Invaluable for spotting those you want to avoid, November 5, 2007

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R. Switzer "A Truth Seeker" (USA) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: How to Spot a Dangerous Man Workbook: A Survival Guide for Women (Paperback)

Sandra has provided a real service to all of us whether male or female by illustrating the signs and characteristics of those who are really dangerous to us. I have been sharing this information with others as it is very useful for anyone to have!