How to Stay Lovers for Life: Discover a Marriage Counselor's Tricks of the Trade [Paperback]

Sharyn Wolf (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: May 1, 1997

Wolf's Guerrilla Dating Tactics turned the jungle warfare of finding a mate into an exciting, satisfying negotiation from which both sides emerged winners. Now Wolf applies the same philosophy to maintaining any long-term relationship. Replete with colorful, real-life stories of couples who made it through the trenches together, How to Stay Lovers for Life offers hundreds of quick, easy, and fun things two people can do together to keep their love alive.

Editorial Reviews

Amazon.com Review

How to Stay Lovers for Life is "an optimistic relationship manual designed to help you from the day you meet through the first seven years of your marriage (or any serious, committed, long-term relationship)...." From the first page, author Sharyn Wolf jumps undauntedly into resolving the conflicts that can taint, and even ruin, love relationships. Wolf writes with a disarming sense of humor and a wealth of knowledge gleaned from her years of experience as a marriage counselor, and includes true-life vignettes that offer insights into healthy, thriving relationships. With chapters such as "I Want to End Our Fights," "I Have Problems That I Want to Change," and "I Want to Work on Our Sex Life," help for specific problems is concise and easy to find.

How to Stay Lovers for Life eschews psychobabble and stays in the realm of the ultrapersonal, providing great tips for avoiding emotional button pushing, evaluating your timing, and refraining from using the dreaded "Let's talk" phrase--and it even includes racy tips for spicing up your sex life. Wolf says that when you're faced with painful conflict in relationships, it's important to remember that it happens in every partnership, and it's "how you handle these feelings when they occur that is the difference between a golden anniversary and alimony." --Jhana Bach --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

From Library Journal

Wolf, a New York couples therapist and relationships expert, has made some rather odd assumptions in this book. For example, though the title seems to indicate that her book is aimed at happy couples, the overarching assumption here is that all couples spend the vast amount of their time together either unhappy or angry?or both. Wolf also assumes that any couple who happens to read through this book will want to engage in time-consuming, rather irritating exercises such as charting the exact times and places when one is happy or unhappy with one's partner, creating a family tree that shows shaky relationships, and participating in intense listening exercises. Still, the book does have many tips, called "Guerrilla Mating Tactics," that readers will appreciate, and Wolf's previous Guerrilla Dating Tactics (Dutton, 1993) and frequent talk-show appearances could generate interest. Buy where demand warrants.?Pamela A. Matthews, Univ. of Maryland Lib., Baltimore
Copyright 1997 Reed Business Information, Inc.

Product Details

• Paperback: 224 pages
• Publisher: Dutton Adult (May 1, 1997)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 052594284X
• ISBN-13: 978-0525942849
• Product Dimensions: 8.2 x 5.5 x 1.1 inches
• Shipping Weight: 11.2 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 4.6 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (5 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #2,738,846 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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13 of 13 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars I loved this book, October 13, 1998

By A Customer

This review is from: How to Stay Lovers for Life: Discover a Marriage Counselor's Tricks of the Trade (Paperback)

I lost a relationship to constant bickering. That will never happen again. There are so many tips, so much humor, and so much hope in this book that I know my relationships are safe from now on. If you love your partner and you want to keep her, get this book.

11 of 11 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Staying Lovers, July 5, 2000

By A Customer

This review is from: How to Stay Lovers for Life: Discover a Marriage Counselor's Tricks of the Trade (Paperback)

I nearly lost a 10 year relationship due to my stubborness and ignorance. A friend gave me this book and The RoMANtic's Guide and I got a good understanding on how to have a happy relationship.

9 of 9 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars This book helped save my relationship, July 14, 1998

By A Customer

This review is from: How to Stay Lovers for Life: Discover a Marriage Counselor's Tricks of the Trade (Paperback)

How to Stay Lovers for Life is filled with good advice, and helped me to not give up on my relationship after the "honyemoon" ended. Sharyn Wolf writes with humor about serious subjects, so it is fun to read.