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Few things tear a child apart on the inside more than their parents' messy divorce on the outside. "How to Stop Hating Your Ex...: So You Can Co-Parent in Peace" is a guide for parents who have turned to divorce yet want to continue to be the best parents they can to their children in spite of their problems with the other parent. Enlightened and honest, Rene Ashton draws on her own experience and offers readers many ideas. "How to Stop Hating Your Ex..." is a top pick for recent divorcees.

There rarely is anything nice about divorce. Unfortunately, children are the innocent victims. Emotion, emotions, emotion. There are so many emotions associated with a divorce. I love how the author allows the reader to explore, work through and try to come to terms with them. She uses her own experiences and is very honest. You'll appreciate her candid advice. This book is meant to be used over and over. Their are exercises to complete and room for notes. You will finish this book stronger and more ready to parent with your ex. You can't parent your children until you explore your feelings towards your ex. If you've recently divorced, pick up this book and read it immediately. If you have friends in this situation, give them a copy. It is a great help.

Charlie David is a divorced woman that needs to learn how to co-parent with her ex-husband, but, she first needs to get over the hurt and pain from the divorce itself. It's easy to see how she lashes out at her ex-husband and then you start to realize she is going through the healing process. Everyone that goes through a divorce tries to find fault in the other and in the mean time forgets if there is a child involved that you'll always be attached through that person.

Yes, divorce can be the pitts and frustrating, you find yourself doing more than you did before with less time. Once you realize you can t do it all you find out you're choosing what's more important to all of you. So let the guilt go. This workbook helps guide you with identifying and forgiving steps. Everything in this book is meant to help you. So, if you are in need or know someone then pick up this book.

You must keep one thing in mind, in order to be successful in co-parenting it helps to get along.

Although I don't have problems with an ex or am going through a divorce, I picked up this book to read on the perspectives of having a relationship with ex's with children involved. Several members of my family, as well as a few of my friends, have been through this difficult process. I wanted to understand what they were going through.

Charlie David, the author of "How to Stop Hating Your Ex So You Can Co-parent in Peace", talks about her experiences with pregnancy, raising her daughter, and coming to terms with the fact that her ex was not romantically interested in her. While her ex was a great father to her child, David still felt a lot of anger and resentment towards her him.

In order to move past the anger and as the title says, "How to Stop Hating Your Ex So You Can Co-Parent in Peace", this book has pages like a workbook. It includes writing exercises to get the frustration out, being honest with yourself, and admitting that you too- have wrongdoings.

As I said, I don't have problems with an ex, but I can see this book as being very helpful for those that are.

Where was this book over ten years ago when I acquired my ex! At the time and even now there was no book to deal with the emotions associated with co-parenting. Everyone did and still tells parents they should get along and not speak poorly and sometimes worse than that of each other. What people do not tell you is how to do that and what to do with all the emotion you are left with.

This book is a working workbook. It is one of those books which are meant to be dog eared and written it. You will want to return to sections and re use the techniques over. The techniques are designed to release and heal the hurt.

The emotions and feelings associated with an ex have a large amount to do with whether they left you or you left them. Sometimes those feelings have to do with the situation as well. Feelings of anger, hurt, and abandonment are explored in this book. As well as experiencing some of those things all over again when your ex acquires a new girl friend.

There are two parts of this book that I find special. The first part is that while describing the exercise that the author wants you to do she gives very personal examples of the thoughts and feelings she had at different point. The second part is the constant refocusing on what is best for your child or children. She honestly looks at the issue of exactly who is being hurt in the long run. Of course this also leads the reader into the realization of who ultimately benefits from a working relationship with their ex.

I recommend this book to anyone stuck in a cycle of not being able to get along with their child's other parent. No matter how soon or how long you are in your break up this book will help clear your head and help you move on.

"How to Stop Hating Your Ex..." is a self-help guide in its truest form. Delivering a message of strength for a brighter future, author Charlie David takes you where few people allow visitors...her own story. Within the pages of her past, she reveals both good and bad times, allowing one to linger, but not wallow. The steps that she followed were important for the outside reader for one reason; they show how she worked through her feelings and found a better place from which to parent her child. She offers readers her recipe for emotional release with these simple steps: write your uncensored feelings about the situation, write how you feel about how you feel, forgive you (write it down), forgive your ex (write this down too), and declare something good about the situation (in writing). Do you see a trend here? Some people release their feelings on others or too others, and although it may lighten their load, you just increased that of the other person. Through writing, you can get it out of your system, leaving others "unharmed".

I, myself, approached this from an outsider's perspective...however I found the author's writing style clear and concise. It was more like you were talking or listening to a close friend than that of an accomplished somewhat pompous author (read a few self-help books and you'll understand). Definitely recommended to both women and men as the advice comes from experience...and since when is that not the ultimate teacher?

Don't be deceived by the lightheartedness of this gem of a book. It is chock full of powerful insights and advice about how to effectively navigate the most important post-divorce relationships in your life; your children and your former spouse.

Each year more than one million children in the U.S. are affected by the grim reality of divorce. It goes without saying that all divorcing parents want what is best for their children. It is equally true, however, that most divorcing parents are so preoccupied with their own post-divorce sadness, anger, and fear (to name just a few of the overwhelming emotions they are experiencing) that they cannot adequately co-parent and help their children adjust to the transition. Learning how to simultaneously separate (pscyhologically) from one's former spouse and work as a team for the benefit of the children is tricky, but critical, business.

Enter Rene Ashton and her wisdom about how to make possible what feels like the impossible. She speaks to her readers candidly about how easy it is to justify poor behavior towards one's ex. Her honest account of her own harrowing experiences with her daughter's father is about as bad as it gets. Yet, Rene is acutely aware that dealing with the psychological fallout of post-divorce life is not an eexcuse for indulging ones's hatred and outrage. To do so is to negatively impact one's children's welfare.

How is ist possible for parents, in the wake of divorce, to get beyond playing out their crippling emotions towards each other so taht their children are not burdened by them? According to Rene, they must be willing to examine and reflect on their own life, their choices and their post-divorce relationship with their former spouse. She offers various exerecise to help with this journey. Doing so helps them to gain control over these powerful feelings which, in turn, allows them to co-parent in a less emotional and more thoughtful way. Rene assures her readers that they will, indeed, ahve strong negative feelings towards their ex. However, how they are managed is what will make the difference between successful and unsuccessful co-parenting.

As a psychologist who specializes in helping people adjust to ther post-divorce lives, I am very impressed with the simple way that Rene addresses a complex topic. Raising a healthy child is a team sport that requires active collaboration from both parents. Rene is completely on target with her primary message that succes or failure of healthy co-parenting depends largely on the cooperation and communication of both parents. Bottom line; Learn how to get along with your ex regardless of how you feel.

Divorce is awful. I am currently involved in an ugly divorce with my soon to be ex husband and am a mother of 2 little ones. I picked up this book hoping to learn from Charlie David and her experiences. My husband has a lot of guilt and thus a lot of anger and I thought this book could help me understand him better and hopefully myself as well. I was not disappointed. The author writes a very honest book, as she has been a divorced parent herself. She openly shares her thoughts and feelings and her growth. She gives hope to those of us still involved in the process.

My favorite aspect of this book is the exercises. She asks deep questions that involve sole searching and lots of examination of feelings. I learned so much answering these questions. I also found it helpful to look back at my answers after I finished the book. These exercises combined with her helpful wisdom made this a great book for me to read. I must also add that the positive quotes she adds at the end of chapters, really inspired me. She picked some great ones such as, "You are worthy of happiness. You will get through this. I believe in you." Divorce can be so depressing and she adds the positive with these quotations. Please share this book with anyone you know going through a divorce as a parent.

As a divorced mother of two, I found this book very helpful. I have a lot of resentment towards my ex and although I try my best not to let my children see it, reading this book has made me realize that there is a good bit to work on. I wish I had this book 3 years ago! Charlie David wrote this in such an honest, direct approach that I really appreciate. Some of her examples were exactly what I have thought or even said in the past. I loved how she included areas to write your feelings and I believe it is a major key in the book. I have already recommended this to a friend of mine that is recently divorced and will to anyone else that has anger towards their ex.

Complete with worksheets and helpful, true-to-life advice, "How to Stop Hating Your Ex So You Can Co-parent in Peace" is a gem. The author uses her own experience to give this book authenticity, and she allows her reader to embrace the anger they feel. However, she turns these feelings into useful energy in creating a harmonious relationship with an ex. I would highly recommend this book to anyone who is ending a relationship with someone that they've had a family with - it's excellent.