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How to Stop a Stalker

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Up until right now, I read couple books on stalking behaviour, this one is one of the best I have ever read, it is very srong in defining the behaviour, lots of examples are given which may help you better understand the behaviour. If you are the stalking victim this book might help you save your own life. I strongly recommend this book anyone who wants to deal with stalking behaviour effectively.

We are being stalked by a previous convicted stalker.
We are located in the foothills of California and the home we live in is serviced by the County Sheriff.

It has been, and still is, a very difficult process to get people to understand stalking laws.

We bought this book because we needed to learn how to help ourselves...and to assist others to understand what can be done.

Dective Proctor's book has helped us through the maze. This is a book to read and then pass it around. Especially to people who really need to "Get It."

We recommend this book highly.
Mike Proctor really cares about his work both as a detective and author.
It is fantastic to have someone who understands.

This is a must read book for every adult, especialy women. Dective Proctor opened my eyes to the crime of stalking. Dectective Proctor wrote a no-nonsense, easy to read and understand book, packed full of information and easy to follow steps for your personal safety.
He explains who and why people stalk. I found this book to be very informative. This is one of the best books I have read in a long time.

I expected a work on stalking to be very dry and difficult to get through. This book,however, was extremely interesting,informative and easy to read. It is the sort of book that the normal man in the street could read and apply as easily as someone who is more knowledgeable about the subject. A wonderful handbook for anyone having troubles of this nature and a wothwhile read for any safety conscious individual.

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How to Stop a Stalker is the best-ever resource for stalking victims, their family members, employers, victim advocates, law enforcement and prosecutors. Det. Proctor's advice and suggestions are realistic and clear. He explains how stalkers operate and the many steps that victims can take to protect themselves at home, at work and when traveling in their car.

It takes an experienced and skilled detective to discuss so many safety strategies, legal remedies and practical tips. For example, he has included specific instructions on the best type of deadbolt locks to purchase and install, how to utilize a private mail-drop most effectively, and the items that a stalking victim should carry in the car at all times. He has described the court process from start to finish in layperson's terms. He has illustrated the benefits and disadvantages of a restraining order from the victim's point of view, but sets out the genuine advantages restraining orders provide to law enforcement. He has provided advice on how a victim can work successfully with law enforcement and prosecutors to stop the stalker.

How to Stop a Stalker is the most practical and clearly written guide I have seen. I recommend it to all stalking victims and those who work with them

First off, the royal we becomes annoying really fast.

When he sticks to his topic, he's informative, enlightening, and even entertaining. He knows his stuff and he covers a lot of ground, including the Internet. I feel like I've learned a lot of information from him and I don't regret reading this book.

Too often, however, he veers off into "this is why me and my group and wonderful and have to face a whole bunch of idiots." Like in the section on sadism where he never gets around to giving the example he promised, but rather discusses problems he had with a jurist from another jurisdiction.

Overall, the tone is quite juvenile, and I had to keep reminding myself this was a man in his fifties, not early twenties. He comes off as a bit of a puppy. The name calling gets tiresome after a while. I'd also rather he not talk down to the reader. I didn't need him to clarify that no, dead bodies don't sit up and give statements to the police, thanks.

Those last two points are what keeps the book from getting 5 stars. It's a good book; it could have been a great book.

If anyone is going through the hell of being stalked, or even think they are being stalked, they MUST by Detective Proctor's book "How to Stop A Stalker"
I have read other "stalking" books, and they have been helpful, but none to the extent of Detective Proctor's book.
The information, the suggestions, everything is a MUST for someone being stalked.
He UNDERSTANDS, something that I didn't feel from the other stalking books.
Detective Proctor knows the reality and horror of stalking in an easy read and extremely informative book.
This book is up to date (unlike some of the other Stalking books) and my only problem is that he doesn't have a sequel. Hopefully that is something he is working on.
I give this book ten stars. This book literally saved my life and it can save yours.
If you, a friend, or a family member are being stalked, you must read this book.

I have taught an upper division course on Family Violence for 20 years. After many years of searching for a credible and useful book on stalking I came across Det. Proctor's book on how to stop a stalker. I have also had 28 years of experience in law enforcement; therefore, I approached the book the first time I "studied" it from both an academic and an applied perspective. The true value of the book lies in the fact that the author bases it on years of field experience investigating and studying stalkers. He is to be commended for stating that he does not know everything and continues to learn new things about the subject. Two major typologies are developed. The first typology presents the elements of the crime of stalking--harrassment, credible threat, and course of conduct. The second typology presents the three types of stalkers--domestic, acquaintance, and stranger. Proctor draws on the two typologies throughout the book as he systematically writes about stalking. The book helps to understand the difference between romantic compulsion and stalking. Drawing on case histories Proctor provides insight into why they stalk, how they target victims, techniques of stalking, compulsion, and the impact on the victims' lives, as well as the victims' families, friends, and co-workers. Proctor does an excellent job of differentiating between male and female stalkers. The use of case histories is what makes the book come alive. Sound practical advice is provided for investigators as well as victims. I highly recommend the book for use in the classroom. My students were impressed and it generated insightful discussion--including personal experiences, on campus and elsewhere, as well as experiences of friends and family members. All criminal investigators and prosecutors should read the book as well. These are not easy cases to investigate and prosecute and Proctor' recommendations are both thorough and helpful.

"How to Stop a Stalker" written by Mike Proctor was extremely informative and very much an eye opener. It defines in layman's terms the various types of stalkers, their methods of stalking and what to do when this occurs. It spells out the process and procedures the judicial system has to follow to apprehend and secure this type of individual. This book should be mandatory reading for all human resource departments whether it be in private practice or public domain and for that matter any individual seeking knowledge and awareness.

Detective Mike Proctor teaches readers the basics of defending themselves in How To Stop A Stalker, a guide for those coping with repeated harassment by potentially violent individuals. From why stalkers follow their victims; to what to do if one is being stalked; the collection of evidence; getting the justice system on one's side; what to do in court, and so much more, How To Stop A Stalker is an absolute "must-read", and bears the very highest recommendation for men and women alike -- because statistical data indicates 1 out of 12 women and 1 out of every 45 men will be stalked in their lifetime. In our troubled times of having to also deal with the threats presented by domestic and foreign terrorism, How To Stop A Stalker is even more relevant to the lives of ordinary citizens and could well save your life and the lives of those dear to you.