How to Succeed with Men [Paperback]

Ron Louis (Author), David Copeland (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: January 31, 2000

Forget The Rules. At last there's a guide to what men really want from a relationship written by the reigning experts on the subject -- men! Gender studies specialists Ron Louis and David Copeland deliver the targeted, no-nonsense advice any single or divorced woman needs to find a good man. While publicizing their first team effort, How to Succeed with Women, Ron and David received many requests from the female audiences wanting to know when a book for them would be forthcoming.

Packed with lively and revealing true-life examples, How to Succeed with Men moves from the first sparks, through courtships and breakups, to marriage. Along the way, women will discover:
-- The truth about men, sex, and dating
-- Where the desirable men are...and how to meet them
-- The essentials of effective flirting
-- How to move from "just friends" to lovers
-- Surefire strategies for romancing a man's soul...and seducing his body
-- How to avoid the pitfalls...and dump the duds
-- Definitive criteria for judging whether a relationship has staying power

Instead of simply teaching tricks to hook a man, Louis and Copeland give women valuable insights into what truly makes the opposite sex tick...and reveal precisely how to connect with the right man.

Editorial Reviews

About the Author

Ron Louis has been researching and writing about gender issues for the past seven years. He is the author of the widely praised Sexpectations: Women Talk Candidly About Sex and Dating. David Copeland is an acclaimed speaker who leads personal development seminars for men and women around the world. The authors made numerous media appearances for their first book written together, Prentice Hall's How to Succeed with Women. They live in Madison, Wisconsin.

Product Details

• Paperback: 352 pages
• Publisher: Prentice Hall Press (January 31, 2000)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0735201404
• ISBN-13: 978-0735201408
• Product Dimensions: 8.2 x 5.5 x 0.8 inches
• Shipping Weight: 1 pounds (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 3.6 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (34 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #780,075 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

Customer Reviews

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61 of 63 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars I'm actually understanding men better because of this book!, January 18, 2000

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Jenn T (Madison, Wisconsin) - See all my reviews

This review is from: How to Succeed with Men (Paperback)

I'll admit that when I got this book I was a little skeptical. I'm currently in a relationship, and even though a lot of this book focused on finding a guy (this part was good by the way), I really got a lot out of the other parts. I've read a couple of books on the subject including "The Rules" and "What Men Want" and never really felt like I got much practical advice. This book isn't about mind games like "The Rules" and it has much more meat to it than "What Men Want". I really am starting to feel like I understand men and what motivates them to be in committed relationships! I've changed just a few things and have already noticed a difference in my relationship.

The authors did a good job helping me to get inside a guys head and really understand what usually scares men away and what motivates men to stay. I never realized how important it was for a guy to be my "hero" and for him to feel like he was winning my heart. I really get it now and am seeing what a positive impact it can have on my relationship! I never understood why I couldn't get the kind of commitment I wanted from a man. The authors give some great advice in the commitment chapters! That part was my favorite! They help to get the "commitment conversation" off the ground without blowing it!

I'd recommend this book to women looking for relationships, as well as to women in relationships that would like to step things up a notch or just improve they way they communicate with their guy.

I hope you enjoy it as much as I did!

30 of 30 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars The best advice I ever got - fantastic book!, January 6, 2004

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Karin Atkinson Carr "operababe_61" (Sacramento, CA) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: How to Succeed with Men (Paperback)

This book changed my life. I had a history of dating men who treated me like I was an afterthought and I kept putting up with it. This book teaches you to 1) decide what your goal is (boyfriend, marriage, casual dating), 2) decide what qualities you want in a man, and 3) don't date anyone more than a few times if he doesn't have those qualities. It was hard but if I could tell on a first or second date that he didn't have certain qualities that I wanted (like humility or generosity) then I politely declined when he asked me out again. My friends said I was being too harsh because I was so ruthless. They said that nobody's perfect and I was being too inflexible. But I stuck with it because what I'd been doing hadn't made me meet the love of my life. So after four months I met a man who had EVERY SINGLE QUALITY on my list! We got married a year later and have now been married for 8 wonderful months. My friends now say that I'm the poster child for successful dating! This book is the reason that I had the courage not to settle for someone who would stand me up repeatedly or make me pay every time we went out.

Update: we just celebrated our two year wedding anniversary in May and have a beautiful new baby!

30 of 31 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A Must Read if You're Not as Good at Dating as You'd Like..., December 27, 2004

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Smarty Pants (New York) - See all my reviews

This review is from: How to Succeed with Men (Paperback)

I'm a very well-educated, attractive and social woman who has had mediocre luck with men. I haven't found many I'm interested in and those I've found haven't turned out to have the qualities I want. Many men I was interested in became good friends but not romantic partners. I've always thought part of it was that I have never understood men, what motivates them, what they are looking for in a relationship and how they think. I also tend to get too carried away at the beginning of a relationship by the newness and passion to keep my wits about me and make a good decision as to whether the guy is really right for me. If you're anything like me, then you need to read this book! The authors tell women to put pen to paper and decide what they really want in a partner. Then they say that it's OK to be picky and you don't have to keep dating someone if he doesn't measure up to your "list." They also explain what motivates and interests men in relationships (the area I needed the most work in) and why you need to nurture your partner to keep his romantic interest alive. They also give good tips for testing the man to be sure that he really is good enough for you (and they don't tell you what that is, they let you define that for yourself). I don't agree with the reviewers who say that this book is one sided and it directs women to cater only to men's needs. I actually think they do a good job of matching up women's needs with men's and they give a great game plan for trying to satisfy both. Being in my late 30's, I think I'm at a point now where I'm ready to hear what the authors have to say. I think the reviewers who characterize the authors' point of view as frat boy or chauvinistic are still at the point in their maturity where they don't want to acknowledge that men and women ARE JUST DIFFERENT and you aren't sacrificing your independence or yourself just because you make your man a priority! I think they also haven't acknowledged that relationships take work, and you need to do what men need, not what YOU think they need! Highly recommended!!