How to Survive Your Boyfriend's Divorce: Loving Your Separated Man Without Losing Your Mind [Hardcover]

Robyn Todd (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: May 4, 1999

You've just met the most amazing man: intelligent, fun, charming and...currently in the process of divorce. This could mean anything from sleeping on the coach to arguing over who's going to get the coach.

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Robyn Todd and Lesley Dormen --This text refers to the Paperback edition.

Product Details

• Hardcover: 224 pages
• Publisher: M.Evans & Company (May 4, 1999)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0871318873
• ISBN-13: 978-0871318879
• Product Dimensions: 9.1 x 6 x 1 inches
• Shipping Weight: 1 pounds
• Average Customer Review: 4.2 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (39 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #263,059 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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30 of 30 people found the following review helpful:

3.0 out of 5 stars Overall good nuggets of truth, January 7, 2005

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This review is from: How to Survive Your Boyfriend's Divorce: Loving Your Separated Man without Losing Your Mind (Paperback)

The authors did a fairly good job with tackling this sticky subject. Everyone has their own particular set of circumstances, but I think for the most part, the majority of women will be the "transitional woman" for a man going through his divorce, which is why I can understand the authors' choice to be quite negative about their thoughts on the man. For me personally, I stuck with my gut and knew that I had a special situation, and I was right. We made it through b/c we both had to acknowledge our temporary limitations and work within those boundaries (this tactic is outlined by the authors). As the book suggests to all women, I kept my own apartment, kept friendships intact, started new hobbies to keep myself occupied, and definitely kept a mental "side door" ajar in case I needed out. So, in general, I think this book is smart b/c it reminds women that they have choices, they must take responsibility for their own happiness, and it also outlines what to expect if a woman chooses to be in a situation like this. If you're willing to take on this kind of "high-risk" relationship with a man going through a divorce, good luck, but remember to always be honest with yourself, if something seems too good to be true, it probably is, and even the smartest, savviest woman can be brought to her knees in this type of situation, so brace yourself, and having a copy of this book handy is probably not a bad idea, since it's really the only one of its kind.

27 of 28 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Helped me get my sanity back, February 29, 2000

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This review is from: How to Survive Your Boyfriend's Divorce: Loving Your Separated Man Without Losing Your Mind (Hardcover)

I got his book about a month ago, and I've read it about 5 times already. I've underlined it, highlighted it, and dog-eared the important pages. If you're involved with a man in the process of a divorce, this book is essential. It pointed out to me what I was doing wrong in the relationship. It also reminded me that I have 3 basic options: I can stay in the relationship, I can put it on hold, or I can leave. This may sound overly simple, but in the midst of the mess of a relationship of this type, you forget the most basic things. I laughed out loud, nodded my head, and actually said "Yes...that's true!" out loud as I read. This book sits next to my bed, and I turn to it almost daily to keep myself centered and on the right track. It gives several real life examples with analysis. The author doesn't mince words either. She realistically lays it all on the line. It's a cold, hard dose of reality, yet it does give you options for trying to make the relationship work. I've read a ton of "self-help" books, and this one is truly worth every penny. My first word of advice: Don't get involved with a divorcing man. My second word of advice: If you do, get this book!

26 of 27 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars Separation is a different state..., October 18, 2000

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This review is from: How to Survive Your Boyfriend's Divorce: Loving Your Separated Man Without Losing Your Mind (Hardcover)

Separation is not quite married, not quite single, not quite divorced. It is chaos, often when you least expect it. A relationship during this time is certainly not an affair, but it is not just standard dating either (as you probably now know ). I have found no other book that recognizes this and therefore is so helpful.

You're probably wondering how helpful and why was it so helpful? I would've paid many times more the price of this book for just half of the chapter which I read and reread, photocopied, marked up, and where I found myself. As cliche as it may sound, this book was a bright light in a very dark time. It does not matter what the page numbers were, I suspect that if you're drawn to this title you may very well find such a similar passage about a relationship. I'm not surprised to hear that many people purchase a second copy for the other person in the relationship.

As you may have suspected I was the man trying to survive my girlfriend's divorce. This book works in either case. (Actually, she was also trying to survive mine.) It has been slightly more than a year since I started reading this book and we're still together because of it.

Why only four stars? At the end of each chapter the book reminds you that you have three options: I can stay in the relationship, I can put it on hold, or I can leave. In my opinion the book did not provide enough information or examples for putting the relationship on hold. My other reason is that this is a perfect book for people to add their stories on the Web, but there's no complementary website.

So to the authors: thank-you! This book was a very important part of last 12 months of my life. I hope the next edition has twice as many case studies.