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How to Talk to the People You Love

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This is really quite a good book. And it can be very helpful for all kinds of relationships. But only after you have had Heart Surgery 101. This book is good for what I would call
SCRIPTING. Learning scripts in order to resolve conflicts with
others. And to enhance communication skills. But sometimes we have to look at the energy behind our conflicts. "Darling (eyes
glaring or bulging), may we discuss this problem (fists clenching)." You see? Another person can feel your anger no matter how much you sugar-coat it! But...once the negative
emotion dissolves, this book can be invaluable. In another of
Gabor's books ("How to Start a Conversation and Make Friends"), he gives
a suggestion that is simple but great. When people are asking you questions that are so personal that they make you cringe, just say, "I'd rather not say." In fact, I call it the I'D RATHER NOT SAY method. This is where Gabor and his books really help. Once you have softened your heart muscles to other
people, than these methods can really help you with other people. To help you with other people in HEARTBREAK 101, buy "Cultivating
Compassion" by Jeffrey Hopkins. This book will present you with a series of short meditations in that area. Thank you.

Do not buy this item unless you need to understand the very basics about relating. This would be good for someone who has no idea about how relationships work (and they are out there, but they likely have no desire to read a book like this, which is sad because they need it the most). But, if you do have some idea, you will get frustrated by the simplicity because it will be stuff you already know. So, go for something more complex and deeper. Give this to your cold, affectless partner who doesn't understand what you mean when you try to talk to him/her about your feelings.