No one likes to be criticized. But when feedback is necessary whether it's with a boss, someone we manage, or another co-worker it takes great communication skills to successfully get the message across with feelings and relationships intact. Drawing from the latest thinking in psychology on how best to connect with others, "How to Tell Anyone Anything" steers readers away from the common mistake of focusing on what's wrong, and shows them instead how to provide clear, constructive, positive messages. From telling a frequently late employee that we understand what happened (even as we negotiate for the problem to stop), to asking a rude co-worker what's bothering them (and by doing so, discovering the root of the problem), the book gives readers powerful insight into how we all react naturally to criticism and how to transform interactions that might become verbal tugs of war into collaborative, problem-solving sessions.
My specialty is teaching people how to communicate in difficult situations. As a former customer service executive - and now as a speaker, trainer, and practicing therapist - my books and training programs explore the mechanics of how we communicate, based on recent principles of behavioral psychology.
I am perhaps best known for my book What to Say to a Porcupine (AMACOM, 2008), a national #1 customer service and business humor bestseller on Amazon.com. My most recent book How to Tell Anyone Anything (AMACOM, 2009) explores how to have painless discussions on your toughest interpersonal situations at work, using techniques from strength-based psychotherapy.
If you are looking for "smile training" or basic advice on communications skills, there are lots of books out there. But if you want to learn what to say to someone after you've just towed their car away - or how to talk to a co-worker who needs to shower more often - or what will defuse a toxic boss - you've come to the right place! Enjoy my books, or Google me to learn more. Welcome!
