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“...user-friendly guide offers simple ways and practical wisdom from real-life cases.”
Book Browsing, June 2000

“Dr. Albert Ellis uses clear and concise language to distinguish what readers may think vs. what is the heart of their difficulties and how to overcome them.”
Today's Librarian, June 2000

&ldquot;Dr. Albert Ellis is a recognized expert in the field of rational emotive behavior therapy, which concentrates on changing behaviors by replacing irrational beliefs with rational ones. HOW TO MAKE YOURSELF HAPPY...offers readers practical guidance for achieving happy and satisfying lives. Dr. Ellis is convinced that people have the ability to change their lives through the choices they make. He says you can 'learn to change your thoughts, feelings, and actions and thereby reduce your emotional distress.' Ellis teaches readers how to recognize...unreasonable feelings and convert them to healthy emotions. Readers wishing to ease their emotional distress will find How to Make Yourself Happy a useful resource.”
The Midwest Book Review, October 1999

“...insightful and understandable for the average layperson. It is organized in an easy-to-follow manner which gives various approaches to difficult situations such as accepting yourself and others as imperfect creatures, separating the actions of others from their personalities, examining what's the worst that can happen, and exploring ways to make yourself less disturbable in both actions and feeling...will offer insight for anyone plagued with self-destructive thoughts and actions, those interested in human nature, or merely those individuals who want happier lives.”
Colorado Libraries, Summer 2000

“Do you go to extremes? The cure is moderation. Sometimes extremes can be good. In can be healthy to be gung-ho bout a relationship, an activity, or a cause. But many extreme views and actions pack a debilitating wallop. Severe sadness, anxiety, depression, self-pity, and rage can seriously affect your coping abilities. In his book How to Make Yourself Happy and Remarkably Less Disturbable Ellis presents a pragmatic, realistic approach to choosing to reduce your present disturbed thoughts, feelings, and actions, and learning to ward off future emotional difficulties. Written in a lively, frank style that includes real-life case examples...emphasizes moderation in coping more effectively with obstacles to happiness.&rdquot;
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About the Author

Dr. Albert Ellis (1913-2007) was the author of more than 65 books on psychotherapy, relationship therapy, and self-help, including Feeling Better, Getting Better, Staying Better; Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy: A Therapist's Guide; Making Intimate Connections and How to Make Yourself Happy and Remarkably Less Disturbable. He published over 700 articles and composed more than 200 rational songs.

Dr. Ellis was rated by psychologists and counselors in the United States as one of the most influential psychologists of our time. He "revolutionized" psychotherapy since 1955, when he created Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), the first of the now-popular cognitive behavior therapies. Dr. Ellis was a practicing psychologist, president of the Albert Ellis Institute in New York City, and a featured speaker at workshops and conferences throughout the world. He received many awards, including distinguished psychologist, scientific researcher, and distinguished psychological practitioner from several associations, including the American Humanist Association, American Academy of Psychotherapists, Society for the Study for Scientific Sex, American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists, and Academy of Psychologists in Marital and Family Therapy. He also earned one of the highest awards of the American Psychological Association: Distinguished Professional Contribution to Knowledge.


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Product Details

  • Paperback: 224 pages
  • Publisher: Impact; 1 edition (May 1, 1999)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1886230188
  • ISBN-13: 978-1886230187
  • Product Dimensions: 9 x 6 x 0.5 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 11.4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.2 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (25 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #95,207 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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(1913-2007) Albert Ellis held M.A and Ph.D. degrees in Clinical Psychology from Columbia University. He was the founder of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), the pioneering form of the modern Cognitive Behavior therapies. He was the president of the Albert Ellis Institute in New York, where he practiced individual and group psychotherapy, supervised and trained psychotherapists, and presented many talks and workshops at the Institute and throughout the world. He published over seven hundred articles and more than sixty books on psychotherapy, marital and family therapy, and sex therapy.

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64 of 69 people found the following review helpful By Marilyn Dalrymple VINE VOICE on April 4, 2000
Format: Paperback
At first I didn't know what to think of this book. Ellis, an internationally renowned psychologist and founder of the Albert Ellis Institute for Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy, writes like a psychologist--a little too deep for the layperson. He also uses initials in his writing. Whenever you read "REBT," you are to remember it stands for Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy. "IB" stands for (Irrational Beliefs), "USA" (unconditional self-acceptance), and "UAO" Unconditional Acceptance of Others. I found it distracting to be reading a chapter and having to go back and find for which "IB," REBT," "UAO," and all the other initials stood. About haf-way through the book, things fell into place, made sense and became interesting. I started to understand what Ellis was saying, and the book became helpful and informative. His theory is, we are the captain of our ships--our minds. No matter what storms we must weather, we have what it takes to overcome these disturbances and continue our journey with smooth sailing, under our own power. On page 49 Ellis says, ". . .you have little control over many unfortunate Activating Events or Adversities (A's) that plague you, but you largely can control your Beliefs (B's) about these Adversities." He continues, "You can control and exhange your own disturbance-creating demands!" This is the heart of his therapy. Ellis relates patient's stories, how they were treated and how the overcame their problems. When reading these anecdotes, it gives the reader a feeling of, I'm not alone with my problems and they can be overcome. This is always helpful. Included in the book is an REBT Self-Help Form.Read more ›
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48 of 51 people found the following review helpful By A Customer on February 17, 2000
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I think that this is a very good book by Ellis. All you will need to know, to understand the Ellis system, is covered here. Ellis was voted one of the top three therapists of this century, but he is NOT THE BEST TEACHER OF HIS THEORY in the self help books he writes (I have heard him in action on tapes and seen him in action once: he is great IN PERSON)
The BEST SELF HELP BOOK FOR THIS SYSTEM is "Unfair Advantage" by TOM MILLER. It is interactive (a workbook where he makes you write down things)
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80 of 90 people found the following review helpful By Bill Butler on June 19, 2000
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I have ruthlessly criticized Albert Ellis in other reviews and I apologize. I now have many of his books and tapes. This book really stands out and will show you new "flavors" of how to make yourself less miserable. And Thank God, in this book, Ellis is taking the whip in his hand and stating PRACTICE, PRACTICE, PRACTICE. This book is simply a Godsend. I have already benefitted from it greatly. Ellis pounds home the fact that humans can be happy. They have a choice. I am now dropping "wanting the approval of others". So the anxiety pitches down. This is becoming more and more ingrained in my brain. In this book, Ellis has come up with a beautiful new acronym. USA. Unconditional Self Acceptance. I can now relax. Do yourself a favor and buy this book. I didn't practice hard before so I blasted Ellis. But this book is a Godsend for anybody who has problems with depression or anxiety. Yes, you can make yourself happy. Thank you, Dr. Ellis.
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15 of 17 people found the following review helpful By Bill Cahall on February 8, 2000
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Granted, this isn't Albert Ellis' best book, you'd be better off starting with "A Guide to Rational Living". But Mr. Hettinger misses the point in his review. In his review he says that he "just couldn't take it anymore". Saying something like that is very un-REBT like. He calls much of what's in the book semantic B.S. Well Mr. Hettinger, how you think is ALL sematics to coin a phrase from Maxie Maultsby, a well known cognitive behavioral therapist, you use words to think. The reason Dr. Ellis keeps hammering on certain points is to get it through our fool heads. As far as using words such as "awful" and "horrible" the fact is you don't NEED to ever define anything as other than bad. Bad is bad, sometimes very bad. Those words are often over-defining the badness of events and therefore using them can make you feel worse. So why use them. Just saying "horrible" makes you feel worse because of the contortions your face goes through when saying it. The same contortions can't be done when saying "bad". Smile and you feel better, frown and you feel worse. Try it. This is a good book, thought not his best.
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21 of 25 people found the following review helpful By Maxim Masiutin on April 24, 2005
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This book is a lengthy popular presentation of how to apply famous Dr. Ellis's Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) to yourself, with numerous examples, case studies and repetitions.

REBT is a philosophy more than psychology. REBT states that is not an adversity (A) that affects the human but the belief (B) of the individual about it, leading to negative consequences (C). These are the simple but most important ABCs of the therapy.

Dr. Ellis encourages disputing the irrational beliefs, avoiding generalization and absolutism, and unconditionally accepting self and the others.

Here is an excerpt from the book: "Exceptionally bad occurrences are only awful, horrible or terrible when you define them as such. Bad never really means awful but you may think it does. And you never have to think in that self-destructive way. In fact if you think clearly, you'll soon see that nothing - no, nothing - is awful. [.....] When you insist that an undesirable event is awful or terrible, you are implying - if you're honest with yourself - that it is as bad as it could be: completely or 100% bad. Bu actually nothing can be 100% bad, because it invariably could be worse. If you are tortured to death slowly, you could always be tortured to death slower. About the only thing that could really be totally bad would be the annihilation of the entire human race, all the living and non-living things that now exist, and the whole universe. Well, that hardly seems likely in the near future.
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