I first found this book in our local library. I was surprised to learn that the Arterburn family had also lived
in this community. I have read Every Man's Battle but had never heard of How Will I Tell My Mother. I enjoyed the book enough that I bought a used copy on Amazon and shared it with a friend (she apparently went to school with
Stephen). Anyway I (and my Friend) found the book to be a very easy and informative read. We both have known
someone close who have had identity issues relating to sexuality. Jerry shares his very real struggle after being
groped as a 5yr old by a church counselor. It happened yet again during his youth, only to encourage his idea of
male bonding. He shares his struggles through his life, having dated women but never bringing it to a level of
marriage. He questions it all and the choices he ultimately made that brought him to this point of his life. A.I.D.S. None of us get a do over but Jerry repents and in his restoration process spends his time with other
aids patients. At the time the book was written a great many people abandoned their loved ones. Jerry recognized
the need and healing power of human touch. He dedicated the remainder of his days sharing his heart with the lost
and helping them find healing in the Lord.
The most intriguing part for me is all the stuff that was already going on in this country(Jerry worked in a few
different states). As hidden as this problem was in the 70's-80's, it helps me as a christian to see how profound
the problem has been for a long time. My heart is broken as this issue destroys MANY lives and families. I have
come to a greater understanding of Stephen's dedication to this destructive issue.