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How to win as a stepfamily

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A must-read for anyone struggling with step family issues.I first bought and read this book over ten years ago when I married a man with 2 teen-aged children. I am certain that the advice saved our marriage - and I gave the book to one of my friends to successfully assist her with her step-family issues.The Vishers successfully identify the core issues, problems, and trouble spots inherent in step-families. They offer sound advice and solutions that work. They also explain typical scenarios and situations that arise in these trying step family environments - and again they suggest sound and viable solutions that get postitive results.

This author has lived the experience and speaks from a very deep well of collected wisdom. The Vishers have been involved in helping step families for over twenty years. Any family who has transited divorce and is now being reorganized through remarriage can benefit enormously from this work.

Though I did not walk away from this book feeling that this book is the best so far or that it had all the answers, it was a great source for building knowledge and insight into how to handle the stressors of blending families. One can never believe just how stressful times can be with your wonderful children and with the new spouse that you love and have married...it is so hard to understand how these good people just can not get along. The plus to this book is that is goes into what it is like to begin dating after divorce, planning the marriage and a great insight into situations that will SURELY happen. It's kinda like childbirth....one thinks they can handle it...I am strong...I won't need special technqiues to get through it...well...look out...you are not that special..grin. In addition to a great therapist....this book will be a welcomed addition to your support system.

I used this book as a resource for a grad school paper on counseling stepfamilies. My professor, a practicing psychologist, suggested this book as a great source for stepfamily information. It is a very thorough book, bringing attention to many issues facing stepfamilies. This book also contains many useful suggestions for stepfamilies, future/potential stepfamilies, and those working with stepfamilies.

This is a great book!!! It was an eye-opener. My husband and I both read it and said, "Ah, that makes a lot of sense. No wonder!" I would suggest that every couple thinking about getting married (where children are involved) should pick up this book and read it. Being in a blended family is definitely MUCH harder than the nuclear family, and potential stepfamilies should go into it having realistic expectations. This book will give you a bird's eye view of what's ahead and help you decide whether or not you are ready for the challenges.