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Husbands Who Won't Lead and Wives Who Won't Follow

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On the plus side, the book does explain why women and men often find themselves frustrated in fruitless marriages. It mentions, for example, the lazy, couch-potato husband who finds responsibility inimical to his (lack of) thought processes, and the wife who finds herself, in response, either enmeshed in the irresponsibility, or avoiding him completely.

Therefore, descriptions are good, if not overly simplistic. The descriptions are interwoven, unfortunately, with references to the life of David, which the Bible is a little fuzzy on. I wish it had been interwoven with precise quotation of Scripture that deals specifically with marriage, instead of extrapolating on the quality of David's mariage, which we know little about.

The solutions part is a problem, since I also find them too simplistic. For example, the author states that a woman caught in a marriage to an escapist should not fall into the morass herself. However, the author never gives a broad explanation of the "how." How exactly does she not fall into it, yet maintain her attitude of submissiveness to her husband? These are the kinds of questions I could not find answers to.

In addition, solutions, as simplitic as they are, are not combined with a prayer program, meaning that God doesn't seem to enter the picture very clearly. I wish the author would have used prayer passages from the Bible so that a woman, or a man, could learn to pray to God appropriately for help in marriage.

All in all, then, the book is good at offering basic descriptions of dysfunctionality in marriage, but does not seem to offer good examples from Scriptures, nor a sound prayer program, to allow a man or woman to see what the Bible says about the problem, or to utilize God's partnership in the marriage through proper prayer.

When reading James Walker's book I was struck by it's honesty and hard-hitting style. It's like he had been an uninvited guest in our home for many years. His book deals with Male passivity and how women go crazy when they feel like they are carrying the whole load. He also gives practical suggestions on how to save your marriage along with your sanity. When I read it I wanted to colapse and breathe a huge sigh of relief.

This book by Walker is very helpful and Biblical on the entire subject of men leading in the home and wives supporting the husband's leadership. While certainly not politically correct, this volume is Biblically correct in its affirmation of the husband as the servant leader of the household. Walker divides his work into two halves, the first half addressing men who won't lead, and the second addressing women who won't follow.

This book is not to be used as a defense of a complimentarian view of marriage. For Christians who have a complimentarian view however, it is extremely helpful in putting that view into practice.

EXCELLENT! Walker provides both potential wife, and husband, invaluable insight as to why people are the way they are - particularly men. He explains what makes them tick, not tick, and what factors influence them to be motivated, or not motivated, to do or not do certain things. By gaining an better understanding of men, and how they operate, woman are equipped to be much less frustrated by the decisions of men. (Allthough somewhat poorly worded, a better title might be "If Only She Knew". It brings to light many issues which woman, especially, might benefit from understanding. Written as a Christian book. A good book source for men is "If Only He Knew".)

This is a good book which does cover some aspects that helps to gain understanding why men and women are certain ways. I felt it was more heavily leaning towards understanding men and what they need more than understanding women and their needs though. It could have leaned a little more towards helping men to understand women, what women need, why, and how men could step up to the plate. All in all it is a good book helping both spouses understand a biblical marriage and its rewards.

You are not serious. This author has severe mental issues. I've never read such nonsense. A man is not a boss in a marriage....men and women are equals. This book is a very bad message to send to your daughters. This author should be ashamed of himself.