Customer Reviews

I Don't Have Your Eyes

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I just received this book as a gift. It's wonderful, filled with sweet messages affirming the value of loving, caring, giving, listening and sharing, and illustrations showing children and care givers who don't look alike sharing day-to-day life moments. I didn't realize how much I miss seeing images of diverse families in books until I read this one. The large photos are appealing even to young children and the text is accessible to a large age range of children with messages a parent won't tire of reading. Differences between family members are not denied but the commonality of the human spirit is honored. This book is appropriate not only for adoptive families (like my own) but step-families, bi-cultural or multicultural families and families where biologically related children don't resemble one or either of their parents. It's a great book for school reading projects too as it promotes positive messages and is inclusive of children who don't look like their caregivers.
Cissy White, Families with Children from China member, So. Shore, Ma

Carrie Kitz has written a wonderful story for all families to enjoy together. My girls, ages 5 and 2, ask me to read it over and over. As a mom to one daughter from China and one from Cambodia, I especially enjoy the message the book sends- we may look different on the outside, but on the inside, we are the same.

Don't be fooled by the cover. Carrie's newest creation speaks to the entire adoption and foster community. " I Don't Have Your Eyes" is the novel, one-of-a kind kids' adoption book we have needed.

Although a " feel good" book, there is nothing sterotypical about how adoption is discussed. The illustrations include and normalize all different type of families.

"I Don't Have Your Eyes" helps kids go beyond " blood" and "genes" as the only important ties between family members. Instead, Carrie gently points out, even more important, shared strengths and similarities. The book's concrete examples ( with a little dab of houmor) are delightful.

Congratulations to Ms. Kitze for carefully considering the needs of the adoption community as she publishes her 'adoption and empowerment- themed' books.

Beth O'Malley M.Ed adoptee and newly adoptive Mom ....

I find this book to be very inspiring. I wish I had A book like this when I was a child. As an adult adoptee, I feel this book touches upon the most important connections we need to make with our children. Thank you, Carrie!

This is a great "feel good" book for young children. However, it is awkward to read for a family that does not pray, as the book assumes all do. Since it is written in the first person, it is especially hard to fit the words into our lifestyle.

I recently gave this book as a shower gift for my niece who adopted a 2 1/2 year old little girl. Everyone at the shower read the entire book and just loved it! Michelle says Austina always brings this book to her during reading time. I will remember this book for future adoptive families.

This book brings to light new adoption research--that adoptive parents have just as much biological influence over their children as the biological parents. How refreshing for the secretly doubting adoptive parent who compares his/her contribution to the birth parents in the life of the child. Carrie makes it clear that by modeling exemplary character to their children, the influence is just as great. Way to go, Carrie!

I have found this book to be an excellent connecting point with our children who were adopted. The way that Kitze acknowledges physical differences and yet affirms the similarities that truly matter is reassuring for children who have concerns about not resembling their adoptive or foster parents. Multicultural illustrations add to the thoughtful writing.

Our red-haired, blue-eyed son and his similarly endowed wife are in the process of pursuing a Vietnamese adoption, so the title of this book attracted my attention immediately. I was quite disappointed in it, however, because it's entirely too specific in listing the ways in which parent and child who do not look alike are still similar. I was especially put off by the religious portion...my son and his wife are not religious, nor are we, but the book assumes that the parent adopting the child is and will pass on that tradition. The book is useless for us and will be passed on to the library sale. The other book I purchased, "The Red Blanket", is vastly superior, both in text and illustration.

As the adoptive Anglo dad of a now 5.5 yr old Chinese daughter this books title and description spoke to me... When it arrived and I read it to my daughter she was quiet... then asked for a different story. She later shared with her mom that she didn't like the story (which I could tell from her reaction while I was reading it) and she did not know how to tell me that without hurting my feelings.. So, as we all know, every human is different. My daughter did not like this book,I did. WHo did I buy it for? Well- it was for US to share, so knowing that SHE does not like it I have to rate this a "1" even though I enjoyed it. PL