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Identical Strangers: A Memoir of Twins Separated and Reunited Paperback – October 14, 2008
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About the Author
Paula Bernstein is a freelance writer whose work has been published in The New York Times, New York, The Village Voice, and Redbook, among other publications. Formerly a reporter at Variety and The Hollywood Reporter, Bernstein has also been a regular contributor to CNN. A graduate of Wellesley College, she has a master’s degree in cinema studies from New York University. Bernstein lives in Brooklyn with her husband and two daughters.
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Top Customer Reviews
Elyse and Paula were adopted by separate families completely unaware that their daughters had an identical twin being raised by another family located in the same city. The girls reunite in 2003 when they are 35 years old. The book is their joint memoir about their difficult reunion and the resulting deep bond that slowly, and at times painfully, develops between them.
Their story is highly personal, heart-felt, and deeply emotional. Plus there are mysteries at the core that compel you to find out more. Who was their mother? Why did she abandon them? Who are their biological family? Where are they?
Halfway through their investigation, the twins discover a dark side to their particular adoption. With dogged journalistic skills they uncover every lead until they finally arrive at the truth. You'll be thoroughly surprised to learn the true reasons behind their unusual adoptions...and you can't help but be proud of their perseverance. These are two extremely bright and tough women.
Identical Strangers is excellent journalism made personal.Read more ›
However, somehow I found the book strangely dry and not as much as a page turner as the situation would make it seem it would be. I can't quite put my finger on the problem---I think it has a lot to do with the fact that so much of the book deals with the twin's feelings about each other and their uncertain feelings about having their lives changed by having a twin. This would certainly be an issue, but it's not really, for me anyway, that interesting to read about. There is also much about their body image issues, which are quite similar, but again, not really page turningly interesting.
The format of the book is a back and forth telling by Paula and Elise, the twins, in turn. We get information about a happening first from one and then from the other. I think the twins are more alike than they wish to think, as often it feels like reading the same thing twice! I think for parts of the book anyway a combined telling might work better.
I don't mean to not recommend the book. I certainly do---it's really an amazing story. Maybe a tiny bit more editing would have made it even better.
Fast forward to 2002. Elyse is at loose ends, living a bohemian life in Paris and hoping to become a film director. Although she has known for years that she was adopted, she suddenly decides to apply to the New York State Adoption Information Registry for information about her birth parents. Six months later, Elyse receives a letter from Louise Wise Services stating: "You were born at 12:51 p. m. as the `younger' of twin girls...to a 28-year-old Jewish single woman." This bombshell changes Elyse's life overnight. She has a million questions: Who is her twin, what does she do, and where does she live? When and why were the sisters separated? If Elyse were to contact her twin, would they get along? How could they possibly make up for lost time?
Meanwhile, Paula Bernstein is completely unaware that Elyse had embarked on a quest to find her. She is busy with her husband and two-year-old toddler, and has just begun settling in to her new apartment in Park Slope, Brooklyn. Elyse travels to New York and contacts Katherine Boros of Louise Wise Services, who quickly locates Paula and calls her to break the electrifying news. Shortly thereafter, the two women speak on the telephone for the first time. Finding out that they are twins is both an exhilarating and disconcerting experience. Although they look alike and have many things in common, Elyse is a single woman, footloose and fancy free, while Paula is a stay-at-home mom.Read more ›
Most Recent Customer Reviews
I thoroughly enjoyed the book and feel deep regret that they were ever separated. It was interesting to me how paula felt in the beginning about being found because her life was... Read morePublished 1 month ago by Sy Green
Excellent read, well written, interesting and informative. I learnt a lot and was able to search for more info on line on some of the characters and studies referred to in the... Read morePublished 2 months ago by Amazon Customer
I am the mother of fraternal girl twins and I loved this memoir! Laughed and cried
With their poignant story. Thank you!
The married twin was so smug and self-congratulatory about her marriage and children, I had to stop reading.Published 3 months ago by Anne-Marie ROss
I found this an excellent read. The authors are articulate and descriptive. Their story is full of human emotion but not sappy: inquisitive, wonder, at times metaphysical in the... Read morePublished 3 months ago by Harvey Lutske
Really good book. If you've ever sat and pondered the Zen question "Who am I?", this book makes you look a little bit deeper into what makes up the whole concept of having... Read morePublished 3 months ago by White Crane
It was a well written book. I chose to read it because I'm an identical twin and I just couldn't fathom what these women would have missed out on growing up separated. Read morePublished 3 months ago by Kelli Hamilton