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If He is Raped: A Guidebook for Partners, Spouses, Parents and Friends

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This book is a great resource for a friend, family member, or partner of a male rape victim. Although the book is pretty short, it covers all the essential information in a very easy-to-understand way. This book could be helpful for right after the rape or fifteen years later. I have always considered myself to know pretty much everything there was to know about rape because I was raped as a child. However, when my boyfriend told me he had been raped--all of a sudden I knew nothing. This book has helped me understand what is OK about his rape to compare to mine and what is not OK to compare. This book has taught me more about rape--things that should be fundamental and basic, but sadly are not. This book has also helped me see my own rape in a very new way. The book is light on statistics and heavy on the psychological process of the male survivor, the healing process of a male survivor, and how to be a support for the male survivor. You may think, "Of course I know how to be supportive" because I was raped or because I'm a woman or because I care so much about the victim. But the fact is EVERYTHING is different for a male rape survivor. Common knowledge or good intentions do not make up for the specifics provided in this book.